In everyone's mind, the kindergarten should be a place for children to cultivate behavioral habits and have fun, but in fact, because the teacher's character is different, the way of managing children is also very different, so it leads to some children not being happy in kindergarten.
Even some children suffered from "school violence" at a young age and were hurt inside.
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Not long after the holiday, after a mother sent her child to kindergarten for a few days, the child became disgusted with going to school.
Every day when I get up and go out, I rub and rub, and I have to be urged several times before I act.
In the past, I obviously liked to share kindergarten life with my parents, but now I don't want to. The mother also thinks that the child has grown up to have his own little secrets, or is used to the holiday life, and is not very accustomed to the process of going to and from school every day.
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It wasn't until this mother chatted with another mother that she found that her child was bullied by other children in kindergarten.
Here's the thing: while the child was playing with the toy, another child reached out and grabbed it, so the two had an argument, and the child slapped him.
However, for such an incident, the teacher characterized it as the other party's carelessness, and told them both to reflect on their own behavior and not quarrel in the kindergarten.
Bao Mom did not expect such a big thing that the child did not tell herself, and the other children told each other when sharing kindergarten activities with their mothers.
So when school was over, Bao Mom took the child to ask for explanations, but the teacher said that this was for the sake of the harmony of the whole park, and what faults could the children have? It's just that the force can't be controlled, and it may not be heavy.
Such a statement made Bao Ma very cold, she felt that her children had not been treated fairly, so she began to be afraid of going to school at an early age, psychologically damaged, and had to ask the kindergarten teacher to apologize, and immediately transferred the baby to the school.
This way of creating a harmonious atmosphere and putting an end to apparent violent conflict is likely to affect the child who has suffered injustice in private, causing a change in their mentality.
Isn't this a new type of violence? Although it does not hurt in the skin, it hurts in the heart.
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▶ Teachers treat children differently
Some teachers can't control their attitude towards each child:
When faced with the children they like, they deliberately let go and indulge, but when they face children who are not so familiar with or even somewhat disgusted, they deliberately set stricter requirements for them.
Some children who can't see it are likely to be PUA, and they think that they are not working hard enough to meet the requirements of the teacher, and often self-reflective and become more inferior.
▶ The teacher deliberately neglects the child
When children have various needs to seek help from teachers, but are repeatedly ignored, they will have a feeling of helplessness and contempt, and they will become unaware of how to find help or afraid to ask for help.
Some teachers are also very obvious when they neglect their children, and as a result, they are bullied by other children.
▶ When children are bullied, the teacher chooses and thin mud
When there is an obvious right and wrong between children, the teacher's choice and thin mud, it is easy to make the bullied children feel wronged, so that the bullied children are more arrogant and become more fond of bullying.
▶ Be labeled variously negatively by teachers
When the teacher puts various negative labels on the child, such as adjectives such as indifference, not talking, not liking to play with everyone, intolerant, unkind and other adjectives.
It will make the child not know how to make changes, and may also be ridiculed and rejected by other children.
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1) Suddenly not sharing kindergarten life with parents
If school life is good, the teacher is very approachable, and they like it, the children can't help but share it with their parents.
If the child himself is a person who loves to share, and does not communicate with his parents about school after a period of kindergarten, he is likely to be hurt inside.
2) Don't want to go to kindergarten
There are toys, friends, and various activities in kindergarten, and many children should be very eager and looking forward to it after adapting to it for a period of time, and if they have fear, or even cry, they are likely to be bullied.
When the child's mood suddenly has problems, parents must be more gentle when communicating with them, and stand in the child's point of view, so as not to cause them secondary harm.
Usually, we should also pay attention to improving the child's sense of security, so that they are more willing to tell their parents when they are wronged at school.