Mr. Nan Huaijin's eleven-point godson's way, praise collection!

Nan Huaijin's godson concept is in line with the traditional Chinese godson concept, which is a way to really start from being a person and an adult to cultivate children, and then talk about making meritorious achievements on this basis. This is the essence of the educational wisdom of traditional Chinese culture, which aims to let children first establish the virtue of a gentleman and then talk about the cause of their husbands.

In today's era of all eyes on modern education and Western-style education, this is extremely rare, rare, almost singing. Therefore, it is especially worthy of Chinese parents' attention and serious understanding. More importantly, according to this educational wisdom that has been proven effective by Thousands of years of Chinese history, it is necessary to establish a tall and profound foundation of personality and interest for their children.

First, educate children, first teach people

I often say that our education in the past hundred years has no direction and no purpose, what do we want to learn from the children of our country? There are also problems with the method of education, so we have to rethink.

The content of "University" is a way to touch Chinese education. What is the purpose of education? Teach to be human first. What does it start to be human? Start with mental cultivation.

Physical and mental cultivation is the foundation of being a person. No matter what profession you are, what status you have, as long as you are a person, you will take this as your basic cultivation. This is the foundation of education in China. "University" said, "From the Son of Heaven to the common man, one is based on self-cultivation."

If you want to ask the Chinese nation, what is the purpose of Chinese's education all along? Let's repeat: it's for "being human", not for "living".

Second, as long as the child is a good person and has a craft

The child should grow up on his own, do not ask too much, let him develop freely. Education is not about whether he will succeed or not in the future, but first hope that he will grow up to be a good person.

In particular, modern schools and extracurricular tutoring methods are simply a method of "exhausting and fishing", so that the mental health of children who are generally still underage is most seriously injured by excessive loads.

As the old saying goes, "A thousand acres of good land is better than a skill.". Children will be able to have self-subsistence skills in the future, such as being a carpenter or a mason, which has nothing to do with learning, status, or status. Learning is learning, and eating is eating. There used to be many people in China who had knowledge and ability, but they did not come out to be "Shi" because he had the ability to make a living.

I only instructed the children not to necessarily want to be promoted to a higher rank and get rich, they must want to do something big, they must want to study in a famous university, as long as they learn a good way to make a living, they can live a good life, they can do things in a disciplined manner for a lifetime, and they will be honest and honest. Getting rich and being an official is all a matter of passing the clouds. My education for my children is like this, everything must be self-reliant and developed, which is what the ancients said about "people are expensive and self-reliant".

Third, wangzi jackie chan and wangnu chengfeng are harmful children

I think that most of the education in ancient and modern China and abroad has made a mistake, and parents often subconsciously pin their wishes on their children that they can't do in their lives, but they forget the sexual orientation and essence of their children.

Parents should think about how to properly cultivate and counsel their children so that they can become adults. If we just blindly ask for reading, exams, and self-motivation, and hope to get ahead, it is a great wrong concept. Loving children like this will only harm them.

The purpose of educational culture, the greatness of educational culture, is to change man's defects and replenish his regrets.

Fourth, first of all, we must know the child's disposition

Education, first of all, to know the child's sexual orientation, first understand the direction of a child's temperament. ...... Education is only an increase in the upper edge, and the teacher tries to help him, cultivate him, and make him stand up on his own endowment, which is the purpose of education.

It is a pity that the basic purpose of cultural education, as modern people understand it, is only to "make a living." We want our children to study, study and be educated, just for the sake of their future prospects, to have a good career, to have a high salary, or to be able to make a lot of money and live a good "life".

Moreover, some people still pin their hopes on children for their frustrations in life, or things they can't do in their lives, and desperately force him to go to school and study. Completely disregarding the children's "sexual orientation" personality and interests, nor understanding the children's brain power and health, blindly forcing children to read and learn, not knowing that "love is harmful", therefore, (resulting) hinders the consequences of the child's life.

I will tell you simply and clearly that "the University" says that "man does not know the evil of his son, and he does not know the fruit of his seedlings", and parents have a preference for their children, so they only see his advantages, but do not know his shortcomings. As parents, we should pay attention to these two admonitions of the ancient sages. But the ancients had another side of the saying, called "Zhizi Moruo Father", pointing out that the important point of education is that parents need to understand the endowment of their children, because teachers and others may not really understand each student in its entirety. At present, parents only care too much about their children's education, but they do not pay deep attention to their children's endowment.

