This year, in order to effectively reduce the excessive homework burden and off-campus training burden of students in the compulsory education stage, the state has comprehensively implemented the "double reduction" policy. The reactions of mothers of elementary school students are very different, some say they want to lie flat, and some say they want to make their own chicken babies. Parents who lie flat believe in the blind box theory and think that after graduating from junior high school, the blind box will be layered in five or five layers; the parents who want to make their own chicken babies think that as long as they stand on the top of the tower, the opportunities for examination and employment will be greatly increased in the future. No matter what kind of attitude parents hold towards this, in fact, the reason behind it is self-evident, it is an anxiety about the future of their children, worried about the future positioning of their children in the increasingly serious society. Some parents are anxious about the present, and the other part is anxious about the future. At the end of the day, it's about whether your child's life will be happy.
In fact, each of us came to the world with the first cry, and finally closed our eyes and went to another world. And in the middle of this long or short journey, what kind of mentality do we use to experience this human state, so as to obtain a sense of happiness? Teacher Wang Long, a Sichuan writer, gave his own answer in the book "The Story of the World".
Wang Long, a contemporary Figure like Tao Yuanming, is hidden in the city, with both the detachment of being born and the feeling of joining the world. In the book "The Story of Mankind", through the description of everything in the world, it shows people a picture of a leisurely and self-sufficient life. "Sincerely face yourself and face the world gently" and feel the beauty that everything in the world brings to people.
First, what is a happy life? How do we define it?
"People live for a lifetime, the grass grows in autumn", we come to the world to walk, we all hope that we are happy and happy to go through the whole journey. The hustle and bustle and beauty of the visible, and the simplicity and peace of the invisible, are all different landscapes. Whoever is born will die; all who are colorful will return to plain whiteness. Beautiful as a flower, some with short flowering periods may even be only a few minutes.
Now there is a word, called waiting for the flowers to bloom, every child is a flower to be released. They said happily: You see me blossom for you to see. Are we, as parents, willing to wait? Flowering is for the sake of fruit, but not all flowers bear fruit, some flowers bloom purely for themselves, beauty for their own eyes, is not fruitful, how to do it? The author gave the answer: if you don't tie the knot, don't tie it. Be open-minded about each child's growth status and respect his way of growing up. In this process, as parents, we only need to guide, encourage, and support, so that the child can feel that the world loves me, and the life surrounded by love is his happy life.
Second, how to get happiness in life?
In traditional Chinese culture, it is customary for mothers to take care of their children. Therefore, in the process of children's growth and learning, mothers have become the main force. Mother's Day is now popular, and carnations are flowers for mothers. But in fact, carnations are the mother flowers of Europeans and Americans. What is China's mother? It is a grass, a grass, also known as a forgetful grass, especially suitable for mothers.
"Raising a child for a hundred years, worrying about ninety-nine years", when becoming a parent, this worry stems from the affection that blood is thicker than water, and the nature of human beings, especially in China. So mothers start to worry about their children from the birth of their children, worry about their children getting sick when they are young, worry about their children's study when they go to school, worry about their children's income at work, worry about whether the husband and wife are harmonious when they get married, and worry about their children not taking good care of his children when they have children. Some people even think that this is a lifelong thing, half a point is not up to people. What is the author's view on this? The author humorously borrows a classic line from the foreign famous book "Gone with the Wind": "Tomorrow is another day!" (Tomorrow is another day)". Is there a feeling of sudden enlightenment? The child is not a fish, the joy of knowing the fish, too worried is not able to experience a sense of happiness. Feel the present, cherish the present, accept everything about your child, and believe that everything is the best arrangement. Because everyone has the attention and love that everyone is responsible for, so is happiness.
Third, we should look out for each other and cherish the fate of this world
All things have spirits, one flower and one world, one tree and one bodhi. The ancients believed this, so there are many descriptions of the ancients' dialogue with flowers and trees. Between people and plants, they can also receive information, kindness and warmth from each other. What about people? There is a popular saying on the Internet: Before I was born, I chose my mother in heaven. Every child is sent from Heaven, and many little angels are in heaven looking for their destined mother in their past lives. Cherish each other's fate, because you are each other's unique guardians. In this life, children can find you and achieve each other's mother-child relationship, which is really lucky and really happy.
Conclusion
Teacher Wang Long's "Tales of The World" contains 76 exquisite essays, divided into four chapters, with plants, animals, food, and utensils as the titles, through different perspectives, showing the author's attitude to life and the wisdom of handling things, which can be seen openly and clearly. Through humorous and humorous expressions, it expresses the author's enjoyment of life and the beauty that nature brings to mankind. "The world loves me because I love the world of this affectionate model."
#Human Story ##生活随笔 #