The thing that shocked me the most when I watched "The Legend of Mi Yue" was the peace and separation between Lady Yong and the King of Qin.
In my impression, in ancient times, it seemed that only a husband could divorce his wife, and there were many reasons for divorcing his wife, and there was special legal support, and I had never seen a wife who could reconcile with her husband.
"Seven outs" is the ancient law that husbands can divorce their wives, not filial piety to in-laws, can not give birth to children, red apricots out of the wall, jealousy, serious diseases, more mouths and tongues, stealing things, wives casually occupy the same, husbands can be justifiably divorced.
From the perspective of "seven outs", women have no status at all in the in-laws' family, no matter what the in-laws say, do, right or wrong, you can't refute, because when your opinions are inconsistent with the in-laws, you can sue you to resist, not filial piety to your parents, and take you home.
The wife is faced with a large number of wives and concubines of her husband, even jealousy can not be jealous, what is even more inhumane is that she cannot have a serious illness, if a woman has a serious illness and needs her husband, the husband can take her home, which is simply inhuman. The Book of Later Han records that Feng Yan's wife was jealous and did not allow Feng Yanna to raise concubines, and the housework was done by herself and her daughter, and as a result, when she was old, she was actually suspended to go home.
A woman was hughed by her husband back to her mother's home, but not as now, as long as she has the ability, want to live a life, others can not control, in ancient times was a very serious thing to be hughed home, is to destroy the woman's name, will be pointed out, by the world does not tolerate, many women after being suspended, can not withstand the pressure of society and suicide.
In ancient times, many women were taken home for various reasons, but it was rare to be separated from their husbands. Divorcing the wife shows that the wife has made a mistake; while peace and separation, the wife is not at fault, but she is not willing to continue to live with her husband, it is very likely that the husband is at fault, and the wife cannot bear to leave with the husband.
All in all, repudiation of the wife, the woman is forced to accept, is the weaker party. Harmony and separation, in which women and husbands are on an equal footing, is a kind of divorce by agreement, similar to modern divorce by agreement.
What is more serious is that the reputation of the woman who is divorced is much better than that of the woman who was suspended, and there is basically no such thing as ruining the reputation.
Although it is beneficial to the woman, it is not good for the man. To put it bluntly, in ancient times, women can go to and away from this step, basically can't bear it, really can't live before choosing to abandon their husbands, then which man is willing to bear the reputation of being abandoned by his wife, must be unwilling to die and leave.
"Know it or not, know it or not, it should be green fat red skinny" in Sun Xiucai is so scummy, the grandmother is such an evil mother-in-law, Shulan does not want to and leave, insists on putting up with it, and later really can't stand to serve a husband with a Qinglou woman, before choosing and leaving. And Sun Xiucai was unwilling to die and leave, insisted on retiring Shulan, the Sheng family invited Zhixian and Sheng and Sun's two parents to testify, and then took out half of Shulan's dowry as a price to pay for success, which shows how difficult it is to leave and leave.
The Sheng family has fame, money, the Sun family is poor and small, and it is so difficult to leave the shang, Lady Yong wants to win and leave with the King of Qin, it is even more difficult, ordinary people may not even dare to think about it, but Lady Yong actually made it, which is really admirable.
Lady Yong was the wife of Yingsi, who married him when she was the crown prince, and the two had a very good relationship, and in the years when Yingsi was exiled for opposing the Shang martingale reform law, Lady Yong still did not abandon him, and single-handedly took up the responsibility of running the prince's mansion, and managed the prince's mansion in an orderly manner, waiting for his return.
In those years, Madame Yong must have suffered enough, suffered enough of sin, and shouldered a very heavy responsibility that did not belong to her, but she was an open-minded woman, a woman with perseverance, and a wise woman.
She not only kept the Prince's Mansion in good order, but also kept the Xuan Bird Guard they had trained in her hands tightly, and secretly protected Yingsi during the years when he was exiled. If it wasn't for the secret protection of The Xuan Bird Guard mastered by Lady Yong, he didn't know how many times he had died. Even more after the death of Duke Xiao of Qin, when the princes tried to seize the throne, they still relied on the strength of Xuan Bird Wei to sit on the throne.
