Take my son to the farm to dig sweet potatoes on weekends. The sweet potato field was a whole slope, and my son stood with his back to the low place and watched me dig the sweet potatoes.
I dug and dug, but I dug out an earthworm. Scared and curious, the son crept closer to observe, saw the earthworm squirming, and hurried back.
This retreat, an ass sitting on the ground. Because the ground was oblique, he did not sit still, and the whole person leaned back, and his feet rolled toward the sky.
This roll just rolled on a small dirt bag built up next to another sweet potato pit.
The son could not balance and rolled sideways on the dirt bag like a ball.
When he got up, he wanted to cry a little, and looked at me who was laughing next to me and was directly blindfolded.
I put my arm in front of my mouth, suppressed my laughter, and said solemnly, "Didn't I fall?" Be scared. Come to Mom's side. ”
My son came over and took my hand, frowned and said, "Mom, I fell down and was scared!" ”
Because the soil was soft and there was no hard stone, and the child was dressed relatively thickly, I didn't worry about him getting hurt at all. Looking at him, I wanted to comfort him again, but I "poofed" a little and laughed again.
It's so hilarious, if my son is older, he will seriously question whether my reaction is my mother...
This incident made me feel that the emotional reactions of children will be strengthened by the emotional reactions of adults.
If I had been extremely nervous, my son would have cried.
I remembered that once I took him for a swim, such an unexpected thing happened.
We were facing each other, and he was diving directly into the water from a small platform, and I would hold him from the water less than a meter opposite him, and Shunshi would lift him out of the water and back into my arms.
Just once after holding him, he did not stand still, took two steps back to try to balance, but the body still leaned back and fell into the water with his son.
Before falling, instinctively put his son up hard and pushed in the direction of the coach.
The water wasn't deep, it just passed my belly, and the coach was about 2 meters away from us.
But I was still a little frightened, fortunately the reaction was relatively calm, after entering the water, I held my breath, calmed down for 1 second, quickly found the balance point, and stood up.
By this time the coach had already jumped over, but before he could get up, I had already fished my son out of the water. The whole process did not take more than 5 seconds.
My son wasn't choked at all because he was used to diving, and I looked at him, smiled, and said, "Huh? What just happened? Mom is very happy to see the baby diving, and she also dived with her, right? ”
He didn't know much about the fullness of the speech, just looked at me and smiled, and then used his body to signal that he was going to "play a diving game."
In a safe environment, I want my child to experience more stable, positive emotions.
Does this mean that we shouldn't let our children experience negative emotions?
Not. Although young children's emotional emotions are greatly affected by adults in the early years, their negative emotional emotions are not controlled by adults, such as fear, fear, etc., which is the instinctive reaction of children, including adults.
However, we can show our children what kind of coping strategies we can choose when experiencing such negative emotions or emotions. Is it a buffalo, or a calm and composed mind?
When we face crises and unexpected situations can be more relaxed, children can be subtly affected, slowly transforming external learning into internal control, so as to learn how to regulate and stabilize their emotions.