Recently consulted the relevant information to understand a set of data is very interesting, in the past five years china's Ministry of Civil Affairs issued the "Civil Affairs Development Statistical Bulletin" found such a phenomenon.
From 2016 to 2020, the number of marriages registered in accordance with the law in China every year is 11.428 million pairs, 10.631 million pairs, 10.139 million pairs, 9.273 million pairs and 8.143 million pairs in 2020, which shows that the number of marriages in China is decreasing every year.
However, according to the communiqué data, the number of foreign-related and overseas Chinese registered marriages each year from 2016 to 2020 is 41,000, 46,000, 48,000, 52,000, 53,000, that is to say, the number of foreigners marrying into China every year is increasing.
In recent years, many Chinese people have gradually increased the number of foreign women to start a family, and according to the British Reuters agency in the 2018 survey on the ideal partner candidates for women in various countries, Ukrainian women are the most eager to marry china, and they even see Chinese people in China will take the initiative to send fragrant kisses.
The second place is Indian women, who are very appreciative of China's equal and inclusive marriage culture, but from the actual data, women in Myanmar and Vietnam and other places live the most in China, Indian women rarely marry into China to start a family, and the most representative of them is the Indian women Who live in Bozhou, Anhui Province.
Tian Ma Ya married in 2012 in Anhui Province, China, her husband is Tian Mengbing, from Tian Jia Village, Mengcheng County, Bozhou City, Tian Ma Ya was born in India, the real name is not verifiable, Tian Ma Ya is the Chinese name she obtained after marriage with her husband's surname.
Tian Ma Ya's family is an ordinary family in India's thousands of low-income families, Tian Ma Ya ranks sixth in the family, coupled with the particularity of Indian culture, Tian Ma Ya's childhood period and many children have to undertake a lot of work in order to live.
According to Tian Mengbing, the two met at the farmers' market when they were working in Zhejiang, and Tian Ma Ya's family pressure was great, at that time, many children in India could not be raised and would be sent out, and the family could get a sum of money, which was actually similar to selling children.
Farmers Market
When She was not yet an adult, she was taken to Myanmar by a boss to work, far from home, she did not know anything about her future life, but from a young age, She developed a strong interest in China from the mouth of others, because the social status of Indian women is very low.
And Indian women need to give the man a bride price to get married, or a large bride price, the poison of the surname system led to the birth of a boy in the Indian family is equivalent to bringing a sum of money to the family, but the birth of a girl is equivalent to giving someone else a sum of money.
This has led to many parents who really can't afford to choose to give their children away or discard them, and although the marriage culture of our country is sometimes ridiculed or even spurned by their own people, compared to many countries, they will be envious, and Tian Ma Ya's understanding of China begins here.
Moreover, these years of living in India have made her feel great pressure at every moment, and she also has to prevent the danger of being abused by gangsters, in which case Tian Ma Ya has the idea of going to China.
But the high cost made her hopeless, but she did not give up but looked for opportunities, and finally in 2009 a Chinese businessman brought her from the slums of India to a Burmese farm, although still not in China, but very close to her dream than before.
And our country to Burma is very many people, Tian Ma Ya used to be able to understand this dream country from other people, this time to have the opportunity to personally communicate with Chinese she is very important, it just so happens that there is a Chinese in the farm where Tian Ma Ya is located.
And Tian Ma Ya's initial Chinese is to follow this Chinese to learn, from the initial stumbling to learn pronunciation to some simple terms later, many of the attentive Tian Ma Ya have mastered a lot of daily words, in the usual communication, Tian Ma Ya also learned what the real China is like.
Myanmar farms
Tian Ma Ya decided to experience China's culture, environment and life for herself, and after she left Myanmar, she went to work at a farmers' market in Zhejiang, and the simple daily communication was no longer a problem for her.
When Tian Ma Ya really saw the clean and tidy streets, imposing mansions and thriving scenes, she could not imagine that a country could be like this, because these are not easy to see in India or Myanmar, especially the cleanliness of the city, which surprised her, and what she did not know was that China's moon elder also gave her a gift for her arrival.
At that time, Tian Mengbing was still a young man who had just come out of his hometown to work, and he also chose to work in Zhejiang and he was responsible for delivery at the farmers' market, because he accidentally met this foreign girl Tian Ma Ya, although Tian Ma Ya's experience was very mature.
But because she came out early, both of them were still in their prime, and Tian Mengbing was not the first time to meet foreigners, but he was the first time to meet foreigners who spoke Chinese so well, because Tian Ma Ya was very eager to integrate into the Chinese environment, so he often used his leisure time to learn Chinese.
Coupled with the nature of her work, she needs to communicate with different people frequently, and she can quickly communicate fluently in Chinese, and even some local dialects can be understood, which has left a deep impression on Tian Mengbing's heart.
The same is true for Tian Mengbing, although she has been cultivated by Chinese culture for many years, but her heart still has the inherent humility of Indian women, and her love for Tian Mengbing is hindered by many factors and does not dare to express it bluntly.
Although Tian Mengbing has not received higher education, the simple kindness imprinted in the family style has attracted Tian Ma Ya, because in India, there are few men who communicate with women in a gentle and equal tone, most of which are imperative languages.
Although many things in India are regarded as female incarnations and the gods worshipped by the people are female characters, such as the Hindu goddess of sexual power, Raswati, the goddess of knowledge, and lakshmi, the goddess of wealth, many religious ceremonies require an unmarried woman to complete.
