Author: Insight Su Mo
What makes a person personal is vision and humility.
Some students went to consult Mr. Nan Huaijin, a master of traditional Chinese studies: What kind of people do you think are most likely to succeed?
Nan Huaijin replied after deep thought: A person who does not play with his own wisdom, does not play tricks, does not use crooked brains, and is sincere and honest.
Smart people who seem to take advantage of each other are actually short-sighted and will not go far in the end.
Sincere and honest people, it seems to suffer losses, but in fact, the road is getting wider and wider, and it can eventually become a success.
As Zuo Zongtang said: Being a person, shrewd is not as good as being generous.
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The more calculated, the narrower the road.
There is such a story.
A young man, hearing that there was a lot of gold on the other side of the river, took a long detour and finally found a bridge that could lead there.
Just as he crossed the bridge and sped toward the place where there was gold, he suddenly turned his head and rushed back.
It turned out that he was afraid that others would find the bridge, so he turned back and demolished the bridge.
Eventually the young man found a great deal of gold, but when he excitedly rushed back to the river, he found that it was an isolated island, and that bridge was the only way to the outside world...
In our lives, there are not such people who think that they have taken advantage of everything and calculated all the organs, but in the end, just like the end of this story, a void.
The human heart is a road, and the more calculated, the narrower the road becomes, and eventually it breaks its own back road.
If you are generous, the wider the road, and the ultimate benefit is yourself.
After reading a report, the reporter interviewed a farmer:
"Your family's corn harvest is the best every year, is there any secret?"
He replied, "Share the best corn seeds with your neighbors." ”
The crowd was stunned.
He smiled and said, "Only the seeds around you are good corn seeds, and when it comes to pollination, you can get the best!" ”
"The New Language of the World" has a saying, small victory depends on wisdom, and great victory depends on virtue.
Only by treating people with sincerity will we reap the true heart; only by doing things kindly can we reap the long-term.
Being honest and honest with others is a kind of great wisdom.
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The more calculating, the more tired the heart becomes.
The ancients are cloudy, the gentlemen are frank, and the villains are long-standing.
To be bright in the heart is to live calmly; to work in the heart every day, it is bound to live too tired.
Some time ago, the encounter of Brother Cao in the unit was extremely regrettable.
Brother Cao, a person with ability and ideas, if he put his mind on his own business, the promotion of the title would have been a matter of course.
However, he always deliberately takes shortcuts, and when he has merit, he is the first to stand up and grab, and if he has, he pushes on others.
Usually, he is not calculating others, or he is worried about being calculated, speculating all day long, and often a casual sentence from others has become another deep meaning in him.
Recently to evaluate the title, his mind is getting heavier, always want to make a trip to others, and afraid that he will be calculated, the result is that he suddenly fell ill with high blood pressure the day before the title, missing his last title before retirement.
After a lifetime of drilling, it was a void, and finally it was a disease, which was regrettable.
The famous American psychologist, William, once said:
People who are too smart and too calculating are actually very unfortunate people, even sick and short-lived.
This is also his personal experience.
William, before the age of 32, was "smart".
He knew which sock shop in Washington had the cheapest socks, even if it was only a few cents cheaper than others;
He knows which fast food restaurant gives customers an extra napkin than others within a radius of tens of miles;
Which bus is 5 cents cheaper than which bus ticket, when to go to the cinema door ticket is the lowest, etc., he has a number in mind.
But he often fell ill, often traveling to various hospitals, but he could not find the cause.
Until one time, he participated in an experiment that showed:
People who are too calculating, more than 90% often suffer from mental illness, and these people's heart rate is generally faster, sleep is not good, there is insomnia, the digestive system is not smooth, the qi and blood are not adjusted, the immunity is reduced...
He found that this was very similar to his symptoms, which led to the crux of the problem.
Calculation is an extremely internal friction behavior.
A calculating person, on the surface, seems to take advantage, but in fact he has lost the more precious thing in life- physical and mental peace.
Zhou Guoping said: "In the colorful modern life, let us remember this ancient truth, and live a simple life to live freely. ”
Calculation is the shackles of the mind, and simplicity is the source of happiness.
Being simple is the greatest shrewdness.
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To count others is to count yourself.
I've seen a fable story before: there are two shops in Beijing, a laundromat, and a pottery shop.
Seeing that the business of the laundromat opposite was booming, and the potter's heart was becoming more and more unbalanced, he became evil.
He approached the emperor and said, "The washer has a unique skill, which can wash black elephants into white elephants. ”
The white elephant was a symbol of good fortune and could bring good luck to the country, and he immediately ordered the washer to wash the black elephant into a white elephant.
The washer who received the order was miserable every day and had no intention of doing business, and the potter was looking in his eyes and happy in his heart.
Later, the washer's wife understood the reason and gave him an idea.
The next day, the potter received an order: "Please make a clay pot that can hold the elephant within three days for washing." ”
The potter was dumbfounded.
All the calculations and means turned out to be the bureaus they set for themselves.
The way of heaven is constant, and good and evil are rewarded, not that the time has not yet come.
Your calculations of others will eventually return to you.
The famous investor Charlie Munger once said:
"Even if you have the best calculation mind, but you can never overcome the entanglement of desire, then you are doomed to crush to pieces." 」
If you design a friend, you will turn your friend away and eventually become alone;
If you calculate your partner, you will lose your integrity and your business will eventually become empty.
From the moment you count others, it is the time to go downhill.
The most impressive thing about Dickens's David Copperfield is that the same two poor people have very different endings.
One is the sinister and treacherous Uriah, who is inferior to his poverty and low status, covets and hates the wealth of others, so he always disguises himself in front of people, calculates his boss behind his back, and plots to encroach on his property at every turn, but in the end the plan fails, the people rebel, and almost send themselves to prison.
The other is the equally poor Mr. Micawber, although he lives a difficult life and bears a huge foreign debt, he is still kind and optimistic, noble and simple, has his own style and principles, and finally won the concerted help of everyone to solve the debt crisis.
People who think they are smart often do not have a good ending, and the smartest people in the world are honest people.
Virtue is detrimental, and it will ultimately harm others and harm oneself.
Be loyal to others, and be kind and rewarded.
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The ancients clouded, and the gentleman carried things with thick virtue. Houde Fang has Houfu.
What determines a person's ultimate achievement is not the gain or loss of a little bit, but a person's foresight and humility.
Give it a thumbs up, do less calculations in the future, be more honest, and accumulate good luck.