"Self-Combing" is a documentary filmed by Luo Yi, which is only 27 minutes long, but it truly tells the history and emotional reality of "self-combing women".
So, what is a "self-combing woman"?
Self-combing women refer to women who comb their hairs in ancient times to show that they will not marry for life, which is the way for ancient Chinese women to rebel against feudal marriage customs.
Luo Yi aimed the camera for the first time at three eighty- and ninety-year-old women, all of whom were "self-combing women", to be precise, they were the earliest feminists.
At present, women's independence and dignity are not as good as self-combing women, in front of self-combing women, should we reflect on them?
[1] Live your life the way you like
In the documentary "Self-Combing", when they are asked what others think.
The 90-year-old liangu directly shrugged back, "Whatever you do, you have your life, I have my life." ”
Indeed, everyone's way of life is different, some people are suitable for getting married early and having children, and some people are suitable for living alone and working hard.
There is no need to give up a lifestyle that suits you in order to cater to others.
The recent hit drama "Breakout" ushered in the finale, the play Ofi Hongxing is the general manager of Zhongfu Group, as a woman can sit in this position, IQ and emotional intelligence must be both online.
However, Shi Hongxing blindly worshipped chairman Lin Manjiang and obeyed him, as long as Lin Manjiang asked her to sign, she did not even look at it and directly signed her "big name".
In the end, Shi Hongxing became Lin Manjiang's white glove for corruption and bribery, And Shi Hongxing did not take a penny, but the responsibility was all hers.
Shi Hongxing, with a mouth that could not be said clearly, finally ended up jumping into the river to commit suicide.
Shi Hongxing is the general manager of Zhongfu Group, the husband Niu Junjie is the general manager of Zhongfu Energy, and his daughter Niu Shiyan is the director of Jingzhou Times, which should have been a happy family of three, but did not expect to end up like this.
So, women, always maintain their independence and sanity.
Women cannot be attached to men, otherwise it will lead to tragedy.
Whether it is in life or at work, women must have their own independent judgment and not become an appendage to anyone.
[2] One person can also be wonderful
In the documentary "Self-Combing", when they are asked why they did not get married.
The 86-year-old Fengu said, "I am happy and free," and the 90-year-old Yigu said, "When you get married, you still have to bring children and work, so hard, it is better not to get married." ”
These lovely old women, their life trajectory, is not to be a housewife to serve men, children and in-laws, but to choose to work in the factory, do not rely on men, lifelong independence, be their own queen.
Yesterday at 1 a.m., my girlfriend called me and asked me to accompany him to Anchu.
In the middle of the night, I thought there was something urgent, and when I asked, I learned that my girlfriend's boyfriend was driving my girlfriend's newly purchased car out to play with my friends.
Girlfriends are worried about boyfriends drinking and driving, even looking for cars at night, of course, but also looking for people.
I accompanied my girlfriend to take a taxi from Gaomi to Anqiu, and along the way, my girlfriend couldn't get through to her boyfriend's phone, so anxious that my girlfriend wanted to cry.
Almost to Anqiu, the girlfriend finally got through the phone, but before she could speak, there was a voice asking for money: "Hurry up and transfer 100 yuan to me, I have no money to buy cigarettes..."
Watching his girlfriend obediently transfer money to him, I wanted to say something, but I still didn't say it.
It was almost time for Anqiu, and his girlfriend called his boyfriend to ask for the exact location, and her boyfriend told her that they were gone and went to Zhucheng.
Then, the girlfriend asked the driver to turn around and go to Zhucheng, and halfway to the road, her boyfriend told her that she did not go to Zhucheng, but to Yantai.
The girlfriend asked the driver to turn around and go to Yantai, but on the way to Yantai, her boyfriend's mobile phone was directly turned off...
The girlfriend collapsed and cried, and in desperation, she had to turn around and return to Gaomi.
After a night of tossing, not only did not have half a harvest, but also 300 yuan of car fare money, and 100 yuan to buy cigarette money.
