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Recently, I was watching an urban legal drama "Elite Lawyer", but the latest plot made me feel too strange, can such a thing happen in reality?
Luo Bin, played by Jin Dong, is a senior partner of a large law firm, and Luo Bin has a dragon and phoenix sister Luo Qi, who is a troublemaker and a troublemaker. Luo Qi and Ji Yu divorced, and when Ji Yu divorced, in order to let his daughter Xiao An live a good life, he was clean. Ji Yu met Rong Rong after the divorce and knew and fell in love. However, his ex-wife Luo Qi took advantage of Ji Yu's soft heart, and after the divorce, he still asked Ji Yu for money "in order to let the child have a better life".
Note that it is "want", not "borrow".
Did Luo Qi really take the money to let his daughter Xiao'an live a good life? No, but because she knew a man, Wang Yan, the two of them were going to get married, Luo Qi sold her house to buy a bigger one, but the money was not enough, so she brazenly went to Ji Yu for money.
The reason why Luo Qi divorced Ji Yu at the beginning was not because of cheating, nor because of domestic violence, but because the two people's husband and wife were not in harmony. Ji Yu suffered from depression, Luo Qi worried that the child would be affected by him, and the two people dissolved the marriage relationship, and Ji Yu voluntarily left the house.
Ji Yu later recovered from depression, and at this time he met Rong Rong. Ji Yu did not have a job for a long time, and after he married Rong Rong, the money he spent was Rong Rong's. Even if it was his joint property with Rong Rong, the problem was that he didn't earn a penny, so why did he secretly give his current wife's money to his ex-wife?
Ji Yu is a very flawed man in his original family, and his personality is very extreme and extremely unsound. Because when he was very young, his parents divorced, and then his father did not ask him, he was very strongly stimulated, determined not to let his child become a child who no one cared about, he could not tolerate others saying that he was a father without conscience, so when Luo Qi brazenly asked him for money, he gave it to Luo Qi without thinking.
He wanted to make his child happy, but he never considered that the current Rong Rong was pregnant, and he did not think about rong Rong.
In the TV series, Rong Rong sued Luo Qi and asked Luo Qi to pay back. But Luo Qi refused to pay back the money on the grounds of child support. Luo Qi even took advantage of Ji Yu's weakness and deprived him of his access rights in an unacceptable way, refusing to repay the money. It was very ruinous, and in the end, the two sides could reach a settlement, Luo Qi did not pay back the money, and the money became an investment between Ji Yu and Rong Rong.
As for Rong Rong, there is bitterness that cannot be said, because she is pregnant and has to forgive her husband, and can only watch her money give to Ji Yu's ex-wife Luo Qi.
Rong Rong is very distressing, she has not done anything wrong, what she is wrong is that she should not fall in love with Ji Yu, let alone pity Ji Yu. You did love greatness forgiving the man who lied to you, but what about your money? Your hard-earned money has been transferred by the man you love, is it difficult not to be unwilling?
I had a feeling after watching it, can such a thing happen in reality?
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A lawyer online explains:
In the case of Rong Rong suing Luo Qi for returning the donated property, the most crucial controversy was whether the money he gave to Luo Qi was whether the child support was paid. If it is maintenance, of course, there is no need to repay. One party's opinion is maintenance, because you give the money to the child's mother as a necessary expense to make the child's life more secure, without which the child may be living on the street. The other party's opinion was that it did not constitute maintenance because maintenance did not include the house. But this actually involves a legal interpretation and the evolution of this interpretation with the times.
In the current low national living standards, child support generally includes the cost of children's living and education, and the cost of living includes the cost of renting a house, but it is difficult to force people to buy a house, especially if the TV series in the drama does not earn money, he is taking the current money to his ex-wife. ”
I agree with this lawyer that since the ex-husband had already left the house at the time of the divorce, it was reasonable to say that there was really no need to give money to the ex-wife. However, in reality, it is rare to meet such a good ex-husband, and I have heard that many people do not pay child support for their children after divorce.
In any case, the show is a wake-up call for unmarried women:
When you are considering marriage, if you encounter a divorced man who is soft and indecisive, you must be careful. Once you marry such a man, you are likely to carry the burden of your ex-wife and children in your married life.
If this divorced man still has love for his ex-wife and even has been obsessed with it, it is even more complicated, it is difficult for your married life to be peaceful, you will be unwilling, why should our common property be given to your ex-wife?
Many things to consider clearly, can not just because of love on the righteousness of marriage, with divorced men to fall in love, but also to consider the reality of the problem, to talk about money.
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A woman once told me her story about her and said she became friends with her ex-husband after her divorce.
Qionghui took her daughter back to her hometown after divorcing her ex-husband, who was very loving and responsible for their daughter. Every summer vacation, the ex-husband would come to pick up their daughter, send her daughter over when school was about to start, and buy her a lot of clothes and books for her. In addition to bearing all the expenses of his daughter, the ex-husband will also pay the previously agreed child support every month until the daughter graduates from college. When her daughter went to elementary school, Qionghui wanted to buy a school district house but had no money, and this money was finally paid by her ex-husband. Later, Qionghui learned that the current husband of the ex-husband was about to divorce the two people because of this money.
"Didn't my ex-husband buy me a house to get our daughter into a better school?" What is there to be jealous of at the moment? The money is for it! ”
This is what Qionghui said to me, but to be honest, if Qionghui is the current one, she may not agree to her husband buying a house for his ex-wife. It doesn't matter if it doesn't touch her own interests, but if it comes to her own interests, Qionghui is definitely a hundred unwilling.
This case also reflects some of the real situations, that is, you are in contact with people in divorced families, and once he is a responsible man who is responsible for his children, economic issues are difficult to deal with.
Women still have to be careful, if you really meet a divorced man like Ji Yu, it is really miserable after marriage. Two people will have a strong quarrel financially, because the man you are in love with has a past, and you will inevitably have two hearts for financial reasons. Every time your ex-wife comes to ask for money, it affects your life, can your marriage last?
Don't become blind because you fall in love, the relationship between two people will become much more complicated after having children. If you have no children and divorce is very good, but having children will be different, but everyone who is responsible for children will be difficult to have no relationship with his ex-wife after divorce.
It's not that you can't choose a divorced man, it's that you have to put love in the back, and you should put reality first. How he handles his relationship with his ex-wife and his relationship with his children is what you should be most concerned about.
Divorced men who are not responsible for children You are worried about his character, divorced men who are too responsible for children you are worried about your married life. No matter what, there will be worries, don't be blind, and rationally weigh whether this marriage and love are worth your continuing.
Today's topic: In real life, do you want to meet such an ex-husband? Welcome to leave a message.
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★ Author: YIBAO; emotional original author, writing about the warm emotional affairs of this world.