At three o'clock in the middle of the night, I suddenly received a call from the staff in my hometown, asking me how the phone of the elderly at home could not be called, and I was shocked.
What can make the staff call in the middle of the night? This matter is certainly not trivial.
After a brief communication, I roughly understood that it was related to the epidemic situation, and it is likely that the old man will not be able to come back tomorrow.
Sure enough, early in the morning, the old man's phone called, saying that there was a case that had come to the village, and the village had all been closed and not allowed to come out. The poor old man went back on the weekend with only two days of medicine.
This also means that the matter of picking up the child has to be solved by ourselves, which can make us difficult.
For dual-career families, there is no old man to help with the baby, and the difficulties and entanglements are only understood by themselves.
This sudden outbreak made me understand: where there are good years, it is just the old man who is carrying the weight for you.
1, the old man is willing to help with the baby, in the blessing to know the blessing
Originally, legally speaking, the elderly did not have the obligation to take care of their grandchildren, and the elderly had the right to choose not to bring their grandchildren.
However, emotionally speaking, the elderly are reluctant to make their children difficult, and the children are most assured to hand over their grandchildren to the elderly.
You go to work to earn money for the sake of your children and your family. The elderly help you with the baby, but also to contribute to the family.
In real life, there are many couples who do not have the help of the elderly to take care of the baby, some of them have to pay a high price to ask a nanny to take care of the children; some couples can only quit their jobs alone and take the children full-time.
Families without the help of the elderly with the baby, the money invested in the child, the price paid, will definitely increase exponentially.
There are old people to help with the baby, for the family to share a lot, pick up and drop off children, buy vegetables to cook, do housework, for us to reduce a lot of pressure, must be in the blessing to know the blessing.
2, the elderly are willing to help with the baby, you must know how to understand
There are always people who say that the old man helps with the baby, this is not good, that is not good.
Indeed, the educational philosophies of the two generations are different, and it is inevitable that there will be differences of one kind or another.
Some old people are too spoiled with children, and they will offer their children up like little ancestors and spoil them to the point.
There are also old people, who have some bad parenting habits, chew up food for children, feed them too early, give their children "adult meals" too early, wear open crotch pants, wear too many covers to sweat, and so on.
They may not be able to take very good care of their children.
However, there are pros and cons to everything.
Accept the benefits of the elderly with the baby, you have to accept the disadvantages of the old man with the baby.
Then again, even if we take care of the children ourselves, we don't necessarily take care of the children without going wrong.
To give a child to the elderly, you must know how to be considerate.
The old man has done something wrong, we can correct it, but we don't have to be too harsh.
Have something to say, don't complain, don't let them chill. Otherwise, bring your own baby.
3, the old man is willing to help with the baby, you must know how to be grateful
A large number of old people, all of whom are a handful of age, leave their hometown and work tirelessly to help their children with their babies.
They are hard-working, diligent and earnest, they get up early and greedy, and they work hard and complain.
Only when the elderly are here, we can safely hand over our children to their hands, and we can work with peace of mind and live easily.
As everyone knows, the torment of physical pain, the tolerance of loneliness and loneliness, the worry of safety responsibility... All of this puts them under a lot of pressure.
Our life is easier, that's because the old man bears the hardships of life for you.
It is the simple and simple fathers who, with their only meager strength, have supported us with a piece of heaven.
They are our strong backing.
"Parents are here, life still has a place to come, parents go, life is only the way home."
Taking advantage of the presence of parents, exchanging filial piety for sincerity is the greatest gratitude.