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There is such a helplessness in this world, and kindness is regarded as donkey liver lungs.
The more peacefully you are, the more others like to infringe on your dignity. The more industrious and honest you are, the more others think you are weak and deceitful.
Those who keep to themselves will feel that people like me who respect the rules will be bullied, so what is the light of this world? As a result, these people will become no longer self-contained.
Those who are industrious and honest will feel that I have always adhered to the moral code and always maintained a positive atmosphere, why do I still not get good results? As a result, these people become less industrious and honest, but sinister and cunning.
To tell the truth, there are many bad people in this world, all of whom are "forced" out. That is to say, in the big dye vat of society, everyone will be forced by the world to become a person with "no feelings".
Just like in the family, you have worked so hard to pay so much, but your relatives are still accusing you from the side, and even "turning a blind eye" to your credit, so what do you think?
Persecuted by your family, you will lose the sincerity of giving, and have more exquisite and self-serving ideas. It's not your fault, it's the sadness of the human heart.
The more diligent you are to take care of your family, the more your loved ones turn a blind eye, and the key reasons are these 4 points.
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Reason one: Take your efforts as "deserved."
Parents are sick, and every child needs to take responsibility for themselves, and the money is paid for and the power is strong.
However, as the eldest son, you have a special sense of "responsibility", not only paying, but also contributing. At this time, your brothers and sisters will push everything on you.
You feel that being kind is a blessing, and I believe that parents can understand it. Therefore, you will give diligently and sincerely without complaint. However, your parents and siblings have an opinion of you.
If you do something wrong, your parents will throw tantrums at you. You make a mistake, and the brothers and sisters will blame you from the moral high ground, regardless of how much you have paid.
In their opinion, you should pay, they should point fingers.
In the end, you will feel the darkness of human nature more and more, and even cut off relations with these people. All this is not your fault, but others take your efforts as "deserved".
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Reason two: your efforts have offended the cake of other people's interests.
Once upon a time, there was such a sheep, it always collected grass for the sheep around it, so that they could do less and live more comfortably. However, they do not recognize it.
Some sheep think that in doing so, it is definitely another intention. Some sheep think that they are definitely full of money, and finally get some weeds to eat.
Later, the accused sheep stopped drying, no longer caring whether they were full or not. However, the sheep's attitude towards it has eased a lot, and they even get along with it.
In the same way, if you are particularly good to your loved ones and take risks for them, they will think that you have "misbehaved" and violated their interest cake.
At this time, what you need to do most is to return the responsibility to them, only take charge of your own business, and do your duty. In this way, you will receive fewer accusations.
In this world, not everyone is worth your efforts. If it's not worth it, why do you have to "abuse yourself"?
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Reason three: Bullying kindness, which is the most sinister part of human nature.
As the saying goes: "Thunder splits true filial piety, and fortune is fierce." ”
If you are too filial and obedient, you will be struck by "thunder". You are too kind to end up earning even a penny. Why?
The above-mentioned "thunder" is not the thunder of nature, but what we call "human heart". If you are so filial to you, then others will not be able to live with you, and they will also have crooked thoughts about you.
A person who does not care about anything and is only responsible for "kindness" is not bad, but he is easily bullied by others. Even in the family, "bullying the soft and afraid of the hard" is the norm.
I once heard such a saying: "The sinister nature of human nature is beyond your imagination." ”
People who have not yet experienced it are naturally still a little naïve. However, everyone needs to pay for their "naivety". In the end, even the most naïve people become indifferent.
Whether in the family or in society, it is good to be kind, and it is necessary to be tough, which is the wise way to do it.
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Reason four: People are too close to each other, it is a disaster.
If you are too close to him, then he will target you. If you have a certain relationship with him, then he will regard you as a "dispensable" existence.
Why do we often say that "people should maintain a certain distance from each other"? Because people are too close to each other, it is a disaster.
In the family, you have a particularly close relationship with your parents, and even often take care of your parents, believing that your parents will also have opinions about you, and even have conflicts between the two sides.
You have a good relationship with your brothers and sisters, often giving them favors, believing that they will become more and more unscrupulous, not only will not be grateful, but will also trample on your dignity.
People, in fact, are the most unpredictable. You've had a dog for years and it will absolutely listen to you. You take care of a guy for years and he will absolutely hate you. Why is the latter better than the former?
Quite simply, when human nature is worse than the character of animals.
Only by knowing human nature and knowing people's hearts can you live better. Without understanding the sinister nature of human nature, you are likely to be thankless.
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