Introduction: Married or single, different people have different choices, but no matter what kind of life they choose, they will regret it, after all, they have not experienced another life, somewhat regrettable, but where there are perfect things in the world, only better than the current day, let yourself have less regrets.
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Life will face many choices, about academic choices: whether to continue further education, or graduate and work. About the choice of marriage: to be single for the rest of your life, or to get married and have children.
For marriage, the vast majority of people will choose to get married and have children, but there is no shortage of individuals who choose to be single. It is understood that the single population in China has reached 200 million. The number of single people is huge.
But whether we choose to be single or married, we will regret it.
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I would like to first tell the story of an old man who has been married for many years, this old man's name is Yang Fengzhen.
Forty-five years ago, Yang Fengzhen, who was twenty-two years old at the time, was introduced by people and met a young and handsome young man.
Both are in their early twenties, the most beautiful years, full of expectations for life and a vision of love. After the love affair, the two officially entered the marriage, had a son after marriage, and the family of three lived a dull life.
Chai rice oil salt sauce vinegar, life fireworks, soon broke Yang Fengzhen's fantasy of a prince and princess-like life. Going to work every day is work, going around the children after work, there is no wind and snow when you are in love, only and farts.
When the children grow up, the husband and wife are old, there is no passion of youth, only companionship, watching TV, eating and eating, and the day has passed like this.
When the children got married and started a family, Yang Fengzhen went to the city where her son worked and lived in order to take care of her little grandson, separated from her old partner and children, and began a life of and.
Yang Fengzhen thought more than once, if she had not been married, would her life be completely different?
I work hard when I go to work, read books after work, go shopping with friends, and have a lot of fun.
You can do what you want to do, go where you want to go, you don't need to be entangled with your husband, children, and grandchildren all your life, you can't get out of your body, you feel that you have been living for others all your life, and this life is in vain.
The more Yang Fengzhen thought about it, the more she regretted it, especially when she quarreled with her family, she was eager to go back in time and let herself be free.
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After watching Yang Fengzhen's life, we look at another old man, who has been single all her life.
Chen Jun is a "self-combing woman", the so-called self-combing woman, that is, the ancient women will coil their hair, just like the married women, used to express their determination to end up alone and never marry.
When Chen Jun was eighteen years old, she became a "self-combing woman", and she did not want to spend her life around her husband and children like other women, she wanted to live for herself.
Chen Jun, who is not married, is of course free, and when she is not working, she grows vegetables by the river, and there are a few ducks in captivity by the vegetable garden. There are no husband and wife talking, no children quarreling, one has a very clean, but clean at the same time, very cold.
Most of her peers are married, have their own families, are busy with children, take care of housework, no longer have time to visit her, and childhood friends are slowly no longer in touch.
During the New Year's Festival, other people's homes are lively and lively, and only I am cold and lonely.
The couplet in front of the door, the debris of the cannon on the ground, supported her loneliness, and sometimes she wanted to say a word, but she didn't know who to tell.
The older he got, the more Chen Jun felt regretful, if he had been married, would it be time for his children and grandchildren to go around their knees and enjoy the joy of heaven?
What scared Chen Jun the most was that if he got sick one day and couldn't move while lying on the ground, what should he do? There wasn't even a person who brought tea and poured water.
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The above two old people have their own troubles and unwillingness.
It can only be said that if you enjoy the corresponding benefits, you will inevitably pay the corresponding sacrifices.
People who marry must be responsible for the family, and many times they need to sacrifice their personal time and space, pay money and labor.
After marriage, the stress increases dramatically, adding a lot of invisible expenses to a survival, and often before you know it, the money is gone.
Maybe you have nothing before you get married, but you become heavily indebted after you get married.
But marriage also has many advantages, from then on there is one more person on the pillow, laughing with you, crying with you, someone pouring water for you when you are sick, and someone to accompany you when you are unhappy.
There will also be a child, although it often makes you angry, but it also makes you smile inadvertently. You grew up with him, and he grew old with you.
A lifetime is very noisy, but it is also very lively; a lifetime is very tired, but you have found a reason to fight; a lifetime is very unfree, but let the heart that has nowhere to rest has a home.
Some things, only when they are married, find that they can do it.
When I was a girl, I found that a mouse could be scared to jump on the table and dare not come down; after getting married, she dared to chase a big man all over the house and "beat".
When you are a girl, you can't carry your shoulders and your hands; after you get married, you can hold your baby in one hand, carry vegetables in the other, and carry luggage.
When I was a girl, I felt tired when I lined up to sign up; after I got married, I lined up in a line all night to get a degree for my children, and I didn't feel tired at all.
After marriage, you can experience a different life, be a husband/wife, be a father/mother, and have since become a pillar of the family.
Life is tiring, and wonderful.
Single people can have enough personal space and time to do what they want to do and enjoy life.
All your energy and money can be spent on yourself, studying, studying, traveling. Life is short, shouldn't you live for yourself once?
Treading through thousands of mountains and rivers, do not have to worry about the expenses of the family and the life and study of the children, a person is full, the whole family is not hungry, and the place where they settle down is home.
Single people, no family disputes, no mother-in-law contradictions, no children's crying, no need to be sandwiched between the wife and the mother, and brothers how much beer to drink, how long to soak in the bar will not be interfered with, and girlfriends want to go, want to buy anything do not need to worry.
Single people are really free, not stressful, and life is smart.
But they also have their own troubles, a person is having a lot of fun, but at the same time lonely, friends can not always be around, especially after they have a family, they have returned to their home, become very little contact.
According to the Internet, loneliness can be divided into ten levels: the first level: a person goes to the supermarket; the second level: a person goes to a fast food restaurant; the third level: a person goes to a coffee shop; the fourth level: a person goes to the movie; the fifth level: a person eats hot pot; the sixth level: a person goes to KTV; the seventh level: a person goes to the sea; the eighth level: a person goes to the amusement park; the ninth level: a person moves; the tenth level: a person goes to the operation.
These ten levels are all that single people must go through one by one.
Some time ago, it was revealed that a deceased person turned into white bones and was found. This makes many single people feel sad.
A netizen's message impressed me, he said: "It is not terrible to be found into white bones, the most terrible thing is that the body is swollen and pusy, and when the whole body crawls with maggots, it is found, and it is disgusting to others." ”
Leaving so unseemly, how many people do not want to happen, is also a problem that single people will face, living alone, there is an accident, who will know?
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If you ask me whether it is better to get married and have children, or whether it is better to be single for a lifetime, I can't give a conclusion. After all, marriage and singleness, each has its own good, but also have its own bad, no matter which way you choose, you will eventually regret it, after all, what you can't get is the best, and the life you haven't experienced is the most desirable.
However, everyone's life is only once, instead of regretting day after day, living like a year of trouble, it is better to live the life in front of you and manage your current self well, after all, the things that make you regret can be one less.
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Topic Discussion: Careful analysis, do you think it is better to get married, or to be single for a lifetime? Welcome to leave a message to discuss.