Now we advocate equality for all, precisely because there are too many bad things that have happened in the case of inequality among everyone, just like the idea of male superiority and female inferiority has always been deeply rooted in the hearts of the people, and it is natural to feel that women cannot become big things, and they should stay at home and teach their husbands and children.
These conformist ideas have bound Chinese women for thousands of years, but where there is oppression, there is resistance, in order to prove that women are not worse than men, many women have made efforts, just like Wu Zetian, the only female emperor in our country, under the feudal forces, they have embarked on the road to glory by themselves. At the end of the Qing Dynasty and the beginning of the People's Republic, after a large number of advanced ideas poured in, the women of our country slowly came out of this kind of feudal etiquette, and the most representative should be this batch of "self-combing women".
We all know that in ancient times, after marrying, women would coil up their long hair to represent that they had married a woman, and the so-called self-combing women were these women who did not marry, but coiled their hair to show their determination not to marry in this life. You know, in ancient times, it was illegal for a woman not to marry, not only to marry someone but also to marry at the prescribed age, regardless of whether the government would punish the family. The appearance of the comb woman has broken through the saying that a woman must marry.
The status of women in ancient times was extremely low, not only could not show their faces outside, realize the great ideals in their hearts, but also carefully serve their in-laws at home, take care of their children, and even endure sharing their husbands with other women, even if the husband died, he could not marry, otherwise he would be regarded as unchaste to his husband. And the marriage of ancient women has always been the fate of the parents, they have no right to choose their husbands, and even the first time they see their husbands is in the cave room candle night, the two people can only say that the door is right, but whether the husband and wife can respect each other is a huge problem.
It is precisely in these rules and regulations that many women choose to give up such an old life and start a new life, which is the emergence of "self-combing women". Becoming a self-combing woman was not a very shameful thing at that time, on the contrary, this matter was recognized and accepted by the public, so women who wanted to become self-combing women were voluntary.
However, if you want to become a self-grooming woman, you also need to go through a series of rituals. The first thing is to curl your hair. When a woman gets married, her hair is coiled up by her mother, and the self-combing woman is different, and the self-combing woman's hair is to let the elderly self-combing woman coil her hair for her, choose a good birthday auspicious day in the aunt's house, burn incense and bathe, swear in front of the bodhisattva, and swear that she will not marry in her life. Of course, rich families will also invite guests to witness this moment. If you don't get married, naturally there is no husband's family to rely on, and it is not okay to rely on the mother's family, so these self-combing women will work hard outside like men, whether they really work for others, or do business on their own, as long as they can support themselves, and at the end of the Qing Dynasty and the beginning of the People's Republic, it is the embryonic stage of capitalism, and the opportunities to make money have become more, as long as women are not lazy, it is still no problem to support themselves.
However, once you become a self-combing woman, there is no way back, you can't marry in this life, even if you meet a man you like very much outside, once you violate the rules of self-combing women, torture is still okay, and more seriously, you will directly soak the pig cage, and you will not stay at all. Moreover, after becoming a self-combing girl, although she can still live in her parents' house to fulfill her filial piety, once she has three long and two short, old and sick, she cannot die in her parents' house, she can only stay in her aunt's house, and her parents cannot go to the grave after death, and can only let the self-combing woman sweep the grave.
Some people say that the self-combing woman is the current female single stick, the words are not rough, but for a woman, not marrying someone is more terrifying than marrying the wrong person, although the self-combing woman can not marry in her life, nor can she have her own children, but compared to being angry at her in-laws every day, doing what she wants to do independently is the best life.