Self-Discipline designs your wheel of change: create, retain, be clear, accept

To understand a problem, you must acknowledge that it exists, and you must also know what choices you have in the face of it. In fact, we have a choice when it comes to changing our behavior habits.

When pursuing any change in behavioral habits, we have four options:

Creation represents the positives we want to create in the future;

Reservations represent positive factors that we want to maintain in the future;

Elimination represents the negatives that we need to eliminate in the future;

Acceptance represents a negative factor that we need to maintain in the future.

That's our choice, and it's all equally important, especially since three of them require effort, more than we think.

1. Creation: Behavior habit changes are the most fascinating

Creation is one of the most fascinating aspects of behavioral habit change, and when we imagine our behavior habits getting better, we see it as an inspiring process of self-creation.

The challenge is that we need to choose for ourselves and then act, rather than watching ourselves from the sidelines, asking ourselves, "Am I creating myself, or am I wasting opportunity and letting outside forces shape me?" ”

As long as we are content with our present life and do not expect happiness and joy that exceed our crazy expectations, we will succumb to inertia and continue along the habits of past behavior.

If we are not satisfied, we may go to the other extreme: obsessed with ideas, unable to insist on practicing any of them, and truly shaping a new self.

We always have the opportunity to create better habits of behavior: how to treat people and things, how to deal with the environment, and what to allow for our next action. All we need is a bold imagination of a whole new self.

2. Retention: Continuous improvement ≠ continuous change

Retention sounds negative and mundane, but it does also sound like an option. It requires total introspection, identifying which habits of behavior are good for us, and then being disciplined to avoid abandoning habits that exist because of some new practice that is not necessarily better.

3. Elimination: Make room for creation

Eliminate the actions that most liberate ourselves and are also the most therapeutic. But we don't want to do that, just like when we clean the attic or the warehouse, we never know that we won't regret losing something, and maybe we'll use him in the future.

We've all eliminated things that hurt us, but the real test is that we still need to eliminate some of the things we love to do.

4. Acceptance: When you lack the power to change

When we lack the power to change, acceptance is the most precious act. However, futility is the last thing we want to accept, and this is the moment that most likely triggers us to be negative.

The behavior induced by our attitude of non-acceptance is definitely worse than the combined results of our wrong acts of creation, retention, and elimination.

Design your wheel of change

Changes in behavior and habits do not happen suddenly overnight. The change of behavior is a process, and he needs vigilance and diligent self-supervision. It requires an effort to repeatedly search for things that are simple, unseemly, that we have dismissed, that we have even stepped on. This process awakens our instincts more than anything else. This instinct is to try.