#"Middle Class" Girl's Love Story with a Rural Doctor #
Wen \Xuanjie, Jiang Zuo Meiniang
The middle-class woman in Beijing only went to the doctor's Phoenix man's house once, and then collapsed and cried: Can the love across the class continue?
Yesterday, Mei Niang saw a true story in "China Youth Freezing Point". It is about the love story of a middle-class girl in Beijing and a phoenix man who is a doctor in rural Henan.
Because the article touches on the real views of modern people on class and marriage, it has resonated and discussed with many people. Almost everyone in the comment circle is one-sided and not optimistic about their love, almost all of them are persuasive.
Someone asked me what I thought? For this matter, Mei Niang's view may be different from everyone's.
Let's start with the story.
Lin Yiling, female, 28 years old, from Beijing, her parents worked within the system, and graduated from graduate school to work in a bank.
Song Qijiu, male, 32 years old, from rural Henan, poor family, Ph.D., working in the research institute.
Lin Yiling and Song Qijiu met because they belonged to the same mentor, knew each other because of common hobbies, and came together because of their love for each other, and it has been four years now.
Lin Yiling commented on Song Qijiu and said:
"Old Song is the shortest, least handsome, and poorest of the boyfriends I'm talking about, but he's also the most interesting."
It's really a lover's eyes.
Song Qijiu said of Lin Yiling:
"She thinks I have some weird ideas, and I think she has weird ideas."
Let me tell Song Qijiu his next subtext: Because we all have some strange ideas, we are "smelly".
In this way, two people are a rare natural pair of like-minded people, and in this year, there are really not many people who can be like-minded. However, if they want to continue, they cannot just stand on the clouds and fall in love without eating human fireworks, they must face each other's origins, families, relatives and public opinion from the outside world.
Therefore, when Lin Yiling was new year,he and Song Qijiu went to his hometown in rural Henan. Although she had made sufficient mental preparations in advance, Song Qijiu's dilapidated hometown still allowed her to stay for less than twenty-four hours, and then she fled back to Beijing in the cold and broke down and cried.
Lin Yiling knew about the countryside of Beijing, but she really did not know that the countryside of Henan was very different from the countryside of Beijing. Now Lin Yiling is still struggling with whether to continue with Song Qijiu, and Song Qijiu also cried while walking after sending Lin Yiling back to her home in Beijing, because he felt that "he had given everything he could to others, but he did not get a good result."
The love affair between Lin Yiling and Song Qijiu is a typical story of an urban woman and a phoenix man. In front of the birth, class encountered the head of the blood flow is not only their pair, there have been many lovers with their facts to prove the disadvantages of the combination of urban women and phoenix men, presumably Lin Yiling must have thought too much, will be so entangled.
So what should I do? Can this cross-class love continue?
Lin Yiling's girlfriend of many years, Pandan, said:
"One of the necessary factors to support these two people for a long time is that you can understand what I say, and I can understand what you say."
Does this matter? It's actually important, but it depends on who it is.
For a person who is in a state of material abject poverty, this is naturally not as important as bread, but for a person who has long since solved the problem of food and clothing in the material and has entered a well-off state, this point is irreplaceable. Lin Yiling is a person who has entered a well-off life, so for her, happiness is a spiritual feeling, and she can fully afford this happiness.
Even Yishu said:
"If I don't have a lot of love, then I'm going to have a lot of money."
Love is always in front of money, it is more expensive than money! And the most precious thing about love is this kind of equal "understanding and resonance", which is a high degree of enjoyment at the spiritual level and cannot be sought.
Obviously, Lin Yiling and Song Qijiu are partners of this spirit. Many of the things they do together are not like the things that a person who lives a life should do, but they have always enjoyed it, which is a rare "understanding".
Some people say that the feelings will change, if Lin Yiling and Song Qijiu have been able to maintain such a state, then their union must be happy, but the question is, after entering the marriage, will they always keep the original intention unchanged? So whenever one person changes, then all the practical problems will follow.
That's true, but isn't there a problem if you marry a rich man you don't love? Maybe there may not be any economic problems, but then "not loving" is a problem that cannot be solved.
With the person you love, there will really be a feeling of "sentient drinking and fullness", and with the person you don't love, will you really feel wrong, and the other party will not feel your coldness? Love is a two-way rush, one person does not love one person, even if the other person loves each other very much, then this imbalance will also go wrong sooner or later, and the last two people will turn their home into a presidential suite, which is also a cold hotel!
And a marriage, if there is real love as the foundation, even if the back becomes flat, it will be easier to adjust because of each other's cherishing, and it is easier to escape the reef of marriage.
In reality, many people are accustomed to putting all kinds of chips in marriage, such as birth, money, status, knowledge, etc., on the scale, and feel that only marriages with similar weight to each other are appropriate and should be chosen. There is nothing wrong with such ideas and practices, but people not only have various social attributes, but people still have thoughts and feelings. So find a like-minded person, if other conditions are not so good, but it is good to have this end, there is also a reason to be together, this kind of togetherness, even if outsiders feel that it is not so door-to-door, but that is the pursuit of each other's higher-end souls, as long as you feel happy yourself.
The writer Suzen said:
"It's best to get married to someone interesting, which lasts much longer than the joy of money and appearance."
The fun here is actually the appearance of a person's soul, life will sink our enthusiasm with plainness, only fun can make you play with the tough reality, interesting people can drink the breath of roses in a bowl of porridge, and interesting partners can stimulate the deepest happiness of your soul.
Who is the most interesting? Of course, the person who really understands you and can resonate with you is interesting, even if you have a bunch of money, but between you and your partner is always "I can't enter your world, I don't want to go to your world", even if there are some hormone attractions in the early stage, isn't it still like Guo Keyu and Zhang He, how can they not get married?
Of course, after getting married, the doctor's original family will affect the life of a little family, but now all kinds of medical insurance in the countryside are also very sound, the burden of the small family is not too heavy, even if you have to pay some living expenses every month, it is also very small compared with their income, not all phoenix men are like Yaping in "Double Sided Tape", and not all phoenix male parents are as ignorant as Yaping's parents.
What Lin Yiling has to do now is not to flee, but to investigate the family carefully, whether they are simple and kind people who can live a life, whether they will sincerely treat this daughter-in-law, if these are not a problem, then what is the harm in marrying a phoenix man who truly loves each other?
One thing that women always have to understand is that in a relationship, if you want a lot of money, it is difficult to get a lot of love, and if you don't have a lot of money, it is easier to get a lot of love. You ignore his poverty, fall in love with his beautiful character and interesting soul, your true love, how can he not cherish? And even if he really has a lot of money in the future, because he has a character escort, he will be happy to share with you, and if you marry into the so-called giants, everywhere to lower your eyebrows, which one will be happier?
Of course, this matter ultimately depends on what Lin Yiling wants most, as long as she is not greedy, she can be happy.
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