While chatting with a friend who does the emotion number, he said that he had recently received a late-night letter from a female reader.
She and her boyfriend have been in love for two months, some time ago the two people went on a National Day trip together, and when she stayed in the hotel at night, she deliberately booked two rooms, but the boyfriend was furious after seeing it, and in front of the hotel attendant, he slammed the door.
In the vast sea of people in a different place, the girl chased her boyfriend for a long time, she originally thought that the boyfriend was angry because she did not believe him and opened two rooms, but just when she wanted to explain, the boyfriend said such a sentence.
"I've talked about four girlfriends, each of whom is better looking than you, haven't all of them slept with me?" You've been with me for two months, don't you have enlightenment when you come out together this time?
Across the computer screen, the friend has been listening to the girl complaining, she said that she is not unwilling, but did not want to think so fast, I listened to the story, suddenly interrupted the friend's words: "Is it not at this time that you should not care about the first half of what your boyfriend said?" Every one of my girlfriends is better looking than you, haven't they all slept with me? ”
Friends will smile when they hear this.
"There's also Stockholm Syndrome in love."
The so-called Stockholm Syndrome refers to a complex in which the victim of a crime develops feelings for the perpetrator and even helps the offender in turn. This symptom is reflected in love, but it is clear that he is the wronged person, and the other party is the scumbag. But I don't know why, but I feel that I am not doing well enough, so that this relationship has lit up a red light.
It is said that love can make people better, but when you meet a wrong person, where love will make people better, love will only make people more humble, more stupid, and finally ruin their entirety.
From time to time, we hear such reports in the news.
The girl offered to break up, but the boy disagreed, threatening the two of them with the nude photos they had taken when they were warm, and even punching and kicking the girl. But even so, some girls prefer to believe that the reason why boys do this is because he loves himself. However, it is clear that this is not so much love as possession.
Because love is obviously not like this, where is love possessive? Love is more about sacrifice and fulfillment.
There is a question on Zhihu: What is the experience of the ex looking better than the current one?
Among so many answers, I saw such an interesting answer.
@ Lake Toya small fish
The ex is very handsome, handsome has a fart, just like you used to have a beautiful skirt, but you grew tall, the code is not right, can no longer wear, what to do? Give it away or throw it away. At that time, it was very heartache, and then I forgot, and occasionally when I went shopping, I would tell my friends that I had a beautiful dress before, but now I can't wear it, go, buy a new one.
In fact, either of the men and women, when they choose to break up with the ex and start a new relationship, in theory, he has completely let go of the ex, at least not actively.
And once either of the men and women frequently mentions the ex in the process of falling in love with the current, there is only one answer: he still has no feelings for the ex.
What should be said about such a person?
Don't tarnish the word infatuation, because if you are obsessed enough, you can't break up with the ex you love deeply.
Which one is infatuation? It's just an unwilling scumbag.
If you really love someone, you won't start a new relationship, because from the moment you start a new relationship, you are not only a scumbag who is good at breaking the thread, but also a scumbag who likes to play with feelings.
If the ex is not over, then there are only two choices in front of you, one is to choose to continue to wait for each other until the other party changes his mind; the other is to give time, and finally completely forget, and then open a new relationship.
If you abandon these two methods and choose to find a new object to forget your ex, it is really not the usual scum.
And those who take advantage of the current psychology of loving themselves deeply, the former is better than the current, and also pay more than the current for themselves as an excuse to force the current to do something against their hearts, that is, slag to slag.
Love should not have so much compulsion, love should not have so many entanglements, love is that I like you, you like me, nothing more.
Some time ago, when "Looking at Strange Stories", Gao Xiaosong made such an explanation of what is a good feeling.
Good feelings are what makes us the best of ourselves, pure and good selves, sincere ourselves, and our honest selves.
After throwing out so many poetic descriptions, what is a really good feeling? Good feelings are the ones that can bring us some good changes.
If you not only do not get any good changes in this relationship, but on the contrary, you are very miserable in it, and even have to sacrifice yourself to save this relationship, then I want to say: you must have met the wrong person, and that person is using the wrong feelings, intertwining a net for you, so that you are self-bound.
Zhang Youyi, a famous lady of the Republic of China, was born into a rich family, and at a young age, she was ordered by her parents to marry Xu Zhimo, a talented son at that time. After marriage, although the two had the crystallization of love, Xu Zhimo was natural and had no marital affection for Zhang Youyi.
Even if Zhang Youyi wanted to keep it in an extremely humble gesture in this relationship, no matter what compromise she made, she could not exchange Xu Zhimo's return. So after seeing clearly the essence of Xu Zhimo, Zhang Youyi resolutely agreed to Xu Zhimo's divorce request, and then lived in her own way for the remaining decades.
Several years later, even Xu Zhimo, who had abandoned Zhang Youyi, wrote to a friend and commented on her like this: C is a woman with ambition and courage, and she is really not afraid of anything now.
Unlike boys, once a girl falls in love, it means that she must entrust herself to a sincere man, if the man is not sincere enough, or not confident enough in this relationship, the value of the girl will continue to decline. At this time, the really smart girl should learn to stop the loss in time and let herself get rid of this wrong love quickly.
Writer Liu Tong said: Sometimes we like to complicate problems, but in fact, many things are not so complicated. Life is like this, and so are feelings.
So dear girl, I would like to say that if what you feel in a relationship is not happiness, but endless tossing, endless concessions, and endless troubles, then I think you will temporarily abandon your love and seriously calm down and think about the following three questions.
First: Do you really love each other? Second: Can you be sure that the other person really loves you? Three: If you leave him, is your life really hopeless?
After asking these three questions, follow your heart and make a decision.