For the same thing, every time we repeat it, the threshold is raised a little bit, and higher stimulation is needed to reach the same feeling as before. This also explains why some people cheat in marriage, the most classic phenomenon is that many men obviously have a delicate wife in the family, but he will still go out and mess around, even if those women are far inferior to their wives.
If you understand the Coolidge effect, you are actually relieved.
What is the Coolidge effect
The word comes from an old story where U.S. President Calvin Coolidge and his wife visited a poultry farm. During the tour, Mrs Calvin asked the farmer how so many eggs could be hatched from such a small number of roosters. The farmer proudly explains that his rooster performs its duties dozens of times a day.
"Tell Mr. Coolidge," replied the First Lady emphatically.
When the president heard this, he asked the farmer, "Does every rooster serve the same hen?" ”
"No," replied the farmer, "there are many different hens. ”
Please tell Mrs. Coolidge," replied the President.
Therefore, the Coolidge effect refers to the phenomenon of male animals having intercourse with their new mates immediately after intercourse. Most mammals no longer have sex for some time after intercourse, even if their original mate is around. This phase is called the refractory phase. Its length varies depending on the type of animal and the surrounding environment, some minutes, some hours or days. However, if the male animal is given a new female estrus object after mating, its refractory period will be greatly shortened, and even immediately after mating behavior. This effect of animals on new mates causes a single male animal to conceive different mates. Its biological significance is to contribute to the continuation of the species.
In the past, the hooligans in our dormitory often said a sentence called "turn on the sage mode" and "instantly become boring".
This is actually the Coolidge effect.
This effect is reflected in us humans, explained in a very vulgar phrase: "Behind every goddess you kneel and lick, there is one... to the man who wants to throw up".
In terms of love:
1. The appearance of a new opposite sex will be rejuvenated, and the performance of eliminating or reducing the refractory period is the Coolidge effect. Simply put, it means that animals will seek different objects, like the new and dislike the old, and can also be said to be able to distinguish the opposite sex that has mated. Therefore, corresponding to humans, it can be explained that humans will cheat, and it is not limited to men and women, and women have also been confirmed to have the Coolidge effect, but men are more abusive.
2. The Coolidge effect occurs, male animals do it in order to continue genes, and female animals do it in order to select better genes. This corresponds to the same thing in people. This is actually written into the genes.
3. Dopamine is a neurotransmitter, surrounded by neurons, and people's lust, feelings, excitement and cheerfulness and other feelings are caused by dopamine, the more dopamine, the more excited and happy people are. Dopamine is also a substance that secretes a lot when we are in love and mating. So there's a saying that the essence of love is that when you meet someone, you secrete a lot of dopamine. Falling in love is also a chemical reaction in the brain.
4. Being with a person will keep dopamine at a level for a long time and reach a threshold. Only stimulation to produce more dopamine can break through the threshold. And the fastest way is a new opposite sex,
5. We can't use the Coolidge effect or instinct or dopamine to justify cheating, humans are not like animals, so we can and should be responsible for our actions. Love and marriage are not only about meeting physical needs, but more importantly about spiritual needs and emotional needs, love and responsibility. So definitely don't pursue love and marriage for your physical needs
Self-discipline aspect
The biggest killers of self-discipline are videos and games, because the people who make them are the ones who know best how to manipulate dopamine.
Before there was no such short video as vibrato, everyone could still sink their hearts to read the book; but now everyone is brushing short videos, everyone has become extremely impetuous, not to mention, a good article in depth has been difficult to read.
Behind all this, in fact, your dopamine is manipulated by short videos, your threshold becomes very high, and you must constantly brush up on a funny video to make you feel the same happiness.
This is how the world manipulates us, by raising our dopamine threshold, taking us step by step into the abyss.
Therefore, the best way to self-discipline is to stay away from temptation. As long as there is a first time, there will be a second time, a third time...
To the abyss.
The underlying logic behind this is actually the dopamine threshold, that is, people's desires can never be satisfied, and once they are satisfied, they will have greater desires.
If you can't do it, you're in danger.
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