In the consciousness of ordinary people, sexual assault is only about young and beautiful adults.
Actually?
Madame had just watched a movie recently and learned that sexual assault had nothing to do with age!
The title of the film is "The Game That Can't Be Said" and is based on the real experience of director Andrey Bescon.
Moreover, she also starred as an actress.
The heroine is a simple and cute Little French girl named Odette.
The same name as the White Swan Princess in Tchaikovsky's ballet Swan Lake.
Perhaps in the depths of her parents' minds, it is expected that she can be as beautiful as a white swan.
Little Odette has loved dancing since childhood and has dreamed of becoming a dancer.
She is very talented in herself, her parents are very supportive, and the future seems to be visible to the naked eye.
However, unexpected things came suddenly.
An uncle named Kilbot broke into her life and cast a devilish shadow over Odette's life.
This man is handsome and courteous, looks polite and polite, and looks harmless to people and animals.
He was a close friend that Odette's parents trusted and liked, and often came to the house for dinner and even traveled together.
Kilbott, citing his three sons, said he enjoyed playing with girls.
Therefore, all kinds of reasonable factors gave her the opportunity to be close to Odette.
So the nightmare of the 8-year-old girl began.
Once, Odette was painting in the room when Kilport pushed the door in.
He talked to her very politely and praised her for how well she drew.
It will be a great joy for children to receive praise and encouragement from adults.
Kilpot cleverly gained Odette's favor by exaggerating people.
The two had a good chat.
Next, he proposed the game of "playing with dolls".
When you hear the game, where does the child still have resistance?
However, Kilport said that Odette would play the "doll".
It's a game that belongs to the two of them and can't be told to anyone else.
After that, he coaxed her into the bathroom.
In this way, Odette encountered the first "sexual assault" in complete ignorance and passivity.
She was just young and ignorant, and she didn't know what was happening to her.
Intimidated by Kilbett's repeated warnings, Odette concealed the "unspeakable game."
But the body is the most honest, and the inner feelings are even more impossible to ignore.
As the "Doll" game is repeated, her antipathy and resistance to him becomes stronger.
However, out of shy concern and confusion that she did not know how to express it, she was unable to accurately convey the message to her mother.
When Mom asked Kilbert to pick up Odette from school, her emotions simply could not attract any attention from Her Mother.
In the eyes of adults, it is nothing more than a child's unashamed gratitude.
What could Kylebert kindly help pick her up from school, play with her, take her to camping, and do anything?
The couple trusted the neighbor's good friend.
In this way, the patience of the child and the carelessness of the adult have jointly contributed to the evil deeds of the scum.
On the drive to pick her up on her way home, even at Odette's house, in the mountains that took her to play.
Odette's young body and young mind were ruthlessly and brutally violated again and again.
We often say that there is no one or two infidelities, only zero and countless times.
For psychopathic repeat offenders, their sexual assault of children is also not once or twice.
Seeing this, we are already furious at the ugliness of the demon Kilbert!
But I would like to say that in fact, Odette's parents are the real "culprits".
Once, after her father bumped into his daughter and Gilbert in the room, he vaguely felt a sneaky feeling.
He immediately beat up his friend, but that was all there, and did not seriously ask his daughter what had happened.
Mothers are even more outrageous!
She will be unhappy that Odette does not tidy up the room, including the headache of being naughty and undeciplined.
He actually let Gilbert pick up his daughter from school as a "punishment" for her disobedience and willfulness.
When she saw her 10-year-old daughter washing her red panties, she was a little surprised at first, and then decided that it was just precocious puberty.
She said to herself that she "popularized" the poor "sex education" common sense, but did not really care about her daughter.
The truth is buried in the duty of the adults and in their self-righteous cognition.
In the warmest family to be loved and protected by her parents, Odette lives in The Shadow of Gilbert.
This humiliating experience, on the one hand, is gradually fading away with Odette's growth, and on the other hand, it is also deeply rooted in her heart.
Memories spread like a fog, and one of Kirbert's faces lingered, destroying Odette all the time.
I thought that going to school in Paris alone would avoid him and stop being run amok by his clutches.
