How should people live? What do you do to become a winner in life? This is a problem that many thoughtful people have thought about, and everyone who works hard wants to fight for a better future for themselves, but when we use too much force, it often backfires. Why?
Master Nan Huaijin said: "If the water is too clear, there is no fish, and if the people are too clear, there is no blessing", the law of the world is often: things must be reversed, people must not be too exhausted, things must not be too exhausted, deep feelings are not longevity, the friendship of gentlemen is as light as water, everything is too exhausted, and fate is bound to end early.
Some men and women have this feeling when they are in love, that he is intimate and close, thinking about it, afraid that she has a little bit of wronged people, often will eventually leave him, and the girl who feels plain as water and does not care, who has never put any mind on it, often does not abandon him, and even does not need him to pay anything.
Just in response, "there are hearts to plant flowers and flowers, and there is no intention to plant willows and willows" because we care too much, we will suffer from gain and loss, once people suffer from gain and loss, your heart will have that "loss", you are in the "fear of the heart" and "greedy heart", repeatedly suffering, and finally the spiritual energy will be consumed, it will become the kind of phenomenon we often say "afraid of something, come to what".
We do things by the concentration of our spirit, and if the mental strength is depleted, things should not be expected to be done well. People sometimes have a lot of mental exhaustion, not because things are difficult, but because they lose their spirits in this kind of suffering and loss.
Treat the people and things around us, we may wish to look down a little, do not be too real, do not have to find answers everywhere, sometimes "rare and confused" is the great realm of life, the ancients said: "No one is perfect, gold is not enough" Everyone, everything has his shortcomings, people have sorrows and joys, the moon has clouds and sunshine, there is no need to use 100% force for everything, everyone can see clearly.
Sometimes we buy back a pot of flowers, if you like it too much, carefully cook every day, look at the growth of the tall today, see the blossoming tomorrow, and learn what skills to add some fertilizer the day after tomorrow, most of them are not long to die, and those we relax our mentality, normal watering and fertilization of the flowers, but can bloom delicately. Too much attention to the same thing, too much attention to a person, too much attention to the evaluation of the people around themselves, too heavy gains and losses, we often have lost ourselves.
If you want to live comfortably and freely, you must let go of the psychology of seeking perfection, learn to tolerate the people and things around you, accept the results of "backfire", accept each other's "unsympathetic", and accept the shortcomings of other people's parents.
"Zhuangzi" said: "Straight wood first cut, Ganjing first exhausted, Mu Xiu yu lin wind will destroy" The stronger the person, the more physically and mentally exhausted, the more high-level people, often the more they encounter walls everywhere, we live in the world, not want to be maverick, perhaps because there are too many attachments in the heart, some people are attached to money, some are famous, some are right and wrong, some are feelings, learn to "understand, pretend to be confused" do not have to be angular in everything.
People with clear angles are often hurting others and hurting themselves, and more real people sometimes fight with others for their own so-called truth, and even turn against each other. In fact, that is no longer the truth, that is the obsession in your heart, the obsession of wanting to prove "how correct you are", for the wrong, in fact, it has long been seen in the eyes of the onlookers, in the hearts of others, everyone has persuaded: "Everyone is a friend, don't be too real." "Making yourself unpleasant, others are embarrassed." Then you have to further explain: you are not too real people, in the end no one spoke, and the atmosphere was completely frozen.
Conclusion: The Buddhist family has clouds: "Discriminating mind cannot be there, right and wrong mind must not be nothing" Not everything must be clear and clear, not everything, we have to exhaust all our strength, we cannot do absolutely, we cannot exhaust our strength, we cannot exhaust our strength, and in our first life we will: "see clearly, work in confusion", the most comfortable.