At least half of the qin king Yingsi was able to sit in the position of the king of Qin, it was her inseparability, and it was her great help that led to his Qin throne, but ironically, Yingsi sat firmly on the throne, for the sake of his Jiangshan Sheji, for his grand cause, he wanted to marry Princess Wei as the queen and let Lady Yong be a concubine.
Lady Yong was born in the Qin kingdom, the Yong clan, her own pride, how willing to take his wife as a concubine, this is not only a matter of position, but also a matter of social status and personal dignity, and sometimes, dignity is better than life.
Lady Yong can train Xuan Bird Guard with Yingsi, can take care of the Prince's Mansion, can manage Xuan Bird Guard, can help him sit on the throne, and is definitely a capable and wise woman, such a woman is to stand side by side with him, not to be wronged under a woman who only knows the wind and snow, not to fight with a group of women in the harem.
She is an eagle, to spread her wings and fly high, even if her wings are broken, she does not want to be trapped in a cage, with the birds, she has her own pride and dignity.
She couldn't oppose, and she couldn't oppose it, but she didn't allow herself to succumb to Wei Nu, so she chose and left.
Mi Yue heard Meng Ying say peace and leave, and asked in surprise, "So, can the Great King agree and leave?" “
Meng Ying said softly, "The father and the king agreed, and he gave the western suburbs palace and the surrounding mountains to his mother to live and hunt..."
Meng Ying was only two words lightly, in fact, he had already exhausted the twists and turns of the time.
Sun Xiucai, who has no power and no power and is poor, still does not agree and leave, and still wants to maintain his male dignity, not to mention how can the King of Qin, the king of a country, easily agree and leave? However, he agreed, and also gave Lady Yong the western suburban palace and the surrounding mountains to live and hunt, and if Meng Ying did not finish speaking, there should be many privileges given to Lady Yong.
Why did the King of Qin agree?
He must have had a reason to say yes.
Some people may say that he loves Mrs. Yong and feels guilty about her.
Love? If you love her, you will not trample on her dignity and make her a concubine. Maybe love her, but in front of Jiangshan Sheji, with the character of the King of Qin, love can be ignored.
Does he feel guilty about her? There must be, but guilt is not the same as maintaining her dignity with her own dignity.
Judging from the various behaviors of the King of Qin towards Mi Shu and Mi Yue later, the King of Qin basically had no personal feelings of his own, and all his thoughts were on the interests of the country, and everything he did had to first examine whether the tiger was beneficial to the country.
The reason why he asked to marry Mi Shu was because after the death of Queen Wei, the divination results of the Zongmiao Temple, and the women of the various countries could not be right, and only the women of the Chu state could revitalize the Qin kingdom and hegemony. In order to dominate the Qin state, the King of Qin did not hesitate to risk personally entering Chu to ask for a marriage to Mi Shu.
At that time, Qi, Wei, Yan, Zhao, Han, and Chu were in an alliance, and the other five kingdoms had emissaries to the Chu state to plan to marry Chu, and the King of Qin knew that he had few chances of winning, so on the way to mi shu to dance the Shaosi life dance, he designed in advance to let people pretend to be Yue people to intercept and kill halfway, and he came to a hero to save the United States, just like this, suddenly captured Mi Shu's girlish heart and successfully married Mi Shu.
The reason why the King of Qin was good to Mi Yue, valued Mi Yue, and cultivated her was that she was intelligent and perceptive in the early stage, and often gave him some opinions different from those of the courtiers. Gongsun Yan left Qin and entered Wei, he and his courtiers only saw disadvantages, while Mi Yue saw advantages, and advantages outweighed inferiorities; in the matter of attacking Han and attacking Shu, the courtiers argued endlessly, and Mi Yue immediately saw the overall advantage of attacking Shu and the advantages of future Qin expansion, making him determined to attack the State of Shu.
Later, when the King of Qin looked at Mi Yue, to a large extent, he used Win Ji to temper Gongzi Dang, saying that the mother and son of Mi Yue were sharpening tools, which was also the reason why Mi Yue hated the King of Qin later.
