A wise man who seeks perfection
1. Man cannot be without wisdom. However, if you do not show your wisdom too much regardless of time and occasion, then you will be resented by others, and you will cause disasters to the upper body, and the so-called inner show in the heart can achieve great things. Confucius once praised Ning Wuzi, who defended the country during the Spring and Autumn Period, saying: "Ning Wuzi was wise when the country was at peace; when the country was dark, he pretended to be stupid." His cleverness, others can catch up; and his foolishness, others can not catch up. This may be the source of Zheng Banqiao's word "rare confusion"!
Lao Tzu said, "Great straightness is like bending, great cleverness is clumsy, and great debate is like nexus." People with great wisdom do not show signs of wisdom, do not show off their cleverness, and on the surface they look stupid, but in fact they are very clever. As the saying goes: "A full jar of water does not make a sound, and half a jar of water clangs." "If you pay attention, there are too many such phenomena in life. Experienced teachers know that the most enthusiastic speakers in class are not necessarily the best grades, and the results of not speaking are not necessarily the worst.
2. Whenever you are rebellious and unruly, you are afraid when you suddenly see them, and you are insensitive when you hear them for a long time. If there is not enough power to remove evil and publicize it, it can only make bad things public, make the people hear and see, and get used to seeing great rebellion without punishment. What majesty would the imperial court have in this way? In a battle of Zhaoling, Guan Zhong did not say that Zhang Chuguo had an act of exceeding his duty, and only accused it of having problems with tribute, because it was easy to have an end in doing so. It is also considering the persecution of the situation, which cannot but be so. Kong Ming sent people to congratulate Wu Guo as emperor, not out of his own wishes, but because of the situation, he also had to do so. Although Confucianism has defeated Yu Rong' saying, people cannot adapt to changes on the fly, and it is not shallow to mislead people.
3. As early as 2500 years ago, Confucius said an old saying: "Do not do to others what you do not want." This sentence tells the true meaning of being a human being. The so-called "do not do to others what you do not want" is to push others with your own heart; how you want to live, you think of how others will want to live; you don't want others to treat yourself how you don't want others to treat yourself, don't treat others like that; you hope to be able to stand in society, you can reach, you also help others to stand and reach. In short, from your own heart, push others, understand others, and treat others.
Why would someone be so kind to consider others? The real reason is: what you plant, what you reap. Sow an action and you will receive a habit; sow a habit and you will receive a personality; sow a personality and you will receive a destiny; sow a good deed and you will receive a good fruit; sow an evil deed and you will receive a bad result.
You have the right to treat other people unfairly, but your unfair attitude will make you "suffer the consequences." And, furthermore, the consequences of every thought you release will be rewarded to yourself. Because all your actions toward others, and your thoughts toward others, are recorded in your subconscious mind through the principle of self-suggestion, the nature of these actions and thoughts will modify your own personality. And your personality is equivalent to a magnetic field, attracting people or situations with the same personality as you to you and repelling other different kinds. If you want to make friends with kind and generous people, you must first become such people.
4. Wei Bo wanted to see Cao San, but could not see him directly, so he first gained his favor and help by serving his subordinates free of charge, and finally achieved his goal. Here the borrowing horse method is used. Sometimes you want to meet or give gifts to people, and the other party has nothing to do with you, you don't even have a chance to see him, at this time, you may wish to ask the recipient's friend to come forward to help introduce, that way, the convenience is embarrassed to refuse.
5. Mr. Gong Hong commented: "It is one kind of person who reads books to seek clarity, and it is another kind of person who reads books to seek enlightenment. Those who seek clarity and reason, once suddenly penetrated, must choose good and stubbornness, persist in reason, and sacrifice their lives at the expense of their own lives. As for those who seek enlightenment, reading becomes a means, but if you seek to enlighten yourself, everything can be flexible. The former can be represented by Boyi and Shuqi in the alternate era of Yin and Shang, and is called the Holy Qing by Confucius and later generations. As for the latter, The Uncle Sun Tong, a reader at the time of Han Gaozu, is a typical representative of it.
The timekeeper is Junjie. Those who recognize the trend of the times are smart and capable people. When deciding on the future, we must clearly understand the trend of the times and the current situation.
6. If you are a person with substance, you will not appreciate those who have no substance. People who are famous but not based on substance are not happy. There are often more people who appear to have substance on the surface than people who really have substance. Some hypocrites breed delusional schemes of deception, while others like this indulge in fantasies and prefer the unreal to the real. Their delusions inevitably lead to bad consequences because they lack a solid foundation. Only truth can give you true fame, and only substance will benefit you. A fraud, a chain of links, and soon the whole building collapsed in the air. The lack of roots is bound to not last. Their promises only make people suspicious, and their qualities are bound to be spurned.
