New bookshelf | Why don't many loves last? Take a look at the solution in The Secret of Intimacy

Cover news reporter Zhang Jie

"The Secret of Intimate Relationship" is a self-help book about emotions, the author through his own wisdom from the road to marriage, to help readers recognize and improve the relationship between the sexes, see the traps in intimate relationships, through the subject of life, have a long-term comfortable intimate relationship. In November 2021, "The Secret of Intimate Relationship", which was introduced by Beijing New Knowledge Culture Media Co., Ltd. (hereinafter referred to as "New Knowledge") and jointly planned and published with Zhongnan Boji Tianjuan, was listed to meet with the majority of readers. This is also the second time that this best-selling book, which has helped many families out of emotional difficulties, has been published in Chinese mainland. Less than three weeks after the book went public, it topped the soaring "Success/Inspirational" sub-list and the new book hit list.

This publication invited Liu Rensheng, a certified psychological counselor from Tsinghua University and the Chinese Academy of Sciences, and co-founder of the "Institute of Human Psychology" to participate in the translation revision work, and revised the problems of the difficult part of the translation feedback from readers after the first publication; it also added the guides and recommendations of many well-known domestic psychology experts Wang Wenzhong, Zhang Tianbu and others, which is more suitable for public readers.

Wang Wenzhong, Ph.D. in Psychology and a researcher at the Institute of Psychology at the Chinese Academy of Sciences, praised the book, "In this passionate work designed to help readers navigate the fog of intimacy, Jeff Allen simply and directly reveals that love and courage are almost the only way to cross not only in the problems of intimacy, but also in other problems throughout our lives." ”

Zhang Tianbu, deputy director of the Psychoanalytic Committee of the China Mental Health Association, said that experience tells us that intimate relationships are precious and important to life, but they are often "cut continuously, rationalized and chaotic" and "only frowned and put on the heart". The reason why it is complex and difficult is because it has not been able to find a way to sort out, "This book from the perspective of the psychological counselor who deals with intimate relationships, distinguishes and explores the characteristics and affairs of the four stages of the development of intimate relationships, such as honeymoon period, power struggle period, death zone period, and partnership period, guides the parties to wake up from the perspective of seeking from the heart, and makes people improve their ability to handle intimate relationships." ”

On the road of love, people may encounter all kinds of confusion: true love is difficult to find, love is short, seven years of itch, affair problems, domestic violence problems... In the book "The Secret of Intimate Relationship", the author Jeff Allen sincerely reveals the emotional traps and encounters on the road of marriage between him and his wife for more than thirty years, combines personal experience with thousands of intimate relationship counseling cases, restores real problem scenes, fully demonstrates the whole process of crossing the emotional trap together with the help of "human psychology", and passes on the key to operating a long-term and comfortable intimate relationship to more people.

"The Secret of Intimate Relationship" has four chapters, with the themes of "What is hidden in the depths of love" and "Four stages of intimate relationships, walking together to be happier", etc., on topics such as "cracking six fatal love myths" and "the picture of the subconscious deep, shaping the current you", "dependence and independence", "happiness, happiness and success from good relationships" and other topics, readers have shared in depth and simple. Jeff Allen divides the intimate relationship into four stages: the honeymoon period, the power struggle period, the death zone period, the partnership period, many people's relationships are repeated and pulled in the first three stages, it is difficult to enter the fourth stage, but once it enters the "partnership period", it will be a long-term happiness, which is a beautiful state worth everyone's lifelong struggle, bravely crossing the "death zone", and I hope that more and more people can have such a beautiful relationship.

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