Love at 37.2°C

When watching the literary and artistic movie "Paris Wild Rose", I heard the following line and suddenly felt that my heart was emptied:

"I've met a lot of people who made me have a fever and I thought it was love and it burned out everything. Someone sent me chills and disappeared into my life. Someone made me warm, but it was just warmth. Only you, made my body temperature rise by 0.2 degrees. ”

In medicine, the normal temperature of the human body is 37 ° C, when encountering love, the body will naturally secrete a wonderful substance - phenylethylamine alcohol.

It stimulates the brain and central nervous system, makes people feel happy, the heart beats faster, and the body temperature rises by 0.2 ° C.

In fact, the temperature of love, like the body, is too high or too low to make people sick.

37.2 ° C is the most beautiful temperature of love, neither hot, nor cold, just right in the palm of your hand.

No one can drink a sweet drink, and most of the time it is comfortable to drink boiled water.

For me, love at 37.2°C is the most comfortable companionship, neither wronging myself nor others.

My college roommate and top bunk has been with her boyfriend for 6 years.

I often lament that they are the ones who are destined to be, and they are also the most stable and healthy of all the couples I know.

On weekends, I went to their place to find a roommate. The roommate fiddled with the vase in the living room, trying to put into practice what she had recently learned in floral class, while her boyfriend took care of some work in the study.

We talked and laughed in the living room for a while and got ready to go out shopping. Before leaving, her boyfriend came out of the study, smiled and praised her for the beautiful flower arrangement, and finally did not forget to tell her to come back early.

In time for dinner, we pushed open the door of our roommate's house, the aroma of the meal came to the face, and there were four dishes and a soup on the table, simple but warm.

The chef, who was still busy in the kitchen, beckoned us to eat first, and he wanted to serve the stewed braised meat.

At the dinner table, we talked about gossip and recent plans, and I found that when they talked about their next arrangements, they would ask each other's opinions, but they would tacitly agree not to require each other to participate.

Of course, remember in the beginning, they weren't like that.

Stick together every day, in front of me a mouthful of my dear. At that time, her roommate was an avid fan of Mayday, and her boyfriend accompanied her across the province to see Mayday's concerts.

Although the roommate knows that the boyfriend has no feelings for Mayday, he will still ask to be together every time.

Correspondingly, she would give up the weekend time with us to spend an afternoon with her boyfriend in Starbucks, although she didn't know what the fictional character story was.

At that time, their love pattern was sticking together, which also gave us the illusion that two people were happier together.

This state was not until Valentine's Day in the senior year, when at 11 o'clock in the evening, the roommate dragged their tired bodies back to the dormitory, and it turned out that they were lined up for 2 hours just waiting for dinner.

In order to prepare gifts for her boyfriend, the roommate saved money by using the mechanical keyboard she bought, but due to logistics reasons, she could not arrive before this night.

The sense of ceremony that was originally full of expectations was instead dispersed.

It may be that they are afraid, they seem to have reached some kind of agreement, and they appear in front of me less and less in a sweet gesture.

When I found out, I immediately asked her roommate if there was a problem with their relationship.

I remember my roommate saying something like this:

The closer people are, the more difficult it is to win together in the matter of "sharing a time".

The longest-lasting relationship should be comfortable with each other.

I think they have now reached a state of comfort with each other.

They seem to have a natural tacit understanding, taking care of each other without affecting each other. It seems extreme, but in fact, from another angle, it fits seamlessly.

I've seen a lot of couples who can't help themselves in public, I've seen couples who condemn each other for not caring enough about themselves, I've seen a person in a movie theater who looks focused, a person who is sleepy...

I see that many girls are prone to fall into the wrong place when they talk about love.

Like to calculate what each other has done in love and who has paid for how much. Of course, it is possible to be carried away by love at the beginning, but a long-term relationship must be comfortable.

When watching "Chunjiao Saves Zhiming", there is a line that impressed me particularly.

Zhang Zhiming told Yu Chunjiao: It is not easy for two people to maintain a good relationship, and don't destroy it because of what you have done or not done.

Pleasant romantic relationships are often willing to give up part of their time and energy to participate in each other's lives, and at the same time, they can moderately understand each other and not force him to deliberately cater to himself.

Two people together are not comfortable together because they have the right viscosity.

It's because it's comfortable to be together, so there's a stickiness that you still want to be together.

If one day I have someone I want to spend my life with, then our relationship must be:

On a great weekend, two guys leaning over each other's shoulders, he playing his game, I chasing my play, how comfortable.

I feel happy thinking about it, like winter in my own bed.

Probably the most comfortable relationship is

There is tacit space and space between each other

There is also unspoken respect and understanding

Time is gentle, but you need to understand,

Life is cute, but also need your pet!