When I got home, I carefully asked my girlfriend if she had ever thought about breaking up.
The girlfriend said exhaustedly, "I want to, too, but I can't do without him." ”
What exactly does love bring to women?
If this relationship can't make me happy, then I'd rather not, this is the independence and dignity that women should have.
Women do not have to rely on men to live, to be an appendage of men, only to lose themselves.
Life is your own, and a person can live a wonderful life.
[3] We still have to marry ourselves after all
In the documentary "Self-Combing", when they are asked what men are worth marrying.
The 90-year-old aunt said: "No... No man is worth marrying, marry yourself. ”
We all hope that we can have the privilege of finding a good person in three lifetimes, and if it backfires, we will not lose our independent posture and sober self.
What a woman is most proud of is not marrying a man who will never leave at any time, but having the ability to live a good life as a person.
In the novel "Jane Eyre", Jane Eyre's parents died at an early age, and she was fostered in her aunt's house, where she was abused and later sent to an orphanage by her aunt.
The environment of the orphanage was very harsh, but Jane Eyre survived tenaciously, persevered until graduation, and successfully applied for a tutor.
After a long period of contact, Jane Eyre found that the male protagonist Rochester was upright and resolute, and gradually developed feelings for him.
When they were having their wedding at church, Jane Eyre was painfully aware that Rochester's wife was still alive and just crazy.
Jane Eyre chose to leave.
Later, Jane Eyre returns to her hometown and learns that Rochester's mad wife has set fire to death, and Rochester has smashed one eye out to save his mad wife, and the other eye is also invisible due to inflammation.
Jane Eyre did not dislike Rochester's current situation, but returned to his arms and re-accepted the man.
As Jane Eyre said: I am poor, humble, and not beautiful, but when our souls come through the grave to God, we are all equal.
Only by not relying on anyone can a woman let herself settle down, and her heart is light but full of strength.
Marriage is not as simple as a woman marrying a man, but women are finally married to themselves.
Truly independent women will choose to be self-fulfilling.
[4] Write at the end
Hong Kong actor Zheng Peipei, now in his 70s, is still filming, divorced from her ex-husband for more than 30 years, has been single, and has not yet married.
May mention Zheng Peipei's name alone, the public may not be familiar with it, but after watching Zhou Xingchi's "Tang Bohu Dian Qiu Xiang", I must be impressed by Mrs. Hua inside, and Mrs. Hua's actor is Zheng Peipei.
Of course, Zheng Peipei's reputation is not only this, she is also a classic martial arts actress in Hong Kong's early days, and her star path is bright.
However, when she became popular, she chose to marry a wealthy Taiwanese businessman.
After marriage, she pushed away all her work and devoted herself to being a housewife, making dishes and soups every day before her husband came home, and as soon as he entered the door, he could eat fragrant and hot meals.
Because her husband is a three-generation single-handed, the pressure on her to have a son is particularly high.
In 17 years, she was pregnant 8 times, gave birth 4 times, and in order to give birth, she was stabbed 3 times and had two difficult births, one of which was an ectopic pregnancy.
After giving birth to 3 daughters in a row, it was not until the age of 40 that he finally realized his dream of having a son.
In this marriage, she became a tool for her husband to pass on the generations and have children.
In the face of this torturous marriage, Zheng Peipei chose to divorce.
Zheng Peipei, who came out of the house alone with 4 children, began to work desperately, filming, taking variety shows, and getting busy every day.
Without the man, she took her 4 children with her, and her life was still very happy.
Women who are spiritually independent, they never rely on men to achieve themselves, but through themselves to shape a new self.
Alone, they can also take care of their families, take care of their children, and take care of themselves.
No matter how difficult life is, they will be free to choose their own way of life, and at the same time they will allow themselves to live a decent life.
Women at any time, do not underestimate themselves, as long as your heart is strong enough, even if no one to rely on, you will smoothly through the ups and downs, become your own "queen".
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Author's introduction: Lin Xiaoxiao, write other people's stories well, live your own life.