In an interview, boxing king Zou Shiming said that he is now most afraid of making video calls with his son. He once took his son to the show "Where Daddy Goes", and now more than 6 years have passed. Because of his busy work, he can rarely accompany his children, and can only make video calls to his family, and many times, his videos are sent over, and the children are already trapped on the sofa and fall asleep.
This is also the heartache of many families, most fathers are very busy and do not have much time to accompany their children. For babies, their father's phone calls and videos can make them feel warm.
In today's families, most of the people who accompany their children are mothers, and some are grandparents. Widowhood parenting is a phenomenon that occurs in many families, mothers carry babies alone, and most of the children can only be seen in daily life.
Many fathers are seriously absent from the growth of their children, and if the baby lacks the company of the father, there will be many defects.
Babies aged 0-6 need the company and care of their parents the most. A child's good sense of security comes from the companionship and love of parents and mothers. If at this stage, the father can actively participate in parenting, not only can close the parent-child relationship with the children, but also establish a good family atmosphere.
When children grow up in this warm environment, they will have a full sense of security in their hearts and will have a stronger confidence to face the wind and rain of the future.
If the father is absent from the child's growth, the baby's heart will be very empty, and no matter how much maternal love there is, it will not make up for the lack of father's love, which will make the child feel insecure. In the days to come, they will panic and suffer from gains and losses, so that their ability to perceive happiness in adulthood is reduced, and their lives are very hard.
Behind a rebellious child, there must be parents who are absent from the growth of the baby. Children who lack parental discipline from an early age are particularly rebellious during adolescence. Especially in families where the father is seriously absent, because the child is full of dissatisfaction with the father from an early age. When it comes to adolescence, it will confront its parents through rebellion to vent its grievances and dissatisfaction.
There is a classmate whose father works in the field all year round, and even if he comes home occasionally, he plays games with his mobile phone. He does not pay attention to his family and children at all, and does not pay attention to the learning and life of the baby. It is also a luxury for children to want to be close to their father. This classmate was full of hatred for his father, and in adolescence, often with the youth of society, the more disciplined the father, the more rebellious the child became, and the family conflict rose sharply.
In the process of growing up, whether it is a father or a mother, the absence of anyone will make the baby have some defects in her personality. The father is absent from the daughter's growth process, and the girl's lack of gender identity will affect her later emotional development and mate selection.
When the boy grows up, the father is absent from the growth. The son will slowly reject the father, the feelings and attachment to the mother are getting stronger and stronger, and the strong Oedipus complex is likely to become a mother and man, which will also have a bad impact on the future mate selection and marriage.
A Yale University study showed that babies who grew up under the care and attention of their fathers had higher IQs and were more likely to succeed in the future when they went to society. Children not only like novel toys, but also need the company of their fathers.
When I was young, my father often had to travel for business because of work, and my brother and I would cry and chase after my father for a long distance. Later, my father carefully prepared a map and marker for the two of us, pointed to the map to tell me and my brother where he was going, and then marked it in that city.
Everywhere we went, Dad would call us. When it was convenient, I also sent a postcard back, which was full of love and thoughts. My brother and I stopped crying, and the fear of separation from my father slowly turned into anticipation and good yearning.
First: high-quality companionship
Fathers are very busy at work, it is impossible to be like mothers, all day long with the child, then the father must give the child full of high-quality companionship. For example, every night after work, accompany your children to read and play games, and on weekends, you must also accompany your children to outings or libraries. Take the initiative to participate in the process of parenting. Grasp the time, communicate with the baby attentively, and accompany the child wholeheartedly, which will make the child happier.
Second: Respect and understand Bao Ma
Dad loves mom and loves children and is the happiest thing in a family. Fathers should understand and respect their mothers, men are tired of working to earn money to support their families, and the same mothers are very hard with their children. The family of husband and wife has a warm atmosphere, and this harmonious growth environment is the best education for children. Dad loves his wife and children with all his heart. Don't be a bystander on the road of your child's growth, no matter how busy you are, don't be absent from your child's growth.
epilogue:
The companionship of the father and the companionship of the mother are not the same, the father let the child's growth path is full of novelty and exploration, and the fathers take more time to grow up with the baby.
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