If depression comes, help yourself first

When you are depressed, do your relatives and friends around you understand, accompany, or stay away?

If, you have a person around you who accepts negative emotions indefinitely, then you are really lucky.

However, most people are often helpless to depressed relatives, friends, or partners, and do not understand, complain or even stay away.

Some netizens once shared their experience of accompanying a depressed boyfriend, and she once thought that love could overcome everything, but the effort had no effect.

After the boyfriend was depressed, he refused to communicate with anyone and felt that the whole world had abandoned him.

"He just wants to be alone in a small dark room, and no one should take care of it." I suddenly felt that I could not take him out of the abyss with all my strength, even if I fell, so I left. ”

Love is not the cure for everything. If a person falls into psychological difficulties such as depression, it is a drain on the patient himself, and it is also for his lover.

Psychological studies have shown that a mentally healthy person, after spending a long time with depressed patients, may also have some depressive emotions or depressive symptoms, which is a phenomenon of "rumination" in psychology.

When depression comes

First of all, you need to save yourself

According to the 2018 "Mental Health White Paper" survey, 73.6% of people in China are in a psychological sub-healthy state, 16.1% have psychological problems, and only 10.3% of people with mental health.

That is to say, nearly 9 out of 10 people will have psychological sub-health or various psychological problems.

The troubles of the original family, the difficulties of interpersonal difficulties, the emotional troubles, the anxieties of the academic/workplace... Like all germs, attack sideways from different directions and slowly erode your vitality factor.

As a result, a person will go from being healthy, breeding depression, and then to depression, and may even evolve to extremes and self-destruction.

In fact, when there is a problem with your mental health, the most important thing is to be self-aware and self-help.

Do you:

Long-term anxiety, often chest tightness, headaches and other symptoms, but do not know how to alleviate?

Particularly easy to get tired, often insomnia, feel that the body is hollowed out, full of trouble but do not know how to alleviate?

Emotions have been in a low state for a long time, inexplicably lack of vitality, but can not find the reason?

Often over-stressed, gastrointestinal problems will occur ... But can't find the cause?

Be alert, this is most likely your psychology in a sub-healthy state, through the body is giving you early warning.

Mental illness is not uncontrollable, and any psychological problem is not without warning, but has traces to follow.

If you blindly ignore and avoid, fate will really punish people who ignore their mental health.

Many people are willing to spend a lot of money on physical fitness examinations, but they always ignore their mental health. Before the problem gets worse, each of you and I should have a comprehensive and systematic "mental health checkup" to prevent and improve it earlier.