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He and I met in the summer of 2010 in a video fight landlord, his online name is Ah Xiong, let's call him Ah Xiong! When fighting the landlord, I saw him in the video with a lonely face, smoking non-stop, not playing cards at all, I wondered if this man had any concerns, and after a while I received a friend application from him, and I accepted.
Later began to chat, I asked him if there was something unhappy, he told me that the woman he loved deeply left him, he was very sad, I asked him why, he said that the woman had a lot of unavoidable hardships to leave, I also thought he was stupid, I advised him, that woman does not love you, if you love, she will not be willing to leave you, she left to delete everything in their common qq. So we met, chatted occasionally, and during that time he was very decadent, and I kept comforting him and enlightening him to come out.
He is not far from me, he is the railway department, in a station as a duty officer, after getting acquainted with sometimes play games together, chat together, unconsciously to May 2011, he said he transferred work, let me guess where the transfer was, I guessed, transferred to the station closer to me, as the deputy station chief, it was half an hour away from me, and then he often looked for me to play games, chat, he knew that I like to eat crayfish, and the crayfish he made in the place was very famous, he said please me to eat, We met for the first time in August, the first time I met him, I fell in love with him at first sight, he was more handsome and sunny than in the video, and later after contact, I felt that he was very gentle and considerate, and we were together.
In the Spring Festival of 2012, I went to the station to play, he went on duty, I saw him on the computer and the woman who left him contacted him, she asked him to help her mother and brother buy train tickets, also saw their chat records, he said he couldn't forget her, and he had been waiting for her, and at that time I just happened to be pregnant, when he went back to the dormitory, I said if you really can't forget her, you shouldn't be with me, I told him I was pregnant and left, after I came back I went to the abortion with my girlfriend, he knew to come and see me, full of guilt for me, During the Spring Festival, I proposed to break up, and he also agreed, but then there was no separation, until August 2014, he split his legs, I know, proposed to break up.
He didn't say anything, I was really tired, didn't want to dwell on it anymore, during the period of several years he has been constantly ambiguous women, so this time I was determined to leave, but after a few days, he sent a message that he was demoted to another station as a duty officer, it turned out that he was too strict in management, offended people, so some employees reported him when he was on duty to play games, demoted by the car maintenance section, I hurt him, and returned to him. He was at the station more than a hundred miles away from me this time, it was inconvenient to take the bus to change trains, so every time I rode a two-hour motorcycle to see him, he liked to eat dumplings, sausages, I wrapped dumplings, poured sausages to send him, many people at their station envied him for having a person who hurt him so much.
My inseparable touched him, he hugged me and said, wife you are good to me, husband is remembered in his heart, husband will love you with his heart, I know that he is sincere, I am better for him, he rests and comes back, I rest to go to him, once I rested to go to his place, I went to work in the afternoon, when I was ready to go at noon, he was reluctant to let me go, I stayed for an extra hour, and then it rained, I had to go to work again, I had to turn around in the middle of the car, no way, I rode a motorcycle to wear a raincoat, When I came back, my clothes and shoes were wet, but I didn't feel bitter in my heart.
Later, the train section after investigation to know that the demotion is wronged him, last June let him in the current station as a deputy station manager, his ability to work in the train section is still very famous, as long as it is every competition of the railway bureau, as long as he participated in the ranking, his station in the industrial zone, pollution is very serious, he has always wanted to transfer away, after the Spring Festival this year, I went with him to find the leader of the train section, to his father died, to take care of his mother, request to transfer out of the current station, in May, he was transferred back to the previous station, We were both very happy.
I also know in my heart that in the past two years he really loves me with his heart, he is not allowed to buy clothes for me, I said that he does not want to buy clothes for him, I also feel ashamed of him, my salary is not much, I often feel guilty to him, are the wife's salary is not much, dragging you down, he often holds me and says, wife, this kind of plain, go with the flow of life, as long as there is you, I am very moved, every time he comes back, I do what he likes to eat, he likes to eat beef hot pot, like to drink a little wine, I will try to get you pure sorghum wine, soaking wine, he likes to eat meat, I am reluctant to eat, said I lose weight, watch him eat I feel happy, I like to listen to him the most, wife meat is so fragrant, I am reluctant to eat ...