7. Start with concessions and end with victory. This disguise is extremely important because you can use it to grasp the will of others. By first acting in his interests, you are actually blazing a trail for your own interests. Don't put the cart before the horse, panic and confusion, especially when it comes to risk. Be careful with people who open their mouths and say "no." The best thing to do is to cover up their intentions and not make them feel any difficulty in saying "yes", especially if you are aware of their resistance. This proverb is comparable to those of the proverbs about hidden intentions and requires the same subtlety and subtlety.
8. Bearing the burden of humiliation is the meaning of enduring humiliation and bearing heavy responsibilities. For those who do great things, bearing the burden of humiliation is the basic quality that must be possessed to achieve a career. Mencius said, "The heavens will send down a great task to the Scythians, and they will first suffer their minds, strain their bones and bones, starve their bodies, and sleep their bodies..." Being able to endure humiliation in various difficulties is an ability, and being able to endure humiliation is even more a skill. If you can't bear it, you will be chaotic and big, and those who have achieved great things can not be like this.
The arms of Gou Jian and Sima Yi can really be described as broad. However, in real life, it is not difficult for us to find that some people are calculating for their own little profits, facing each other, and even fighting with each other; some people can't rub sand in their eyes and can't forgive people. As for those who turn against each other because of an over-the-top joke, those who fight because of strange collisions, and those who meet each other because of neighborhood disputes, there are countless more. These are not tolerable humiliations, let alone to bear weights, and it is a fantasy to expect them to achieve great things. Patience must be cultivated, forbearance of humiliation needs to be measured, and forbearance of humiliation and burden is a realm. Forbearance is a sharp knife in the heart.
Today's highly civilized society is a people-oriented era, people's quality and cultivation are constantly improving, everyone knows that in big things to talk about principles, small things to talk about style, but to do saliva splash face without wiping, I think there are not many people with such a realm and cultivation, the vast majority of people do not have this kind of measurement. But as long as we remember a truth, in order to achieve our goal, we must learn to be patient in various adversities, patience is beneficial, and fighting will lose. It is true that the burden of humiliation that we emphasize is not absolute, this is relative, and if we blindly pursue the practice of obedience, we will lose our principles, and even lose our personality and even national character.
9. Judge the hour and size up the situation, see the situation clearly, grasp the key points, and take immediate action. See in which direction the whole situation will go, then specify a detailed plan according to the existing conditions, and implement it without hesitation whenever there is a suitable reality and a suitable person to carry it out.
An important key to Yang Yiqing's ability to strategize thousands of miles away and win a decisive victory in the capital is that he already has a very clear grasp of the facts of Liu Jin's rebellion, and the difference is only the best candidate who can expose Liu Jin's crimes. Zhang Yong, as a person close to the emperor, just gave Yang Yiqing the best opportunity, causing Yang Yiqing to overthrow Liu Jin, who was a disaster for the dynasty.
10. Make it easier to make money, make it harder to make a name.
In real life, many people have vanity, vanity psychology refers to a person borrowing external, superficial or other people's glory to make up for their own internal and substantive deficiencies, in order to win the attention and respect of others and society. It is a very complex psychological phenomenon. People with a strong sense of vanity like to show off their glorious experience in the past or today's brilliant achievements in front of others, they either talk about it, brag about it, or sensationalize it, so they make things that they can't do, and they can't do things that they can do, and things they don't understand should pretend to understand, all in order to improve themselves. People with a strong sense of vanity like to show off their famous and positioned relatives and friends, and try to use the glory of others to make up for their own deficiencies, while those relatives and friends who are nameless and have a "humble" status avoid talking about it, or even avoid it.
Paying attention to "face" and "face" in interpersonal communication is a kind of social psychology that Chinese formed for a long time. The so-called "face" is a specific image formed in the minds of others through image decoration and role play in order to improve oneself; the so-called "face" is a person's self-evaluation of the "face" in social interpersonal relations, and evaluates the position that he should have or occupy in the minds of others. Therefore, "face" and "face" represent the honor and dignity of human beings. If a person wants to have a face, he must first achieve great things, and through his extraordinary deeds and get people's praise, the image will be tall.
Therefore, in a sense, the cultural tradition of paying attention to "face" and "face" in Chinese social interpersonal communication has stimulated and strengthened the emergence of Chinese vanity to a certain extent.
