Seeing that the New Year is less than a month away, it seems that the day when young people who are working alone will return home seem to be getting closer and closer.
I don't know if you are ready to go home for the New Year, anyway, there are many people around me who are eager to go home, but also have full of worries about the New Year.
When I was a child, I said that it was almost the New Year, but I had to study excitedly and unintentionally from a month ago. I was obsessed with wearing the new clothes that were resting in the cupboard, eating a lively and hearty Chinese New Year's Eve meal, and being able to collect a circle of relatives and friends.
Now when it comes to the New Year, the mentality is completely different. A few days ago with a few friends to eat, everyone complained that it was difficult to earn tickets after the money, and a rare consensus was reached: at this age, I was not so looking forward to the New Year, but instead it was a wave of anxiety.
Chestnut, 25 years old, single in graduate school
It is said that marriage urging is the collective nightmare of older young people, I don't understand, I am only 25 ah, spend the average age, how to share this matter.
When my parents heard that someone else's child had been, they knocked on the side and asked me if I had a boyfriend. Every time I don't say anything angry, I can have someone who looks at your girlfriend. The old couple also educated me with a sigh of relief: "Then it's good, it's good, there's no hurry to fall in love, and you'll talk about it after you work." ”
Almost after I went to graduate school for the second year, relatives visited the door in the New Year, and my marriage suddenly became the focus of everyone's attention.
The Seven Great Aunts and the Eight Great Aunts took turns to interrogate me with concern: "Why haven't you found a partner?" The older girls get, the less valuable they are. "Don't be too picky, there is no suitable classmate around you?" "Yes, I have a comrade-in-arms who seems to have no object, and he is also in Beijing, and the young man seems to be still a civil servant. ”......
My parents have also been brainwashed, as if last year I was still a baby who was not in a hurry to fall in love, and this year I became a hate to marry an older leftover woman, and every time I called, I had to ask if there was a place for me to find a partner.
It is convenient to call to find a reason to prevaricate, and this time I am afraid that going back to the New Year is another hard battle.
Volume, 23 years old, came to Beijing to work just over a year of market planning
This was the first time I was in a family affair that I had a feeling of being afraid to go home for the New Year.
What makes me really anxious is simple, with only one word: money. Exactly, because I don't have any money.
A few days ago, I was exhausted when I grabbed tickets, got up early in the morning and set an alarm clock to prepare to let go, the result was sold out in less than a minute, and the plot of the second and third days was exactly the same, crying without crying. There is no way to spend four figures to buy a ticket, and the moment you pay it feels like your heart is dripping blood.
These days the New Year festival to engage in promotions, I stayed up to zero point to pick a lot of gift boxes for the family, selected the shopping cart to buy new year goods for the family and prepared to give themselves new clothes to buy, when the settlement looked at the total or hesitated, tangled for a while to buy things for themselves one by one to delete. The feeling at that moment was that if I made more money, I would be fine.
This is not the end, in our hometown New Year's Day to give pressure on the old age money is very serious. When I was in school, I was happy to receive red envelopes, and now that I am working, it is time to send them out.
After just a year of work, it is good to be able to support myself, let alone any savings. This is only in the preparation stage of the year, and the bonus at the end of the year is almost spent, and I am ready to hand over the salary in February to the Spring Festival.
Rhubarb, 27 years old, designer with no car, no house and no savings
Now when I mention going home for the New Year, my eyes are black.
In a place like Beijing, where there are talents everywhere, I admit that I am not outstanding, otherwise I would not be mixed up like this today. However, I can get out of my family's 36-line small county, and I can not be less energetic. The sisters who came to Beijing with me at that time have also returned one after another.
Every time I go back to the New Year, I hate to hide at home and not go out, otherwise the gossip of my relatives may make me depressed throughout the Spring Festival: "I don't see much in college, so many books are really read in vain", "Girls don't need to fight too hard, come back to find a good mother-in-law"...
After listening to so many harsh words, I still have to smile and thank them for their love, otherwise I will be treated as ignorant by my parents.
In addition to the gossip of these relatives, in fact, the most feared thing is to face the disappointed eyes of their parents, and the torture from the soul every time they leave: If you live outside, do you want to consider going home to develop?
I have run three people, no car, no house, no savings, it is really not a thing to say. But it's hard to come out, and you have to fight for breath without steaming the steamed buns. It's a shame to go back empty-handed.
When I was young, the New Year in my eyes was composed of brand-new clothes, shoes and hats, endless cannon battles, non-repetitive delicacies, and soft pressed money. When I return home, relatives and friends will come around and coax, and the whole family will greet the New Year with joy.
Now it's different, adults at this juncture, everyone has their own worries. Once we were the one who was pleased, now we want to please others, so we gradually changed from "like the New Year" to "afraid of the New Year".
Fear of gossip, fear of spending money, fear of marriage, fear of old classmates... The New Year is like a year-end summary node, forcing you to face those bad things that you are usually unwilling to face or even want to escape.
Women living in big cities, the state of anxiety is daily, especially at the end of the year, anxiety is particularly turbulent.
Some people care too much about the views and reactions of the outside world, and they can't face themselves honestly. Some people feel powerless at the lost years and the current encounters, and gradually begin to compromise the life that is unchanged like a boiled frog in warm water.
Even those who look glamorous have their own moments of anxiety.
As a contemporary woman who is starting a business, others seem to be very happy every day, but I don't hide from you, I am also in all kinds of anxiety.
Busy during the day, when lying in bed facing the ceiling at night, you will often fall into anxiety, but you will also tell yourself: this is a period of upward climbing, and all your efforts will not be in vain.
The more anxious you are, the harder you should work, rather than just subconsciously choosing to escape, or holding back in your comfort zone.
Although I complain so much, I still have to go back to my home, I still have to live in the new year, and I have to be happy with my family.
I only hope that you will continue to love life and continue to have illusions about the future in the new year. Follow your heart, do what you want to do, and be a better version of yourself.
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