Later, I still felt his abnormality, but I think that in the past few years, we have also seen the truth in the past few years, and he has always been very good to me, he will not not cherish it, even if he occasionally chats online, he will not take it seriously. Until one day he rested and said that he overslept, did not catch the car and could not come back, I felt that he had someone else, I felt uncomfortable, those days did not pay much attention to him, when I rested he asked me if I could go, I gambled and said no, you enjoy it!
On October 16th he told me that he invited his colleagues to dinner in the evening and that I didn't go to work. After that day he didn't contact me much, and then came back once, I saw him wearing new clothes, I know that he never bought clothes and shoes himself, he has others, I didn't say, just asked, when to buy clothes, he didn't talk, I didn't want to say, so the next day he said back to his hometown to see his mother, I heard a song when I called, I knew he didn't go back, must have gone to the woman's house, I said, you didn't come home, if you really have someone else, you tell me, I fulfill you. He said we'll all calm down and talk about it in a few days. After a few days he messaged me that he said that he did not know him before very well, often went out to play, cooked him every day after being with him, did not have money to let me go out to play, saved money and looked forward to the day of salary, said that not long ago met a woman who really touched the above feelings, although their age difference is very large, but let him have a sense of home, he said that he also wrote me with tears, thinking about the hot pot I made for him, thinking about the good wine I made for him, his heart was also very uncomfortable, and he was really reluctant to leave But we were too tired together, and it was he who was sorry for me.
After receiving the message I went to the station, he was on duty, I opened the door and went in, I saw his closet, full of new clothes, including panties, socks, belts, and the woman's makeup bag, I waited for him to come back and asked him, are these all things she bought for you? He said yes, I said it was for these clothes, you are going to leave me, you said he gave you the feeling of home, I cooked for you, cut your nails, gave you a massage, is there no feeling of home...
He was crying, crying very sadly, the staff called to say that there was something wrong, he went out, I sent a message saying I was gone, he said let me wait for him, I said no, I fulfilled him. Later, I was still reluctant and did it, but he had gradually drifted away, so I also gave up and did not pestering him. But after a while, the woman actually sent me a message to provoke me, nothing more than to call Ah Xiong and text him to keep him, he told her, the message she also read, her general meaning is that she has money, Ah Xiong chose her, and there is a woman to be confident, I also replied to the message, do you think that the man who coaxed with money will be long? I am confident that Ah Xiong has loved me with all his heart, and you must not have this confidence. Later I called and asked Ah Xiong, did she message him to know? He said he didn't know at first, and then I knew when I replied to the message.
I asked him, did I say I pestered you after the separation? What qualifications does she have to send me a message, my original intention is to want Ah Xiong's sorry, don't want Ah Xiong but say that women are not all like this? You weren't like this before, I was angry, I also said harsh words, she has something to do, no matter how good it is, I use the leftovers, you tell her that there is another such provocation, I will let her understand what is called the disaster from the mouth, he hung up the phone, sent a message saying that I deleted WeChat, the phone is deleted, so that it will not harass you, I am not good, it is deleted.
After calming down, I think it is really not worth it, I sincerely hope to get together and disperse, but I still don't disperse happily. Six years of feelings lost to money, and his friend said the woman looked like a.
The girlfriend asked me, what kind of person do you want to find in the future, I said I still want to find a good one for me, the girlfriend said, you don't want to be too stupid, you can find his money or power in the future, don't look for good for you, he is not good for you, you have nothing, is it not enough to eat a loss? Am I really wrong in this impetuous society at the moment?
Qiu Yan said, "Whether or not emotional things can be cultivated into positive results does not lie in fate, but in sincerity." If a man just treats you like a spare tire, then it is useless for you to be nice to him, and he will replace you at any time. Women always learn to reflect after being hurt, but this is also good, see men again, and you will not take so many detours on your future emotional road. ”
When a relationship begins, you can love with the determination to cultivate the right results, but at the same time be prepared to give up at any time. If you don't find anything wrong at first, take it one step at a time, and if the relationship goes well, it's best. If the other person betrays you while walking, then leave decisively and don't get back together. The ending of the split is often a breakup, he can betray many times once, you don't have to jump into the fire pit again and again.
About the author: Donglin Xiting, an emotional writer, specializes in the treatment of various difficult diseases in love and marriage. I have wine and tea, and if you have a story, come to me. Today's headlines: Donglin Xiting, Weibo: Donglin Xiting, WeChat public number: Donglin Xiting