If you want to have a heart that perceives happiness, you must first be passionate about life, not living in complaints. Only when you treat things in life with a positive attitude, you will find that happiness is actually everywhere, so that you can feel that you are living in happiness and your mood can be happy.
"How can I be so unlucky?" Countless times in life, we hear many women complain like this. They complain that their lives are not satisfactory, their husbands are not considerate, their children are disobedient, they are not in good shape... From their mouths, they can hardly find the good things in their lives, although others are secretly envious of them. This is really a strange phenomenon. Why on earth do these women not feel the happiness around them? There is a case of the Glemings, who may be able to find the answer to the question.
One morning, a beautiful picture captivated me: an old man in a wheelchair quietly looking into the distance next to a tall tree. An old woman appeared, and the old man in the wheelchair looked up at the old woman who came by, smiled, and had a very warm picture. I knew it was the Glemings again enjoying the sunshine. Mr. Gleming, who was the president of a company when he was young, was seriously ill after retirement, and has been with a wheelchair for more than a decade, saying that long-term sick people have strange personalities, and Mr. Gleming occasionally yells. But strangely enough, as soon as Mrs. Gleming appeared, the roar disappeared and was replaced by a sweet smile and affectionate gaze.
I heard that day that Mr. Gleming was ill, probably not long gone, but I did not expect that this morning I would still see them. Bathed in the morning light, the faces of the two were full of peace and quiet. Mr. Gleming said with a happy face: "Today's sunshine is so beautiful."
Yeah, today's sunshine is beautiful. Little satisfaction and happiness overflowed on their faces as they discovered the happiness of the moment. In fact, just as the Glemings enjoy the sun, happiness is everywhere, not far from us, it is important that we have a heart to find happiness anytime and anywhere, and this heart of discovery is the most rare.
In life, complaints are everywhere: parents complain that children do not understand things, children complain that parents do not understand themselves, employees complain that they pay more and get less, bosses complain that business is difficult to do, employees do not care... Countless complaints are all around us, so in the complaining, we will always find imperfections and unsatisfactory around us, and always feel that God treats us extremely unfairly. In the cycle of complaining, the little happiness that could have been felt disappeared.
A psychologist once said this: Good psychological cues can lead us to success and happiness, while bad psychological cues can lead to a dark life. In fact, isn't complaining a kind of gray psychological cue? If complaining is likened to a chronic poison, it is eroding our mental health, even physical health, every day. So, in the midst of complaining, happiness is far away from us, and our eyes that find happiness are in the process, obscured by complaints. In the long run, the of will will eventually collapse, and eventually it will be far away from happiness.
There was a businessman who always thought he was unhappy. Although he was already rich, when he thought about the things around him, he felt that he was the most unfortunate person under the heavens, and that day, he found a strange phenomenon. On the merchant's ranch, there lived a couple who made a living by picking up garbage. The couple went out early every day and came home late. As soon as they got home, they would sit on a stool, soak their feet in the basin, and start singing. They sang until the moon rose before they went into the house and went to sleep. The businessman felt strange that he was about to crush life to death every day, they lived in poverty, and they would be so happy, with questions, the businessman asked the couple. The answer was, "Why not be happy?" We feel very happy, you see, when the feet are soaked in the water, the tiredness of the day disappears. Singing, my heart is full of happiness after exertion. Not to mention, there was that beautiful moonlight. Such a happy life, why not sing? ”
In fact, the same happiness is also around the businessman, but the businessman is blinded by his own eyes and cannot find the small happiness around him. In fact, if you take a closer look, there is no lack of happiness around us: people who are hungry, eating the first bite of food, are particularly happy; people who are thirsty, drinking the first sip of water, are extremely happy; people who are long-term unemployed, finding a job, is even more difficult to suppress happiness... The Portuguese writer Fernando Pessoa said: "True landscapes are created by ourselves because we are their gods." I have neither interest nor really seen anywhere on the seven continents of the world. I traveled to my own eighth continent. "The truth is that as Fernando Pessoa said, in life, true happiness is also created by ourselves, we are our own God.
A good day out of Ross College. Father John gave her a new car. So Rose, along with her sister and young brother, drove to the countryside. In the city, my sister was worried that Rose had just obtained a driver's license and was not good at driving, so she suggested that ross drive in the sparsely populated suburbs. In this way, the three of them happily rode through the city to the suburbs, and when they arrived in the suburbs, Rose was so excited that he even forgot that he was a novice driver. It was this kind of arrogance that eventually caused the car to crash into a tree. As a result, the eldest sister was seriously injured and had broken ribs. The young brother died instantly. When father John and mother Claire arrived at the hospital, they held the surviving Rose and her sister tightly in their arms, tears spilling down on them. Then, the parents comforted the younger daughter Rose and carefully called for the eldest daughter. Years later, Rose already has a home of his own. Once she asked her mother why she hadn't taught herself a lesson after the accident. Because her brother's death was actually caused by her. The mother looked affectionately into the distance and said, "Your brother has already gone, so why let you live in pain?" No matter what we say about you, your brother cannot be reborn. Or cherish the surviving you, you live happier. "Just imagine, if Mr. and Mrs. John blamed the little daughter, it can only increase the pain of the little daughter, and if it is serious, they may lose the little daughter, can it help the incident?"
So, complaining doesn't actually solve the problem, but will make things worse. It is better to relax your heart, let yourself live more relaxed, let the other party live more relaxed, such a result is not better?