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Tang Ruoxin learns original works, and those who violate them will be investigated
"Holding the hand of the son and growing old with the son" is about to become a luxury in today's society.
Comfort is the basis of the relationship between husband and wife, and the feeling of comfort is mutually exclusive. Good feelings are determined by the degree of ease of both parties, and when you are more comfortable and natural together, your feelings will get better and better.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="6" > the more comfortable two people are, the better the relationship </h1>
A really good relationship does not require two people to please each other, but to be equal to each other. If you can't do even the minimum level view, it can only be regarded as a "sojourn" relationship.
If the Jinjiang literary scholar Ruo RuHaoyue wrote in the book "I love you to the death without hesitation, and I will not budge with each other", senior couples are more of a spiritual fit. They don't have to worry about whether the other person will be disloyal to themselves, but they have absolute confidence in their feelings.
The two get along, in the relationship know how to pay each other, and unilateral payment, will only feel tired, is doomed not to last.
There are always couples who complain that they have too little space, and this feeling makes him uncomfortable. The best state of getting along is actually not intimate, moderate distance is also the embodiment of beauty, giving each other a little personal space, will make each other feel trusted, have freedom.
Intimate feelings will lose their freshness, and the freshness in love is the key to sustaining it. Good love, getting along will often make you return to the child, feel pampered, on the contrary, an unsatisfactory relationship, will urge us to mature, urge us to grow.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="40">02 Good feelings are all about allowing you to be yourself</h1>
"You don't need to change yourself for me"
The story always begins like this, my girlfriend Reiko has always been very humble in her feelings, in her words, "I am the family I chased, I can't let him be wronged." Always worried about where to provoke the boyfriend, will make him unhappy, will accidentally quarrel to break up. Every time there was a fight, Reiko apologized first, and then asked her, and she always said, "Anyway, I'm angry fast, and everyone apologizes the same."
We all feel like she has changed as a person, she Leo has always been a domineering, in the relationship with friends is also in a position of like leadership, we have always been used to her everything arranged fully, used to the feeling of being taken care of. But in love, she seems to be unable to be the Lord, listen to the object of everything, and have no opinion.
Later, in a quarrel, her object was in a bad mood that day, and when she came back, she sprinkled all her anger on Reiko, and the resentment that had accumulated for a long time suddenly broke out, and the object thought about how the originally gentle girl suddenly became irritable, and she did not come to comfort him as usual, but argued with him, telling him that she was not a pump, not the object that could be let him complain.
The terrible thing is not that you have changed yourself for him, but that you have changed, he does not know, he thinks this is the original you, but does not know that you have never been so humble!
In life, you will always meet such a person, he will not ask you to change for him, he will insist on letting you be yourself, he likes you, like all your personality including small flaws, and you are the exception to him.
Good feelings never exist deliberately to please others, good feelings are that you are good to be yourself, when you do yourself, the other party has never criticized you, you can feel respect.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="44" >03 Whether two people are long-lasting is determined by each other's degree of ease</h1>
When you are single, you long for the arrival of love; when you are really together, you want to be free.
The love I imagined before was sweet and sweet, the kind that can be spoiled by the other party, and occasionally there can be a little surprise, but after really talking about it, you will find that getting along is really a science, quarrels are not all coaxed, and often quarrels will be in a bad mood, and good will also be angry. Always do not know tomorrow and quarrel which one will come first, the contradiction may be inadvertent.
The feelings may not be as beautiful as we think, but don't forget to pursue him, there will always be someone who will live with you like a fairy tale Prince Charming in a suit.
Don't worry about conflict, quarrel is the additive of love, I have a pair around me, two days a small quarrel, three days a big quarrel, people around are used to it, quarrel for them, it seems to be a further stepping stone, they like to mix mouths and ridicule each other, they will not affect feelings because of quarrels, will not break up because of a big quarrel.
The two will definitely encounter disagreements together, how to solve the problem is the key, do not let the problem pile up, you can avoid a lot of misunderstandings. To get along well is not to be bored when you are tired of seeing his information, but to see his information and laugh involuntarily.
Comfort is important, let each other feel bad feelings, it is better to let go of each other as soon as possible, there is no need to insist.
In front of him, there is no need to pretend to be reserved, no need to disguise himself, you can completely unload your defenses, both of them are relaxed, in order to be intimate, in order to be long-lasting.
Today's topic: Whether you think the long-term relationship is self-determined, welcome to discuss and communicate.