Fifth, let the child start by doing small things well

Children start to read is one thing, but according to traditional Chinese culture, the real children's pedagogy is "sprinkling and responding", children enter primary school between the ages of six and eight, how to sweep the floor, wipe the table, how to talk to teachers, adults, friends polite attitude, rules, this is the most important. In ancient times, when I entered primary school and began to learn "sprinkling and sweeping", it was the basis for learning to be a person, and the purpose of education was to be a person.

You don't look at sweeping the floor, wiping the table, serving the bowl is nothing remarkable, these are all kinds of life education, life education will be, and it will naturally be done when you grow up. The basic education is not well learned, and it is called learning knowledge and learning knowledge, but there is no basis for being a human being, and this education is a failure.

But now people are the opposite of the ancients, now children enter kindergartens, primary schools and even university education, all they learn is knowledge, and they do not understand the fundamental principles of being a person and handling things, so society is in chaos.

Sixth, do not spoil, let the child stand up on his own

Children in ancient times were like this, parents cultivated their children with their hearts, and endured sending twelve- and thirteen-year-old children out as apprentices, and never spoiled their children as our parents do now. ...... A child wants to be self-reliant, as long as he hopes that he has a mouthful of food to eat, not to do bad things, and to come out and do what business is his skill and destiny.

I was also eighteen or nineteen years old, I was not a great man, you see those great people all stood up on their own, there is no education, they are all self-taught. I tell you again, don't just hope that the son will become a dragon and the woman will become a phoenix. Now when it comes to the education of love, there is a saying in the ancient Chinese text, "Enli is harmful", the love of parents for their children is kindness, but "Enli is harmful", loving children too much, in turn, it is harmful that he cannot stand on his own and cannot stand up.

For example, it is very painful for parents to educate their children and scold their children, but when he grows up, he will know how useful your beating and your scolding are to him. Tempering people's education with pain, although he hated it to death at that time, after that, he would think more and more rightly, that is, "harm and grace". Now that you are educating your children to use Westernized educational methods, I absolutely disapprove of them, and everywhere you will harm young people with your children. Therefore, now young people have few useful things, they are all raised in the greenhouse, "born in the deep palace, grown up in the hands of women and women", after all, it is difficult to have great use.

Seventh, education should begin with prenatal education

Traditionally, China's education begins with prenatal education, from the beginning of pregnancy, there are regulations, husband and wife separate rooms, and then the paintings hanging at home, the things used must be changed, the fetus will know. After birth, the important thing is tutoring, not school.

It has long been recorded in the Book of Rites that according to the ancient Chinese principle, as soon as a woman is pregnant, her habits will change, and the books she read are different. In fact, the fetus is three months in the womb, already knows, five or six months later, parents quarrel and other behaviors, good things, bad things, he clearly knows, this is intellectual, consciousness has grown, but he was born to forget, but the impact is very deeply stained.

Therefore, Chinese cultural education starts from prenatal education, and the opinions of the two parents, all words and behaviors, constantly affect the children, and this influence is education.

The education of mothers is particularly important

The chinese culture has been able to maintain for three thousand years, which is largely dependent on women, which is very important. Only when a family has a good housewife and a good mother can we talk about the way of the family. ...... China has had good housewives throughout the ages, so when it comes to Chinese education, the way of the Qi family, the mother's education is the most important, and it is very important to have a good woman. ...... Modern women's education is very popular, but it is difficult for women to be good wives and mothers, and it will be even more difficult in the future.

In China's Confucian ideal of more than two thousand years, the "Qi family" can only be seen in the simple and unpretentious rural families of the past, and the situation of "full eyes full of children and grandchildren, and noon chicken crying during the fragrant season". However, such a solid family must have a virtuous and family-oriented old grandmother or housewife, and as the real behind-the-scenes host, it is not necessarily the result of the man or grandfather who is in charge of the family.

Mother education is the great cause of cultural education in the world. As big as the country and the nation, as small as a child, without the educational foundation of the fine tradition of a good wife and a good mother, then everything will be free!

