In the dream of the Red Chamber, the pair of You Sanjie and Liu Xianglian did not appear much, but they were impressive.
You Sanjie fell in love with Liu Xianglian, who was a cameo student on the stage a few years ago, and secretly promised that he would not marry. Ignoring the girl's reticence, he entrusted his brother-in-law Jia Lian to match him.
Jia Lian also lived up to the trust and successfully brokered the two of them.
You Sanjie got what she wanted, and only waited for the door to marry. Unexpectedly, Liu Xianglian suspected her watery Yanghua and went to the door to retire.
You Sanjie loves but can't help it, her dreams are disillusioned, and she desperately draws her sword and kills herself, and kills Mingzhi.
"Crushing the peach blossoms is all over the ground, and it is difficult to help the jade mountain when it is dumped."
Xiang lian was very remorseful, and broke her hair and escaped into the empty door.
A couple with no part in this tragic way.
This made me wait for the audience to sigh, and it was difficult to calm down. I often wonder: If Liu Xianglian did not refuse to marry, and You Sanjie got her wish and married him smoothly, what would their marriage be like?
Will it be like the fairy tale: the princess marries the prince and lives a happy life from then on?
Let's analyze it today.
As the saying goes, "Falling in love is easier than getting along".
The reason why love is heartwarming is because both of them carry the filter of love and talk about the wind and snow. And marriage is realistic, living is chai rice oil and salt.
Love determines the lower bound of marriage, and material determines the upper limit of marriage.
A happy marriage, relying on the love of two lovers, is not enough.
Personality, character, three views, and the ability to earn money and support the family and other aspects determine the texture of marriage.
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First look at Liu Xianglian's personality, can you bring a stable life to You Sanjie?
Liu Xianglian has a decent personality, a straight temperament, and a chivalrous spirit on her body. Not afraid of the powerful, he disdained the powerful but absurd and shameless people like Jia Zhen. However, he had great affection for qin Zhong's powerless friend. Is a good friend candidate.
So, Liu Xianglian, who has such a personality, is not qualified as a husband?
Liu Xianglian is the kind of man who lives more freely, casual and free, moody and angry. The personality is somewhat extreme, and it is easy to go to extremes.
To Baoyu and Yan Yue, who have a similar temperament to him. Treating Xue Pan, who had ill intentions, he directly pulled out and beat him up, leaving no trace of affection, almost letting Aunt Xue sue the government.
If You Sanjie really marries such an impulsive husband who often causes trouble, it is estimated that every day is also a day of fear.
And from the dialogue between Liu Xianglian and Baoyu, it can be seen that Xianglian "traces the traces of Ping every day", often "walking around for three years and five years and then coming back", such a man who is accustomed to the field, like a wild horse that has lost its reins, even if he enters marriage, it is difficult to become a man who cares for the family.
2
Let's take a look at Liu Xianglian's ability to support her family, can she give You Sanjie a happy life?
Liu Xianglian is a descendant of the family who has fallen in the middle of the family road, and does not have the family wealth of the children of the family, but has many problems with the children of the family.
The book reads: Liu Xianglian because of the early death of her parents, the family road fell, so she could not study, and loved to string plays. He is a cool man, informal, cool and good at playing guns and swords, gambling and eating wine, so that he sleeps in flowers and willows, plays the flute and plays the kite, and does everything."
How many meanings does this passage convey?
First, Liu Xianglian didn't have much money.
Second, he did not like to read and did not understand the economy of career. It's an amateur cross-play.
Third, he is nosy, informal, likes to walk the rivers and lakes, and acts heroically and righteously.
Fourth, he also loves to eat, drink and gamble.
If you want to choose a husband, these four points are not considered advantages.
Liu Xianglian lectured to her friends on righteousness, and also fought for righteousness and loose wealth, but she was tall and did not want to bend her waist for five buckets of rice, and her earning ability was too poor, so she went to Qin Zhong's grave and had to save money now.
From his conversation with Baoyu, it can be known that Xianglian is a "moonlight clan".
Xianglian said to Baoyu, "You know that I am so destitute, there is no accumulation in my family, even if there is a few money, I will light it up."
If such a person is single, "a person to eat enough for the whole family is not hungry" is also fine, once married, drag the family with mouth, "open the door seven things: chai rice oil salt sauce vinegar tea", which one does not need money?
And You Sanjie's mother's family also has no money, ben is relying on the sister You Shi who is not related by blood to live, even if she can marry Liu Xianglian, there is no dowry, the two are properly naked marriage.
Although "sentient drinking water is full", "poor couples are sad", and the overstretched life is the most likely to cause family conflicts under the economic pressure of day after day.
When the fanaticism of love at first sight is gradually worn by the triviality of chai rice oil and salt, the marriage reveals its true face.
Therefore, Liu Xianglian, who has an impulsive personality, does not care about her family, likes to eat, drink and gamble, and is proud and arrogant, and is unwilling to put down her body to earn money to support her family, is not a good match for women.
3
Let's take a look at the personality matching degree of the two people.
Judging from the book, Liu Xianglian You Sanjie's personality belongs to the "unwilling to bend down to serve the powerful", preferring not to bend the temperament, similar temperament, and the three views are consistent.
However, after being too rigid and easy to fold, the fierce You Sanjie met Liu Xianglian, a straight man of steel, and at the beginning because of similar temperaments, there should be a honeymoon period of mutual affection.
But when the aura of love gradually fades, the two people who are too individual and do not know how to compromise will inevitably rub and tear continuously.
Refer to the marriage of Xia Jingui and Xue Pan: two people with similar temperaments may not be happy in marriage.
Most of the time, on the contrary, marriages with complementary personalities are easier to complete.
In summary, if You Sanjie really marries Liu Xianglian, it is very likely that it is a marriage that "starts from the appearance and fails in reality", so the probability of You Sanjie's marriage happiness is not large.