Lakshmi, the Hindu goddess of wealth
But this does not mean that the identity of Indian women has improved, but more people will think that women are just a tool, whether it is to promote religious beliefs or religious rituals, but only a tool.
And in real life, this is even more so, the positioning of Indian women in political economy and society is still the role of continuing offspring and taking care of the family, but Tian Mengbing's simple character and gentle tone really make Tian Ma Ya feel equality and tolerance.
She had only heard from other people's mouths before and had not personally felt it, and China was different from India, with bright lights on the streets at night, the security environment was the highest in the world, there was no littering here, no one could not afford to eat, and there was no danger of being raped at any time in India.
Tian Ma Ya lives here very happy and feels very lucky, she has love, and wants to join the Chinese nationality to become an authentic "daughter-in-law", some people will say that it is difficult to join the Chinese nationality, it is true, but the required conditions Tian Ma Ya just meet.
Article 7 of the Nationality Law of the People's Republic of China clearly stipulates that foreigners or stateless persons who are willing to consciously abide by the Chinese Constitution and laws and meet one of the following conditions may apply for Chinese nationality, the first of which is the close relatives of the Chinese, and the second is the need to settle in China.
Needless to say later, Tian Ma Ya originally planned to settle in China and wanted to marry Chinese, because Tian Ma Ya grew up in a hard-working family environment, and was very obedient to her husband, Tian Mengbing found that as long as it was a family affair, Tian Ma Ya would be very properly arranged.
And Tian Ma Ya speaks Chinese very well The two do not have difficulty in communicating, and the same industrious and simple character makes Tian Mengbing believe that Tian Ma Ya is a woman suitable for life, and the two come together, and Tian Ma Ya also followed Tian Mengbing back to her hometown in Anhui to hold a wedding.
In fact, from an objective point of view, the women of ordinary Indian families will eventually marry the peasant families in India, but the Chinese peasants under the same peasant status can be regarded as rich people, and Chinese treat their wives very favorably.
The life of the two after marriage is very beautiful, Tian Ma Ya is very satisfied with the existing material life, and also knows how to be grateful and cherish the good life now, coupled with the character of always bearing hardships and standing hard work, the two have built their own small building in the village, and they also have two very cute "mixed-race children".
It was also from the marriage that Tian Ma Ya changed her name to Tian Ma Ya in order to follow her husband's surname, because her parents could not come to China to attend the wedding, Tian Ma Ya would often write to her family to inform her life in China, including how she learned to make dumplings and watch the Spring Festival Gala program.
Tian Mengbing and his wife and two children
At first, Tian Mengbing was still a little puzzled when she brought her back, but as they got along, their parents also agreed after discovering that Tian Ma Ya was a qualified good wife, and when they learned about Tian Ma Ya's experience as a child, they were even more kind to this daughter-in-law.
This made Tian Ma Ya flattered and more grateful to the Tian Mengbing family, and these happy Tian Ma Ya wrote to her family in India, and Tian Ma Ya's sister later changed her name to Tian Ma Qi, who was very envious after learning of her sister's life in China, and also hoped to marry in China.
Tian Ma Ya grew up from the bottom of India, she also hopes that her sister can get rid of the sea of suffering like her, and although she likes her life now, sometimes she is still a little unaccompanied, if her sister can marry into China is also a good thing.
She told Tian Mengbing about this idea, in fact, many people in the village know Tian Mengbing, a foreign daughter-in-law, and from daily life, it can be seen that Tian Ma ya is a virtuous and good daughter-in-law, so some people have long hoped to let Tian Mengbing introduce him to one.
Just when her sister Tian Maqi wanted to come to China, she came and went, and Tian Maqi also left her homeland and came to China to marry Tian Mengbing's cousin.
Tian Ma Ya and sister Tian Ma Qi
In 2019, Tian Mengbing's cousin and Tian Maqi were married, and in the same year, Tian Maqi gave birth to a cute little girl, and her sister Tian Maqi also has two little boys with tiger heads, and the two families are better than a family, brother and sister, brother and sister.
Tian Ma Ya sisters now live very satisfactory to them, from life is not lack of food and clothing, that is, the housework is much less than before, and a lot of dirty work Tian Mengbing will personally do not let his wife do it, such a sense of happiness is very common in China, but for the Tian Ma Ya sisters are very grateful.
When Tian Ma Ya got married, according to Chinese customs, she needed a woman's representative, but her family was in India and had to ask the village leader to serve, and this time Tian Ma Ya attended her sister's wedding and finally became the sister's female representative, which made her very grateful to China.
Because women at the bottom of India never have the opportunity to become "representatives".
China's ingredients are broad and profound, and when I arrived in China, my sister found that the original ingredients were taken and cleaned without contact, whether it was my sister or my sister who was married to China and had a mother's family.
For Tian Ma Ya, it is a very happy thing to be able to teach her sister to make dumplings, because food in India means survival, but in modern China, it is more about the enjoyment of the taste buds, Chinese culture, scenery and customs are attracting them, and also make up for the regret that they were not born in China.
Today, like ordinary women, they cook and wash clothes every day, take care of the elderly and children in the family, remind their husbands who go out to work what to buy to go home today, go out for a walk after dinner in the evening, and stop to talk to the neighbors from time to time on the road.
In fact, in addition to the Indian sisters, many foreign women who have married to China have lived a happy and beautiful life, which also reflects the strength of our country today and the beauty of the people's life.
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