Ms. Zhang is in her 30s and asked me a question today. The child asked: Why did The father and mother give birth to me, and how should I answer? During the conversation, Ms. Zhang explained her origins and the situation she was currently encountering.
Ms. Zhang did not remarry after divorce, and lived alone with her children in a small county town, and her daughter is 10 years old and attends the 5th grade of primary school in the county.
Ms. Zhang also has to take care of her children while going to work, but she can imagine that life is not easy. Ms. Zhang carefully takes care of her children, and it is inevitable that she will not be so satisfied with her life at work, but the good thing is that the children are still more obedient, and many things are very independent, which is a lot of worry in Ms. Zhang's view.
The reason why I came to ask for help this time was from a tour organized by the school.
The school organized a tour and asked not to be accompanied by her parents, which made Ms. Zhang's original worries finally let go. However, the parents of a good classmate who played with her made a lot of delicious food, and sent it to the tourist location at noon, and distributed the prepared food to the classmates.
After work that day, I saw her sitting alone at her desk crying for a long time, and at first I thought I was being bullied, and asked her if she would say anything. Then I called the teacher, and the teacher said that nothing had happened during the trip, but that a parent had brought food, and then I knew where the problem was.
I could only say that I didn't know, and after comforting the child that he didn't cry, I went to cook for the child. During the meal, the child watched TV and said casually, "Why did you and your father give birth to me?"
At that time, I was very worried, I didn't know how to answer the child, and I didn't even know how to open my mouth.
Author comments
In fact, in reality, there are many such questions, all of which come from children's questions! Especially children of single-parent families. How should we answer our children?
Some are children who are simply curious, and some are asking with emotions. In any case, you should first think about what aspects you are deficient in, and first show that your parents love her/him very much.
Mom and Dad chose you at the right time. There is a lot of good in life, because I feel happy, I feel that the world is good from the heart, so I want a child to experience this beauty and happiness. Even if life is not perfect, it will come more and more, so we are a family.