Since the King of Qin did not have his own personal feelings, then he agreed to Lady Yong and Li for only one reason, that is, power.
In those years when Yingsi was exiled, far away from the court, Qin Xiaogong only found him back shortly before his death, he did not have any foundation in the court, but after Qin Xiaogong's death, he could quickly defeat the princes who tried to compete for the throne, sit firmly on the throne, and kill Shang martingale, attack the old nobles, and continue to implement the law of Shang martingale, can you believe that there is no support from Lady Yong's forces behind him?
We can imagine that Lady Yong was born in the Qin Kingdom clan, and she also had Xuan Bird Wei in her hands, and these two forces alone could not be helped, not to mention that she could keep the Prince's Mansion in good order, how could there be no connections in the DPRK.
If the King of Qin did not agree with Lady Yong and Li, as far as a proud woman as Lady Yong was concerned, forcing herself into a dead corner and breaking a fish death net, could the King of Qin be able to catch it?
If he is not careful, there may be national turmoil, and if he is not careful, he may be pushed off the throne, which is not what he wants to see.
Power is the main cause, coupled with feelings and guilt, why not push the boat along the water, agree to peace and leave, use a western suburban palace to trap her, and then say to the outside world that the King of Qin, in order to marry the princess of the State of Wei, put the original Lady Yong away from the palace.
Really, when you die, you must take a veil, cover your shame, and maintain your royal dignity.
Later, Lady Yong let the Yong clan live in Shangyong City all the time, and did not let them return to Xianyang to enter the court, and it can also be seen that she wanted to protect the Yong clan in order to avoid secrecy, for scruples, it can be seen that at that time, he and Li were not simply because of feelings, but more perhaps the invisible sword and light sword shadow, the waves and clouds.
Just did not tear the face, the surface is still a style and beauty, still deep love for each other, just for the sake of national interests, have to do it.
Peace and separation, for both of them, are the best choice, do not have to look at each other, but also love each other as ever, although it is a little ironic to say, but it is the truth.
Heli, for Mrs. Yong, is definitely the wisest choice.
If she does not reconcile and leave, and really becomes a concubine, then she will inevitably have resentment in her heart, and she will gradually drift away from the King of Qin, and the two of them will have no children, relying only on feelings, sooner or later there will be a day when they will be finished.
If she really became a concubine, she would be inferior, no longer comparable to the King of Qin, becoming the canary he raised, and what was different from other women, at best, she was just an old person in the heart of the King of Qin.
Sometimes, others respect you not because of your status, but because of your backbone, dignity and talent. King Huai of Chu, the king of a country, is not of high status? However, the King of Qin, or Mi Yue, did not take him seriously. Su Qin, is the status high? He was just a poor boy in Luoyang, but because he had talent and backbone, he finally became the face of the Six Kingdoms, in history, he was an ancient person, a person who came after him, and was worshiped and admired by countless people.
Lady Yong chose to leave, but let the domineering man like the King of Qin look up to her, more respect for her, what is important is that what is not obtained is always the best, she will let the King of Qin always think of her good, so before the King of Qin died, he said to her: "Only you are stubborn (and away), you are still the Sangrou of the day." ”
Lady Yong's choice and separation will make the King of Qin feel guilty about her, and sometimes, guilt is the best weapon, she will make the King of Qin think of compensating her, will respect her because of her choice, trust her, and when she asks for something, he will promise her and fulfill her.
In fact, when the King of Qin was dying, he gave the token of Xuan Bird Wei to Lady Yong, and let her keep the will of "all the princes vying for the throne, when Li Yingji is the king" after his death, which is the country's heavy trust and trust.
Mrs. Yong, although it hurts to choose and leave, but only and away, she is her, still the proud, open-minded woman, she can leave the most important position in the heart of the man she loves, she can get out of the predicament, live freely for the rest of her life, and protect the people she wants to protect.
Note: This article is written in the original novel of "The Legend of Mi Yue", which may be slightly different from the TV series, and the picture comes from the TV series stills