The hardest thing about being a woman is to be a good wife and mother. Now after women are educated, they go out to do things, children will not bring, meals will not be cooked, dishes will not be cooked, clothes will not be sewn, and the house management is not good. For example, having a child, a first-class family, is subject to a last-class tutor, leaving the child to the servants to bring, and then sending the child to the school, and the responsibility is pushed to the school; If the law is broken, it is also said that this is a social problem.

We have a classmate, she said that she wants to run a women's university, this should pay more attention to the "Inner Rules" in the "Book of Rites", and "Biography of the Daughters", which is our traditional education about women, including the education of children.

Nine, be sure to let the child memorize the classics

In recent years, I have advocated that young children should read and endorse books. The current educational evolution is very interesting, the books read in primary school are not much use in middle school; Middle school books are not much used in college; College books, study abroad is not much use, do not know what to read. People say I have knowledge, I laugh, in fact, all my life is out there, it is what I did before the age of thirteen.

The average person does not understand that this is the basic method of education that Chinese has lost, and it can be said that Westerners have forgotten it. The most primitive method of human education, there is only one, that is, recitation. Especially when reading Chinese books, it is even more necessary to recite them aloud. What's the point of reciting aloud?

This has a lot of meaning, read aloud a lot, and naturally understands the phonology of words and words. In other words, he also understands the study of pinyin between words and language. Regardless of Chinese or foreign languages, recite aloud, slowly understand, and when you grow up, after you understand phonology, the future learning will be extensive, if you learn foreign languages, regardless of English, French, german, all will understand the spelling of phonology, once you learn.

Whether it is the Four Books and Five Classics, or ancient books, any paragraph, like singing, is easily and happily recited, with a little explanation. After carrying it like this, it will be useful for a lifetime, and it will not be forgotten for a lifetime. Not only Chinese culture must be memorized, but also foreign languages.

Endorsement is not single-minded, stable can not be carried up. It is not painful for a child to carry something, it is very happy. Because of the single-minded singing and endorsement, the brain is more stable. Thoughts and actions must change. This is to talk about the problem of brain waves, which is to make the brain nerves concentrate on thinking, concentrate on thinking, and settle down, so that the physiological functions of the body can change and become healthy. When the brain becomes healthier, then the thoughts and behaviors become healthier.

Endorsement has many, many benefits, and now medicine in general, especially brain medicine, has not been studied in detail. Regarding the point of brain medicine, I am not an expert, but I will probably mention that the role of memorization can increase a person's intelligence, memory, and thinking ability, so that the mind is more delicate and more refined.

Children recite ancient books, really memorize ancient texts well, after intelligent development, read the current school textbooks, understand at a glance, this benefit has come out. We see the current method of education, each child from primary school to middle school, the more the backpack is heavier and heavier, the glasses are worn thicker and thicker, do homework at night until nine or ten o'clock, take the daily exam, the annual exam, take the high school, junior high school reading things are not wanted, go to college, the front things are not wanted, this is all waste.

10. Education must be carried out step by step, and must not be too much

I often tell my friends that your child is too smart and should be careful educationally. Now many parents of families, seeing that their children are smart, are very happy and desperately try to cultivate them. In fact, educating children is the same as planting a good flower, a good flower seedling, if the fertilizer is used too much, watering too diligently, but it will harm this good flower seedling.

Don't break the child, "the hour is over, the big is not necessarily better", when the child is smart, overuse, may soon have problems, and grow up is not necessarily smart, this is a certain truth.

If the child is self-centered, that's bad. Therefore, we must also understand the problem of education, children are smart and capable, homework is good, pay attention! Not necessarily good. Especially if teachers and parents are spoiled, the future is ruined. You see the characters in history, the failed heroes are very smart, wen's martial arts are good, because they are too smart, the encounters are too good, they are spoiled, and they all turn into failed heroes.

11. Respect children's hobbies, support and cultivate

We Chinese used to study, and it is true that most of us still maintain a traditional style. This traditional style of work is similar to the latest education in modern universities, or the latest primary education in the West, the so-called emphasis on "sexual education", that is, according to the trend of personality, according to the trend of personality, according to the personal hobbies, to cultivate education, do not have to force.

A person who likes engineering and insists that he study literature cannot do it. There are many children who like to play with broken watches and toys since childhood, and parents must punish him for not destroying things. In the eyes of the educator, this child is a mechanical genius, and he should be trained in this regard.

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