Yu Dafu: Once a marriage intoxicated by the spring breeze

In addition to Yu Dafu's achievements in literary history, the love between him and Wang Yingxia is also enviable, and he was once praised by Liu Yazi as "the immortal couple on the Fuchun River". However, in this unforgettable marriage, it did not start well.

Born in 1908, Wang Yingxia is a native of Hangzhou, Zhejiang Province, and was known as the "First Beauty of Hangzhou" at that time. In February 1928, she and Yu Dafu were married at the West Lakeside Grand Hotel in Hangzhou, when she was 20 years old and Yu Dafu was 32 years old. Beauty Queen Yingxia is also a talented woman, she was admitted to the Zhejiang Women's Normal School in 1923. Hangzhou female teachers are full of talents, and Wang Yingxia is one of the best among them. Wang Yingxia first knew Lu Xun and Guo Moruo, and later learned about Yu Dafu, and was very impressed with his talent. By chance, Yu Dafu was deeply infatuated with this young and beautiful talented woman.

Wang Yingxia can be said to be the most important woman in Yu Dafu's life, and the relationship between the two is considered to be one of the most famous love affairs in the history of modern literature. When Yu Dafu began to pursue Wang Yingxia, Wang Yingxia was hesitant. After all, the two have different backgrounds. One is a student, the other is a famous writer, not to mention that Yu Dafu already had an original wife Sun Quan before he met Wang Yingxia, and had 3 children. However, the arranged marriage between Yu Dafu and Sun Quan, which was completely brokered by his parents, was doomed to go on forever. One is an Oriental student with a full belly and a gentleman, and the other is a country woman with small feet and big braids; One is the thousands of gold of a rich and famous large family, and the other is the drifting children of the ruined squire's house. Although he later had a child, when Yu Dafu met Wang Yingxia, the floodgates of love opened again, and a surging love offensive came towards Wang Yingxia.

In the face of Yu Dafu's fanatical pursuit, Wang Yingxia was hesitant at first. Although the dense love letters are a bit heartwarming to Wang Yingxia, but when she thinks of this man who has 3 children, her living conditions are very complicated after all, and she wants to avoid this love and find another prince charming. However, the love letter with a very good writing skill finally made Wang Yingxia a "prisoner" of love and threw herself into the arms of Yu Dafu. So, how did Yu Dafu impress Wang Yingxia? It was this letter that made Wang Yingxia, who was initially hesitant, accept Yu Dafu's pursuit. In a letter to Wang Yingxia, Yu Dafu said: "I am not willing to break up this happy event. But Ms. Wang, there is only one marriage in life, marriage and love, there is a delicate relationship, but you have to think about when you are married for more than a year, you have to be a housewife every day, or drag a child, bare breasts and other situations, I think you will be able to decide the path you are considering now. Would you rather be a slave to your family? Or would you rather be a free queen? Your life can be independent, your freedom, should never be so gently abandoned..." Perhaps the woman in love has zero IQ, and Yu Dafu's affectionate words actually played a role, making her betray her "original intention". Soon, Wang Yingxia and Yu Dafu came together and formed a new family.

The combination of talents and beautiful people has always been a hot spot of people's attention, not to mention that Yu Dafu is a well-known talent, and this marriage has naturally become a good story in the literary world.

After marriage, Yu Dafu really managed his new family with his heart, and he brought a happy life to Wang Yingxia. Wang Yingxia was also endlessly satisfied with Yu Dafu, and even wrote in her autobiography: "The monthly expenditure is 200 yuan for Yinyang, equivalent to more than 20 stones of white rice, which can be said to be a family of medium or above." Of this, $100 is spent on eating. The price is cheap, Yinyang 1 yuan can buy a large turtle, you can also buy 60 eggs, my family eats better than Lu Xun's family. ”

However, no one has a thousand days, and no flowers have a hundred days of red. After 12 years of ups and downs, the marriage between Yu Dafu and Wang Yingxia has come to an end due to many factors such as age and personality. As Wang Yingxia commented in her autobiography in her later years: "What I want is a stable and stable home, while Yu Dafu can only be friends with him and cannot be husband and wife." So the biggest difference with Uddhav is that I have a different personality from him. "The passage of history has smoothed out the love and hatred in my heart, and all that remains is a deep nostalgia." His son Yu Fei also sincerely described his father in his eyes: "My father is a person with obvious advantages and obvious shortcomings, he loves the country very much, and he is also very enthusiastic about his friends, but he is too impulsive in his life, so that his family and life are very unpleasant." He is not a saint, just a man of letters, do not glorify him, do not demonize him. ”

Because "family and life are very unpleasant", the cracks in Wang Yingxia's love life have attracted the attention of people, especially young men, and it is inevitable that someone will launch a love offensive against her, in today's words, "third party intervention". Yu Dafu suspected that the intervening agent was Xu Shaodi, the director of the Zhejiang Provincial Education Department, because before the War of Resistance Against Japanese Aggression, Xu Shaodi and his classmate Yu Dafu and his classmates who studied in Japan had more contacts, and there was also a relatively close relationship between the two families. After the outbreak of the Anti-Japanese War, Yu Dafu was invited to work in the Fujian Provincial Government, and his wife Wang Yingxia avoided chaos in Lishui. At that time, Xu Shaodi, who was carrying 2 children, also happened to move to Lishui with the Zhejiang Department of Education. In a chaotic world, any normal action is often suspected and distorted, and rumors are rife. What's more, it is rumored that Yu Dafu found Xu Shaodi's love letter to his wife at home, and Yu Dafu was furious and stabbed the matter into the newspaper in a fit of anger, which eventually caused a conflict between Yu and Xu and the divorce between Yu Dafu and his wife.

But no matter what, Wang Yingxia is still very attached to Yu Dafu's marriage. Wang Yingxia recalled in her later years: "If there was no previous him (Yu Dafu), maybe no one would know my name, and no one would be interested in my life; Without the latter him, I might still be adrift for the rest of my life. The passage of the long river of history has smoothed out the love and hatred in my heart, leaving only deep nostalgia. ”