The education that lights oneself, illuminates others, and loves is the future
The child has great potential, and the development of his life is towards independence.
—Educator Montessori
On December 11, Via was unusual, posting a video of her husband Haifeng tutoring her daughter to write homework on social media, which caused heated discussion among netizens.
The video of less than 1 minute is very funny and resonant. But in fact, from the fact that the daughter can seriously scare her father, the relationship between Via's daughter and her parents is really quite good, which is actually not really a collapse.
Remember Mr. Hunan Xia, who was sent to the hospital for rescue because of tutoring the child to do homework, has a history of hypertension itself, and after tutoring the child to write homework, there was a persistent headache, and then went to the hospital for examination and was diagnosed as: cerebral hemorrhage.
There is also a hot search some time ago, comedy star Yue Yunpeng has openly posted recruitment on the Internet, wanting to find someone to help his daughter do homework, and the reading volume is close to 300 million.
Therefore, it is no wonder that netizens sighed: in the matter of tutoring homework, the people of the whole country are amazingly consistent, all of them are "a chicken flying dog jumping when doing homework, and a mother and a child filial piety without homework."
But this is just the tip of the iceberg we see, but many times as a parent, when it comes to their children's homework, it can be a vicious circle.
01 The problem of the operation can be a vicious circle
Maybe sometimes parents are very busy with their own work, go home and face the child's homework, if the teacher tells you again at this time, the child did not do well this time, parents should pay attention to it, it is likely to stimulate worse consequences.
At this time, it may trigger a series of reactions:
1. The teacher pays attention to the results
First of all, the teacher only pays attention to the results, he will directly ask the parents or directly ask why the child's academic performance has dropped so much recently, which is actually shifting the focus of real learning.
2. Emotional parents
Teachers only pay attention to the results, which leads parents to pay attention to the results because of emotions.
In fact, behind the questioning of parents, although the teacher is also out of worry, but there is also a distrust side of parents, he does not believe that parents will support the child well, do not believe that the child can do this thing well or do not believe that the child will have other reasons not to do well.
Therefore, this distrust of teachers is also transmitted to parents through emotions.
3, more collapsed children
But if our parents are not aware of their emotions at this time, they will give these negative things to their children as they are.
As a result, the parents' emotions are passed on to the children, and the children will have less confidence in learning. In such a cycle, as a parent, you should do a moat to help your child cut off the cycle.
Parents should really pay attention to the child, help the child to shape, or help him find the real fun of learning, rather than just focusing on the results.
Therefore, as a parent, we can not only pay attention to the child's homework problems, but also pay attention to the child's attitude towards learning, and if you can make the child "love learning" from the attitude, it is actually more effective than simple tutoring 1 problem.
02 Help children find the joy of learning
In fact, this is just like the teacher Dada mentioned in the "Family Education Reading Club", let the child love is learning, the most important point is to let the child experience the joy of learning.
The pleasure of learning comes mainly from two aspects, the first is learning itself, which is the acquisition of new knowledge itself.
Because each of us actually has a natural curiosity about the world and what we don't know.
Some time ago, a small video made the majority of netizens call out envy and sighed, if there is such a teacher, why worry about not loving to learn.
In such a process, students will naturally be curious.
In fact, this is why children are particularly willing to play outdoors, in fact, they are exploring this process of not knowing, he can get a fresh knowledge, he can produce a sense of happiness, that is, this happiness will make him keep exploring, keep learning. So this is a natural, a joy that could have been obtained.
The second is to experience a sense of value and contribution in the process of learning, and to recognize from the heart that this thing I learned is useful.
As in the teacher's example above, the buoyancy of air is no longer simply a cold formula in the book. Even if students may not remember the formula later, they will remember the hovering airplane.
In fact, the fun of learning is more than that, I remember that in a bright "Nature Education" class, the children were grouped to find materials in nature that could blow bubbles.
At the end, although one of the children was empty-handed, he generously shared his own feelings.
Although he did not find the right materials in the whole process, the other companions in the group helped him and distributed their own materials to him, so that he could experience the strength of the group, the joy of being helped, and the value in the team.
A 9-year-old child can understand such a profound life principle through 1 activity, which will definitely benefit him for life. Because he found not only the courage of the individual to face the problem, but also the joy of contributing to others.
The famous educator Montessori once said that children have great potential and that the development of their lives is towards independence.
In fact, many times what parents need to do is to believe in the wisdom of their children.
There are no perfect parents, there are no perfect children, as parents, we must try to accept the child's imperfection, accompany him to find the joy of learning, from the heart to find the meaning of learning, this is more important things.
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