Zeng Ziyi: "I am in the three provinces of my day." Not loyal to others? Friends and not convinced? Can't get used to it? ”
【Interpretation】
Zeng Zi said: "I reflect on myself many times a day, is it my best to do things for others?" Is it honest and trustworthy to associate with friends? Did the teacher review the scholarship that the teacher taught me? Zeng Zi is a very important student of Confucius, everyone pay attention to a word, the "three" of my three provinces and my life, some people say ah, Zeng Zi this three provinces of my life is three times a day to reflect on themselves, eat breakfast to reflect once, eat lunch to reflect once, eat dinner to reflect once.
Portrait of Zengzi
Some people also said, no, No, Zeng Zi reflected on himself once a night, reflecting on three things: seeking loyalty to others, making friends without believing, and passing on unaccustomed, which of these two explanations is right? Two are not right, Zeng Zi is not reflecting on himself three times a day, nor is it reflecting on three things every night, really as long as I encounter the following three things, I must tell myself that these three things should be particularly careful, what does it mean, I only reflect on these three things, everything else I don't care, Zeng Zi here gives us a demonstration, that is, each of us, to understand ourselves, to understand ourselves, to understand what things are easy to make mistakes, to summarize and summarize for ourselves, that is to say, everyone, to tell themselves, There are three things I am particularly prone to mistakes.
In the future, as soon as these three things appear, I will have to be vigilant and vigilant against the alarm bells, so as for everyone, these three things are different? It can be different, because people are different from people, so what does this mean? It is that people should be careful to reflect on themselves, but also do not reflect too much, reflect too much, too nervous, this day is not good.
Lectures
Let's take a look at Zeng Zi, the most reminded of what three things to be most careful of: First, for people to seek infidelity, people come to you to discuss a matter, are you standing in the position of others for others to think, everyone will naturally stand in the position of others to think for others, will Zeng Zi make such a low-level mistake? That's right, why? People are unconscious, for example, a friend came to us to discuss, said I want to open a café, and then how do we say, we said too good, I like to drink coffee the most, we don't think about him at all, we don't think about whether he is suitable for opening a café, we directly think of ourselves, oh, great, I like to drink coffee, this is how easy people make this mistake, unconsciously take other people's problems as their own problems, and then start from their own standpoint, to think about problems, to answer others, This is a person who is easy to make this mistake, then ZengZi must have made this mistake, so he reminded himself that he must not make such a mistake.
It is not faithful to others
Second, make friends without believing, and friends of course to believe in each other, then this unbelief, it is Zeng Zi who is telling himself that we communicate with friends, this "faith" word is very important, how to do this "faith", the general explanation, ah, are all words, called faith, in fact, this is a one-sided letter, the first is that people believe in me, the second is that I believe in people, these two are not easy, people believe in me, this must be our words, how can that person talk and count words, talk through the brain, ah, You can only speak, so can you trust others? You have to make sure that your friend is talking, you have to make sure that he is talking over the head, so that you can believe him, so this is a mutually effective thing, not so simple. Zeng Zi must have suffered losses on this, so he expressed it very gently. Some people now, talk but the brain, this kind of person, stay away from him, otherwise, what he said, we have to believe, but after believing, the consequences will certainly not be achieved, making each other very embarrassed, it is best to nod their heads on the line, so call friends and do not believe, the kind of people who talk but brains, you better communicate with him a little lighter, the ancients talk more euphemistically, we have to know what he is talking in his heart, not that Zengzi told himself that I am dealing with friends, I have to do everything I say Zeng Zi did not have such a low level.
Make friends without belief
Third, is it not customary? Two explanations, the first explanation is that tomorrow is going to be class, today is not to prepare for the class, is to prepare the lesson; the second explanation, the teacher taught me, I am not very good to hand over to my students, this is two explanations, which of these two explanations is correct? Both are correct, Zeng Zi is a teacher, then he teaches students must be prepared for lessons, this is no doubt, any lesson is familiar with the lesson must be prepared, not prepared to die on the stage, so why is there a second meaning? The teacher taught me, am I practicing, am I doing what the teacher taught me, I will say this to the students, the students want to ask me, teacher, do you practice? You say what I say, the teacher taught me, I must practice, I practice effectively, I did not blush and did not breathe to my students, this is the attitude of being a teacher.
Pass it on
At the same time, if Zeng Zi said to the students, Oh, this is my invention, it seems that your family history is not long enough, Zeng Zi has to say, Oh, this is my teacher Confucius taught me, I teach you now, this family learning is long, Chinese is to pay attention to this set.