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Beijing, September 15 (China News Service) -- At the beginning of this year, Zhou Daxin, a famous writer and winner of the Mao Dun Literature Prize, published a long novel titled "Los Angeles Flowers.") Unlike all his previous novels, this book is devoted to Chinese love and marriage. The heroes and heroines who graduated from 985 are all post-90s, and through blind dates, marriages, and children, they have become decent new Beijingers. However, the years did not come as expected, but they had to divorce the court... Four trials, tongues and swords, different opinions, marriage and divorce are very tired, but the problems are particularly exposed, almost everyone's marriage is dragged into it.
After the book was published, a lively discussion formed on the Internet. In order to respond to readers' questions, the People's Literature Publishing House recently invited Liang Yong'an, a lecturer in the "One Seat" love class and professor at Fudan University, Yang Xiaolin, a famous divorce lawyer in Beijing and executive director of the Marriage and Family Law Research Association of the China Law Society, and zhou Daxin, the author, to interact with online and offline readers to discuss the Chinese-style marriage story in "Los Angeles Flowers" and support the "post-90s" trick - how to use "marriage businessmen" to face the emotional relationship in the era of human-machine interconnection.
Liang Yong'an has a lot of contact with young people, because of the relationship between teaching love classes, many young girls are willing to share their emotional experiences with him. After reading "Los Angeles Flowers", he knew more about the "post-90s".
The hero and heroine of the book are married through blind dates. In Liang Yongan's view, in modern society, blind dates are a convenient way to solve the problem of acquaintances between men and women, but there is a big problem in blind dates, that is, what is the opposite? The person you meet may not know his ins and outs in a short period of time, and all he sees is a fragment, and this fragment is not enough as a basis for building emotions. At the same time, two people in love with each other should be the people who love each other, not the conditions for loving each other. Both parties are resourced and functionalized, and this kind of marriage can be described as innately inadequate.
He believes that no matter what generation, there are two things to solve in a lifetime: one is to find what you like to do the most, and the other is to find the person you like the most. Now it seems that the reason why the latter is more difficult is that the lack of emotional communication guidance in the way a generation grows up, so some "post-90s" may have obstacles in terms of emotional output. "Today's young people feel that they are all eager for each other, and they all hope that each other can provide more for themselves, and the less their output, the better." Therefore, even if they are married, many people are married with full of problems, and the divorce rate is reasonable. ”
In his view, love is too precious, if you really meet it, you must cherish it 100%. "In order to be together, both sides have to try to add or subtract something and make the two people adapt to each other, and it's worth it." What really belongs to marriage is something that two people create together. This is the essence of love and marriage: the world shared by two people is not ready-made, it is created. ”
"Los Angeles Flowers Fall" book cover Courtesy of the People's Literature Publishing House
Yang Xiaolin, executive director of the Marriage and Family Law Research Association of the China Law Society, said that the law usually does not care about the specific reasons in the process of a marriage breakdown, but judges whether and how the marriage should be dissolved based on facts and evidence. In his many years of experience as a divorce lawyer, he has encountered many cases, and the law often solves the real rights and interests problems such as property division and child support. Yang Xiaolin believes that in addition to love, there are also the obligations and responsibilities of both parties in marriage, "also as a means to face problems and solve problems, the law pays attention to the protection of rights and interests, while literature always cares about emotional logic and emotional healing."
Unlike all of Zhou Daxin's previous novels, "Los Angeles Flowers" is dedicated to Chinese love and marriage. Zhou Daxin uses a "reality show" story to lift the veil of marriage from the perspective of human feelings and law. Under the appearance of "trial marriage", the writer explores the emotional ability brought by the original family, and also covers some of the current situations of love and marriage in the current reality: high-quality singles, dink, flash marriage and divorce, online blind dates, widowhood parenting...
The ideal marriage is the appeal of all people, but the bone of reality always makes the marriage scarred. In the marriage story of "Los Angeles Flowers", there are times, there are realities, there are strange and strange lives, and there are complex relationships with people. Where will the institution of marriage go in the future? This is a problem that both law and literature face. (End)
Source: China News Network