On the first day Clinker arrived, Kilbert said he had spoken to her parents to see her next week.
Odette couldn't suppress her anger and despair, but it wasn't easy to get rid of the demon.
On the contrary, without the custody of her parents, she can finally "let go of herself".
Out of great disgust for Gilbert and, to some extent, dissatisfaction with her parents, Odette indulged in squandering her green years.
She contracted alcoholism, drug addiction, and numbness under anesthesia in an attempt to vent and escape the enormous psychological trauma of childhood sexual assault.
Odette could not accept her miserable childhood, and the shame and self-blame in the depths of her soul constantly ate at her spiritual world.
And a person who cannot accept himself is undoubtedly painful.
The estrangement from her parents and the complaints she complained about them did not give her the courage to talk about it.
Moreover, in a small city with a large number of acquaintances, once this kind of ugly thing is said, it will inevitably be rumored.
Where should the faces of parents rest? The strange eyes of others can also cause secondary harm.
The trauma caused by sexual assault is like a virus that has always accompanied her childhood and adolescence.
The more desperately you try to forget something, the more you can't forget it, and it's the darkest moment that will never be forgotten.
Alcohol and the virus didn't cure Odette, and her obsessive writhing on stage didn't make her open her heart.
However, as an adult, she gradually became more determined to face herself, and she decided to seek the help of a psychologist.
Under the guidance of the psychiatrist, she "reconstructed" the tragic experiences that had never been said before.
The process of narration is also the process of facing, and Odette "sees" her own pain more clearly.
When scenes of humiliation were told, even the psychiatrist slapped the table in excitement.
Odette knew how much unspeakable humiliation she had endured as a victim.
According to the psychiatrist, Gilbert must be brought to justice before the boulder in her heart can fall.
Once, Odette met the long-lost Gilbert at a family gathering, and his eyes turned to the child again.
She could no longer control her emotions, let alone let other children be hurt, so she told her parents about the long-buried "unspeakable game".
His father was furious and said he was going to kill Kilbert.
The mother still believed in their good neighbors and good friends, and even thought that it was just a childhood fantasy or a fabricated lie.
She is still thinking about his reputation, for the sake of his family, and hopes to negotiate a solution in private.
But Odette was so determined that she would never indulge in The Ugly Deeds of Gilbert again, and would never allow innocent children to endure the tragic childhood she had been in.
As Kilbert sat in the dock, those who had been violated by him chose to accuse him.
The heinous sin was exposed, and Kilbert did not even spare his own sister.
Tears and anger cannot wash away the trauma in the hearts of the victims, because the sexual assault of their supposedly brilliant and beautiful lives has been destroyed.
No one can ignore the pain of the past, stand up and look up at the present, they are living in the past.
This time Odette did not flinch, and she bravely spoke of her unspeakable past years.
Tearing open his own scars, revealing the shame of others, Kilbert did not escape the law.
The haze that has been accumulated in Odette's heart for many years can finally see the light of day, from brave face to acceptance to reconciliation.
After experiencing misfortune and witnessing relief, Odette finally did not go through her life in the shadow of sexual assault.
However, more child sexual abusers, they choose to bear it alone, struggling in silence.
The subtitles at the end of the film are shocking:
According to the European Conference, 1 in 5 children are subjected to sexual violence, and about 700 children die of abuse in France each year.
What a poignant number, it is a constant reminder that we should always be vigilant when it comes to caring for children and young people.
Safety education for children is a matter of happiness throughout their lives, and parents should especially educate their children about sex.
Remind children how to pay attention to the sense of boundaries in interpersonal communication and how to protect their bodies from harm.
If parents are stuck in traditional notions of being shy about it, then children may actually be ashamed to talk about it in the future.
Beware of the ordinary people around you, the bad guys are never how ugly they look, but the dirty and dirty hearts.
When you ignore it, they may extend their claws to your children.
Lu Xun said "save the child", what I want to say is, "Protect the child!" ”。
PS: There are many movies about sexual assault, such as "Suyuan", "The Melting Pot", "Carnival", "Letterhead Story", "Summer That Can't Be Said", more understanding, will be less hurt.