First love, did you let go? Is emotional cleanliness really a mediocre self-disturbance?

First love, did you let go?

Someone asked me why I wasn't in love, and I said, afraid that I wouldn't go to the end, worried that I wasn't his first love. They say I'm mediocre, how many couples in this society are each other's first love.

Am I really a mediocre self-botherer?

My sister once had a very good relationship with her first love, but because of the opposition of her family, she compromised, accepted the family's arrangement, and married on a blind date, but in the end the marriage lasted only three years and then divorced, after the divorce, she returned to the place where she was with her first love, and a year later, forced by the pressure of the family and children, she and her brother-in-law remarried, and everyone saw them break the mirror and reunite, happy and happy, but not long ago, my sister chatted with me and said: "I showed you his photo, and you said how good it would have been if I had been with him."

One of my teachers, after being forced by her family to break up with her first love, she still didn't fall in love at the age of thirty, she said she didn't want to fall in love, and when she saw boys, she would always think of him, and she couldn't help but compare with him, and she couldn't forget it.

A married friend told me that every time I had a fight with my husband, I would unconsciously compare him to my first love, always thinking about how good it would be if it was him.

Given all of the above, am I really a mediocre self-botherer? Have you forgotten your first love? Does she (he) still have an impact on your life?