"Los Angeles Flowers"
Two post-90s heroes and heroines, both graduated from the "985" college, fell in love, got married and had children; just after the two finally dreamed of becoming new Beijingers, what awaited them was a protracted divorce lawsuit. In the novel "Los Angeles Flowers" launched by Mao Dun Literature Prize winner and famous writer Zhou Daxin at the beginning of this year, this is the end of Chinese love and marriage.
The author Zhou Daxin was at the scene of the dialogue
More than half a year has passed, and the discussion of readers and netizens about the story in the book has continued to ferment, which directly led to a dialogue about this topic work on Sunday (September 12) and also began among the three special guests. Zhou Daxin, the author of "Los Angeles Flowers", Liang Yong'an, a professor at Fudan University who became popular for opening love classes online, and Yang Xiaolin, executive director of the Marriage and Family Law Research Association of the China Law Society and a lawyer who is good at fighting divorce lawsuits, sat together in Shanghai and talked about the real topic of marriage and love that the novel introduced.
Internet celebrity professors:
It's also worth doing self-subtraction together
On popularity, in this dialogue, guest Liang Yong'an is undoubtedly the strongest. His job status is to teach comparative literature and literary writing at Fudan University, a professor of Chinese, but netizens are more familiar with his other identity: the B station UP master who opened love classes on the Internet. As of this month, his number of B-station fans has exceeded 500,000, and he has received more than 640,000 likes.
Liang Yongan, a professor at Fudan University who became popular for setting up love classes
In this dialogue, Liang Yongan also admitted at the beginning that it is because of the relationship between the love class that he has a lot of contact with young people, and many young girls are willing to exchange their emotional experiences with him. Combined with his previous exposure to sharing and this reading of "Los Angeles Flowers", Liang Yongan bluntly said that the post-90s generation is really not suitable for marriage.
He took the hero and heroine of "Los Angeles Flowers" as an example of getting married through blind dates, saying that blind dates are a convenient way to solve the acquaintance of men and women, "but there is a big problem with blind dates, that is, what exactly is the blind date?" The person you meet may not know his ins and outs for a short period of time. ”
Liang Yongan said that in the era of agricultural society and green plum bamboo horses, everyone understands the whole picture of each other, "but now, all we see is fragments, and this fragment is completely insufficient as a basis for building emotions." "Liang Yongan believes that two people love each other, should love each other in life, not the conditions for loving each other." And most of the blind dates are talking about marriage, not about love, so many young people get married under the premise of losing love, then this kind of marriage is inherently insufficient. Liang Yongan said bluntly, "Now many people think that they are in love, but they are actually talking about marriage, talking about the standards and conditions." ”
Moreover, in Liang Yongan's view, "today's young people give people the feeling that they are both eager for each other, and they all hope that the other party can provide more for themselves, and the less their output, the better." As a result, even many people who get married are married with problems, so it is reasonable that the divorce rate is high.
Having a problem certainly requires support. Liang Yongan said with emotion, "'Los Angeles Flowers' makes us realize that love is too precious, and if you really meet it, you need to cherish it one hundred percent." He also supported the young people in love at the moment, "In order to be together, even if the self has to do a lot of subtraction, to subtract a lot of the original self, it is worth it." ”
Divorce Lawyer:
"Los Angeles Flowers" and reality reflect each other
In the novel "Los Angeles Flowers", the divorce lawsuit of the hero and heroine has gone through four trials, and almost everyone in the book is involved. Being able to describe the divorce court trial in such detail, as well as the details related to it, shocked and admired Yang Xiaolin, who studied law.
Yang Xiaolin, executive director of the Marriage and Family Law Research Association of the China Law Society
Yang Xiaolin said that in his own view, "Los Angeles Flowers" is very forward-looking. In the case that the defendant does not agree to the divorce, through the lawyers of both sides to fully express their views, organize the corresponding evidence, and then, the judge mentioned that it is necessary to change the past simplified treatment, give both parties a chance and time to fully express their views, and then directly judge the divorce. Therefore, this is both a literary work and a reflection of reality.
Yang Xiaolin said that the law usually does not care about the specific reasons in the process of a marriage breakdown, but based on facts and evidence, it is necessary to judge whether the marriage should be dissolved and how to disintegrate. As the executive director of the Marriage and Family Law Research Association of the China Law Society, Yang Xiaolin has handled many divorce cases, and the law often solves the real rights and interests problems such as property division and child support.
"I highly recommend Engels's saying: If only love-based marriage is moral, then only marriage that continues to maintain love is moral." "If feelings have indeed disappeared or have been squeezed out by new feelings, it will make divorce a blessing for both parties and society, and it will also save people from being caught up in unhelpful divorce proceedings," he said. ”
In response to the topic of divorce, Yang Xiaolin said that in fact, law and literature have their own emphases. He said that the law does not care about how many specific contradictions and how many chicken feathers a couple have in their lives, but is more concerned about how to operate in the process of separation and how to protect the rights and interests of both parties. "Therefore, as a means of facing problems and solving problems, the law is concerned with the protection of rights and interests, while literature is always concerned with emotional logic and emotional healing."
Upstream journalist Qiu Jinyi