11. Many people in the world who will take revenge and fall into the well, if they can receive the grace of dripping water like Lian Fan, it is really rare to repay them when they are in the spring. And Lian Fan knows Deng Rong, Deng Rong may not know Lian Fan, and it is even more unheard of in Bandai.
Drink water to think of the source, drink water to not forget to dig wells! The old saying "The grace of dripping water, when the spring repays" everyone knows, but how many people can remember it? Parents in the world, selfless love for us, for our fountain of life to inject people with infinite vitality and vitality, and how can we reciprocate?
12. In modern warfare, the meaning of bearing the burden of humiliation and seeking to stretch has developed into a flexible strategy to deal with a dangerous situation, to ensure that there is room for maneuver and the possibility of regeneration, to combine political and diplomatic struggle with military struggle, to seek to stand in an endless place first, and then to create conditions for victory over the enemy.
In the political and diplomatic struggle, it manifests itself in temporarily accepting the extremely harsh conditions of the enemy in order to gain a chance to breathe when it has suffered huge losses and is facing a desperate situation. For example, in the Third Middle East War, the Afghan side was suddenly attacked by Israel, some of its territory was occupied by the enemy, and its military strength was seriously damaged; in this situation, they ignored a large area of territory, accepted the terms of the ceasefire, temporarily endured the humiliation of defeat, with a firm determination of revenge, political unity, economic development, military strength, unremitting self-improvement, and enduring humiliation. Six years later, it decisively launched an attack on Israel, breaking through the Bar-Lev Line in one fell swoop, shattering the myth of Israel's invincibility, retaking back a large area of lost land, and washing away the previous shame. It can be said that if the Albanian side did not bear the burden of humiliation after 1967, it would not be able to talk about the victory in the war in October 1973.
All politicians who have a plan know that to dispel doubts and avoid slander, we must pay attention to art, and we cannot distinguish them directly. In the career, the hard-working spirit of the old scalper is necessary, but you can't just bury your head in the car and don't look up at the road. Only by constantly guarding against rumors from all directions and eliminating scruples from the top boss can we ensure that we can work hard. It is also a kind of wisdom to get along with the leader.
13. Desirelessness is rigidity. Desirelessness does not mean that there is no desire at all, like a wooden man or isolation from the world, but that there is no excessive desire and greed. Without greed, you can do "soft and hard and do not eat", adhere to the principle of being a person, and be strong at the highest.
And once there is greed, it is either "eating people's soft mouths and taking other people's hands soft", or "heroes are sad to be beautiful". In an era when "no money is impossible", corruption is a major public nuisance in society, and its roots and background are quite complex, but from the perspective of corrupt individuals, all of them are caused by the difficulty of filling in the desires. No matter how high your position is, no matter how old your qualifications, once you fall into insatiable desires, you will become a slave to money and material things, fall into the abyss of eternal disaster, and lose your reputation, what fortitude can you talk about?
14. This story is a "reaction" to the "radical law", sima Yi can endure insults, persevere to the end, and show the outstanding insight of a strategist. The art of war says, don't fight me. That is to say, once a situation is unfavorable to oneself, the right to fight or not to fight is in one's own hands, and at this time it is not a momentary courage, but a firm grasp of the initiative in war. A successful hero should be able to flex and stretch, be able to be strong and soft, and be able to "come without being alarmed, adding without anger for no reason", which is the true nature of a hero.
15. Bearing the burden of humiliation is an important way to test whether a person can take on a heavy responsibility, Mencius once said that the heavens will send a great task to a certain person, which will definitely make this person go through various tribulations first, increase the ability that has not been done before, and then may succeed. But nowadays, many people give up the goal of success because they can't stand the burden on them, which is why successful people are always a minority.
16. You can't give everything to all people, giving and giving is equally important, especially for the giver, and the key to the problem is how to refuse. Some people's refusals were more precious than others' promises: sometimes the gilded word "no" was more satisfying than the promises of the court. There are many people who always put the word "no" on their lips and end up making a mess of things. They may make concessions afterwards, but others will not feel good about them because they are upset at the beginning. To reject others, not to refuse too deadly, to let people feel their disappointment bit by bit, never to reject them completely, so that people will no longer expect you. There should always be a hint of hope to sweeten the pain of rejection. Even if the previous benefits are canceled, it must be done very politely, even if there is no compensation for action, it is better to count them with verbal benefits. "Yes" and "no" are very brief to say, but to say them properly, it is really painstaking.