Every time Guo Degang talks about the education of Guo Qilin, it will cause controversy, some people respect, some people oppose. However, a few years have passed, and Lao Guo's "percussion education" has not been used on his younger son Guo Fenzhen, is this a punch in the face?
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In "Old Guo YouXinfan" on October 25, Guo Degang talked about his youngest son, Guo Fenzhen. Guo Fenzhen especially loves toys, and once someone bought him a toy. Guo Fenzhen said: "Pirated, that is fake, cheap." ”
Hearing this, the man was very embarrassed. Guo Degang hurriedly educated Guo Fenzhen: "You child can't do this, people don't understand this thing, who can see the true and false!" Although Lao Guo said this, he still showed doting between his words, and Lao Guo still felt that "children are simple."
In my opinion, we can't push the responsibility on the "simplicity" of the child, which is actually inseparable from Lao Guo's doting.
Guo Fenjing has a bracelet of 50,000 pieces; when he goes out to buy toys, he buys a shopping cart full; he often takes Guo Fenjing to the major performance scenes; when he performs, Guo Fenzhen suddenly goes on stage to play without blame.
Old Guo once told guo Fenzhen about his uncle. Guo Fenzhen finished pulling the stink, mischievously called the little uncle "come and eat", the little uncle was angry and went out, Guo Fenzhen shouted "Hurry up, cool", these words really make people angry and laugh.
Another time, Guo Degang and Yu Qian were performing a cross-talk performance on the stage, Guo Fenzhen suddenly ran up, and the old Guo Li and his younger son chatted about the sky, saying that they wanted to sing "White Dragon Horse" to him. Guo Fenzhen said "no" and wanted her father to leave. Guo Degang asked Guo Fenzhen to go first, Guo Fenzhen was about to cry when he heard it, and old Guo hurriedly hugged his young son and asked Yu Qian to take a panda toy for him.
Her mother Wang Hui was interviewing members of the Longzike department on video, but Guo Fenzhen ran behind her mother, and was lying on her mother's shoulder and slapping her mother's head.
Although Guo Fenzhen is very mischievous and sometimes overplays the occasion, Lao Guo often spits on his young son in the show and on the cross-talk stage. However, whenever Guo Fenzhen was talked about, Lao Guo's face was full of smiles, and the love in his eyes could not be concealed, which showed how much Lao Guo loved this young son.
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For the eldest son Guo Qilin, Lao Guo's approach is completely different.
Since childhood, Guo Qilin has been criticized and accused by Lao Guo, and the more people there are, the easier it is for Guo Qilin to be scolded. But Lao Guo did not lose his temper for no reason, but Guo Qilin really did something wrong. For example: impolite to elders, spout to people, eat bar spit mouth... Once, Guo Qilin shook his leg, and Guo Degang couldn't see it, it was directly a kick.
In the past, Lao Guo's apprentices still lived at home, and Guo Qilin, who was originally a precious son, became the most unpopular person in the family. Eating is always the last to eat, Lao Guo does not give him meat, always give him a large bowl of greens, if Guo Qilin cries his nose, let him go to the stairs to cry, don't disturb everyone to eat. Until now, Guo Qilin, who had delicious food at home, did not dare to eat first, and he had to ask Guo Degang before he dared to eat.
This is Guo Degang's percussion education for Guo Qilin, and Lao Guo's explanation for this is: "You scolded him enough, and no one scolded him after he went out." The child understands everything, and will not suffer losses when he goes out. ”
However, Lao Guo was a little too harsh on Guo Qilin, and even hurt Guo Qilin's self-esteem. In 2012, in the special performance of Yue Yunpeng's cross-talk performance, 16-year-old Guo Qilin performed on stage as an assistant actor, but the result was a cold scene. Guo Qilin took the initiative to apologize, but Guo Degang still scolded him and said: "Stupid people are ignorant and confused to the extreme." Only this time, the next is not an example. Such a scolding, anyone who looks at it will be very sad.
Later, when Guo Degang was asked about it in an interview, the host said, "This hurts my self-esteem." Guo Degang replied: "You must hurt your self-esteem, such a big child, you beat all his self-esteem, he will understand." ”
Indeed, Guo Qilin has said more than once in public that he understands his father's approach to his childhood. But for Guo Qilin, having experienced this, there is more or less a knot in his heart, and now he is relieved, but he may not be so close to his father.
Before, Guo Qilin hardly spoke to his father. It wasn't until the last two years that the father and son chatted occasionally. Guo Qilin said that he also felt freedom because his parents were too harsh on him. Although Guo Qilin always had a smiling look, he could still feel his slightly helpless expression.
It can be said that Lao Guo's strictness and even harshness on the eldest son Guo Qilin has reached a point that is unimaginable to ordinary people, and Guo Qilin's growth experience is not something that ordinary people can bear, and his current upbringing and cultivation are actually taught by Guo Degang, and he also exchanged tears for it.
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Many people may question why Guo Degang is so harsh on Guo Qilin and very spoiled for Guo Fenzhen? Is it too eccentric to treat two children differently? There's a reason for that.
Guo Qilin lived with his grandparents in Tianjin since he was a child; at the age of 4, Guo Degang divorced his ex-wife and owed a lot of foreign debts; guo Qilin did not see his father until he was 5 years old; until he was six or seven years old, he followed his father to Beijing to live, but life was very bitter. As a father, Guo Degang of course feels sorry for his children, but if he does not force Guo Qilin, Guo Qilin is likely to be unable to survive.
People's state of mind will also change, and Lao Guo at that time may feel that Guo Qilin needs the ability to survive, but for the younger son, it does not matter whether he becomes a talent or not. Now, Guo Fenzhen also has a good family situation, as long as there is anything good, Guo Degang will satisfy Guo Fenjing, which is different from when guo Qilin was treated.
What's more, Guo Qilin was born to Lao Guo and his ex-wife, and Guo Fenzhen was born to Lao Guo and his wife Wang Huisheng, Guo Degang and Wang Hui's relationship has always been very good, plus the old man has a son, Guo Fenzhen is so small, Lao Guo's love for him is naturally more. However, this does not mean that Lao Guo does not like Guo Qilin, he often praises Guo Qilin and says, "My best quality works are Guo Qilin", from which it can still be seen that he is proud of Guo Qilin.
But then again, Guo Fenzhen is still young, and Guo's spoiled education method may only make him a little mischievous, and there is no big impact. However, in the long run, Guo Fenzhen will not necessarily be better than Guo Qilin. And now Guo Qilin is very good, not necessarily the result of Old Guo, but also may be Guo Qilin's own efforts.
"Guo-style education" does not necessarily apply to every child. After all, most of the successful cases we have seen are mainly the families of the second generation of the rich and the second generation of the stars, and there is still a long distance from our ordinary families.
Therefore, we still have to judge how to educate children according to the situation of children and families. One important thing is not to be polarized. Neither too strict nor too spoiled, neither can make him proud nor inferior. Just like Guo Qilin said: we must find a balance in education.