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Forty without confusion, fifty knowing the Mandate of Heaven, sixty ears obedient.
Fifty-year-old people, maybe you are still in the "old and young" living situation, the financial burden is still very heavy. Especially in some families that have only two children in their forties, their parents still shoulder the burden of "raising children and raising children" when they reach the age of sixty.
However, no matter what the current state of your life is, in a flash you will reach the age of sixty and retire. After the age of fifty, life begins to decline, you can not think of yourself as a young man, to face the reality, in advance to prepare for the elderly, but also with a positive and sunny attitude to face the society.
People over fifty, whether you have money or not, please keep these four "rules" in mind to avoid the bleakness of the evening. On the road to getting old, you can't be short of money, but money is not omnipotent, the key is to get better.
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The first rule: "If you lose your health, you lose everything", and health is the greatest wealth.
The older a person is, the more precious it is to be healthy. No matter how bad you live, don't trade your life for money.
If you lose your healthy body, your parents will be anxious, your children will be helpless, and your lover will be sad. Health is responsible for oneself and one's family.
Fifty-year-old people, if you do not pay attention to health, when you retire, find that the body collapses, then the good life of retirement will be lost, and even some people, who have not yet reached the age of retirement, will "survive".
Subconsciously, everyone likes to be "strong". But smart people know how to "serve the old.".
My grandmother lived to be ninety-two. She grew up poor, ate tree roots and roots of wild vegetables, and after getting married, she and her grandfather lived in a row of rows, and there was no fixed place to live. But my grandmother's health has always been very good, and when she is old, there is no pain, and she has not spent a lot of medical expenses. She often prompts her juniors to put health first.
If you try too hard to make money, no matter how much money you make, you will lose yourself. In the years when my grandmother was in the row, each year she earned less money than others, and put two fewer rows. Therefore, her life with her grandfather is more regular.
Pay attention to health, drink less, smoke less, change bad living habits, let yourself move, and do more aerobic exercise. When my grandmother was in her forties, she forced my grandfather to quit smoking and drinking, and in some docks, they insisted on staying in a nearby hotel instead of living in a wet and cold bark house on a wooden row to reduce the damage of rheumatism.
Give up the desire in your heart, don't let the desire trap your heart, and don't do impulsive things because of desire. When his grandfather was fifty-two years old, his grandmother forced him to go ashore, no longer to make a living by letting go of rows, but to cultivate the land at home.
Because of the grandmother's decision, the grandfather made a lot less money, but they did not lose money, and their bodies were healthier than those of their peers.
The lifestyle of our grandmother is worth learning from. At any time, health comes first and money comes second.
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The second rule: "Take a step back from the sea and the sky", we must learn to retreat to advance.
Why are you always angry?
It's not that you want to be angry, it's something that stimulates your temper and makes you intolerable.
Why do you want to make a lot of money and not be satisfied no matter how much you make?
It's not that you lack food and clothing, but you like to compare yourself with others, hoping to become the richest man in a hundred miles, and also want to become the richest man in the world.
As the saying goes, "When a man fights for a breath, the Buddha receives a blazing incense." ”
To be a person, we should know how to fight, but we must stop at the right time and cannot blindly strive for it. Many things, to learn to give in, not to argue.
First, for your own position, to look down, to a certain age, to give to young people, no matter how good you are, you will also retire; if you have the conditions, you can choose to retire from the second line.
Second, for yourself to be a career, you should learn to "shift", give your own career to your children, and transfer some fixed assets to others.
Third, for the love that was once there, you have to let go, don't worry about it every day, and don't wait for the old man to find anyone. Let the feelings become simpler, simpler.
Fourth, for the material conditions of the old-age care, you must know how to "return to the truth", if you can retire in a clean place, it is best, but if there is no condition, you must be at ease with the situation, no matter in which city, you should find a good mood.
Fifth, for socializing, do subtraction and don't be confused by the socialization of eating and drinking. If you quit the social circle and have fewer friends, it is a good thing.
To retreat is to advance, in fact, life is doing subtraction, the more you live, the simpler and easier. Simplicity is happiness.
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The third rule: "Survival of the fittest, elimination of the unfit", since you can't change the environment, then take the initiative to change yourself.
A person, a good mentality, everything is good.
If a fifty-year-old person is still "grumpy" every day, you will live a very uncomfortable life, and even cause some pain because of it.
"Heart disease must also be treated by heart medicine", a person is most afraid of heart disease, and the mentality collapses.
The power of one person is limited, and you cannot change the whole world. You need to do your best to change society, but you must also take the initiative to accept reality and integrate yourself into the social environment.
Some things that are not accustomed to viewing should be viewed with a peaceful heart.
When you adapt to the environment, you will live smoothly.
Some old people, wandering with their children, live very badly in unfamiliar cities, the reason is that the old people do not find fun, and there are no friends of the same age.
Man, when you are old, be a happy old man, an old lady, and go anywhere, you are happy and popular.
There is no dark side in the heart, and every day is a sunny day.
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The fourth rule: "Far water does not quench near thirst", happiness starts from the side.
This is a humane society. No matter how you subtract and how you don't fit in, you can't be completely "alone."
The old ancestors told us: "Distant relatives are not as good as close neighbors." ”
If you want to live a good old age, you can't give up the near and far, you have to pay more attention to the people and things around you, so as to get the care of the people around you.
People interact with each other, and even if you retire, you still have to respect this rule.
You have no use value, but when you are older, you can still exert your residual heat. You give warmth to others, and you will live in a warm family.
Communicate more with relatives who are closer to you, even if they are not close enough to each other; be friends with neighbors, don't worry, help more; interact with peers in the community and find a suitable small circle; contact children more, and understand children's difficulties more; care more about pillow people and take care of each other.
As a person, you can't do the "thirst digging well" thing. You can't encounter difficulties and suddenly think of the people around you.
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