There is a kind of love, subtle into the bone
Accompanied by each other every day without knowing
By the time you notice it, it's the past—three whites
A few days ago, after watching a video, the famous blogger invited two friends who have been "fathers" on the sixth floor to discuss how to raise children.
Watching several big men enthusiastically talk about the joy of bringing children at home, complaining about the inability to balance work and life, and even resigning from grievances, that feeling makes people can't help but be funny, and there is a taste of déjà vu.
This direct, simple and strong love of the father is not easily displayed.
I remember when I was a child, every time I finished eating, my father would always ask casually, "Are you full?" This sentence continued to be asked until my adolescence. I thought it was just a common nagging, often very impatient, and then I heard my mother talk about such a thing, and then I realized that behind my father's words, there was a deep worry.
I was born with an allergy to milk protein and diarrhea 4-5 times a day. My father was a father for the first time, he didn't understand, he thought that newborns were like this, and he dragged it out until I was more than 2 months old before I went to the hospital for examination and treatment. For this reason, whenever he saw me thin, my father always felt guilty.
He was afraid that my appetite was small, I couldn't eat enough, and my nutrition couldn't keep up, which would affect my development.
To care is to love
Xie Tingfeng's father, Xie Xian, has always been criticized for his words and deeds. In the face of accusations, he never made any excuses, and generously sat down to confirm the title of "scumbag".
But once in an interview with the media, when he talked about why he had maintained a 15-year marriage with Deborah, he had a light in his eyes and blurted out, because there were Xie Tingfeng and Xie Tingting.
I believe it is true, because too many people want to divorce and leave, and they don't even bother to find excuses. But this "scumbag" has changed his heart, and his love for his children has not changed. Not a song, but an emotion.
Nicholas Tse's family↑
Time is like a white colt passing through the gap, and now Xie Xian, who is now in his eighties, is slowly moving towards the return of his life, and his body is not as strong as before. Tse Ting-feng, who has become a father, still has a good relationship with his father, and he still cares about his father.
Unlike Tse's father and son, my relationship with my father is not so "world-famous", but I also deeply understand his influence on me.
I still remember when my father sent me to college, that broad back, when I helped me carry heavy luggage, never hummed; that strong arms, helped me pick up the package, said to go; that firm look, let me whether on stage to speak, or when everyone shared their experiences, not afraid of the stage at all.
But ten years later, my father is always silent, his eyes are dark, and his movements are slow. I always felt that my father's back was no longer the same, and even something more.
In addition to love, there were some things he also hid.
Daddy has a gastrointestinal problem??
Although the father's love likes to be hidden, we can feel it.
But can you find out the physical pain that your father hid?
Since I worked, I have had fewer and fewer opportunities to spend time with my parents. This year's holiday, home to visit my parents, in the face of a hearty meal, when I devoured, my father did not move.
It turned out that it had been a long time, and my father's appetite was not very good. No appetite, but also acid, heartburn.
When my father was young, he was "full of five poisons", drinking and smoking was very powerful, and staying up late and working overtime was commonplace. He is only 63 years old this year. Tobacco and alcohol have long been quit, and diet is also very careful, but stomach pain is still often attacked, not to be spared.
"Old problems, patience will pass."
This sentence made me feel mixed in my heart, and I don't know when this sentence actually replaced "have you eaten enough", and the new became the colloquial language of my father.
When I was a child, my father was very great in my mind
Under the persuasion of my mother and me, my father was finally willing to come to the hospital for examination. The gastroscope showed that his esophagus was somewhat eroded, there was inflammation, close to the bottom of the stomach, and found a bulge, like a polyp ball... The doctor said: "Consider stomach early cancer".
cancer??!
It was as if a bomb had suddenly been dropped on the calm surface of the lake, and even my father himself was startled.
Fortunately, this gastroscope was done early, and early cancer can also be treated. After listening to the doctor's plan, I breathed a sigh of relief and put my mind at ease. At the same time, I am also very remorseful, if I had taken my father to do a gastroscope earlier, it would not have been so.
Looking at his father's haggard face, he couldn't help but blush.
As much as he loves, uncomfortable moments, he also likes to hide and not tell you that he doesn't want to be a burden on you. But major diseases are often formed by the accumulation of these small diseases. Obviously very simple gastrointestinal endoscopy, we always feel busy and find excuses not to go.
A medical doctor said that early cancer of the gastrointestinal tract cannot be found by other examination methods, and only gastrointestinal endoscopy can be found in time.
Gastroscopy procedure
The importance of gastrointestinal endoscopy can be seen. Before, many elderly people were afraid of tossing and delaying the child's time, and they heard that it was very uncomfortable, so they were reluctant to go to the hospital for examination. However, with the advancement of science and technology, painless gastroscopy is widely accepted. Before the examination, the patient is anesthetized to complete the examination in a state of sleep and sedation, the whole process is less than half an hour, and there is no discomfort such as nausea and nausea, which is very suitable for parents who are old and have low resistance.
My father's illness was detected early, thanks to it. Now the father is already actively cooperating with the treatment.
Therefore, no matter how busy you are when you grow up, you must also pay attention to the health of your parents, which is a very important thing. Because you don't know, when, that young and strong figure, laughing and making trouble with you, will gradually slump down, unable to swallow, and plagued by disease.
Some love, act early.