"Who am I, where am I from, how old am I?"
Question after question kept coming to Mind Like a blister, xiang Jun, who was a child bought by his adoptive parents.
I only remember that 28 years ago, he ran out of the house and lived a wandering life on the road, as for home, it was a terrible "word".
Whenever he remembered the days when he was a child picking up garbage to live, the hideous face of his father would pop up in the depths of his mind, and he had no impression of his mother, only remembering that his father would lose his temper, beat himself with his hands, hang himself with a rope and tie himself to the beam of the room, and hang himself.
When he was a child, he also ran away several times, but each time he was found back, but the last time, he was released by his own sister, who secretly opened the door and said, "You run."
Nowadays, he is not rich in his adoptive parents' house, but his life is very good, and his adoptive parents are very good to him and never scold himself.
But in his heart he still can't forget the home that once brought him joy and pain, remembering his grandmother, remembering his sister.
He wanted to find them, he wanted to see his father, so in 2008 he began quietly searching for his family, but the loss of memory could not be spelled out a complete picture.
He drew the signs of the buildings around his home from memory, but he didn't go to school at that time, couldn't read, and the numbers were taught by his sister.
He remembered the "Red Scarf Primary School", the ancient building, the square, the police station, and with these vague memories, he drew a picture.
Write the family information Xiang Yong: Xiang Jun's father, Xiang Mei: Xiang Jun's sister.
After comparing the household registration, it was found that Xiang Yong had been dead for many years, but he did not have any children in his name, and there was no information about Xiang Mei.
A police officer saw this picture and felt very familiar, so he helped to visit, and finally found Xiang Jun's family.
Xiang Yong also had five brothers and sisters, and after finding Xiang Jun's aunt, he learned that Xiang Jun's father was not the one who beat the child.
It was only because he divorced his wife and quickly remarried.
As the saying goes, "If there is a stepmother, there is a stepfather".
After remarrying, his personality changed, and he laid down a dead hand on his mischievous son.
Xiang Yong had also regretted his actions, and had also looked for it, but he had looked for it nearby.
But it did not alarm the neighbors around them, and the neighbors did not touch their homes too much, but felt that the two children were very pitiful.
They had the same opinion of Xiang Yong. I think this person's character is quite good, that is, he is too grumpy and beats up children.
Because the husband and wife are not in harmony, Xiang Yong and his wife divorced, and after the divorce, the children were taken with the help of Xiang Yong's mother.
Rumor has it that Xiang Yong has always suspected that his son is not his own.
Therefore, after divorcing his wife, his personality changed greatly, and he either beat or scolded his son.
After Xiang Jun's grandmother fled from Xiang Jun, she washed her face with tears every day and hoped for her grandson to return.
However, the sister Xiang Mei was once taken back by her grandmother to be an adopted daughter by someone else's family, and was later retrieved by her grandmother, and it was not long before her grandmother died of excessive sadness.
Xiang Mei, 13, also left this sad home and wandered alone.
Subsequently, through her aunt, she contacted Xiang Jun's sister, and Xiang Mei had been following her aunt for so many years. So, will Xiang Mei tell why he let his brother go?
When she recalled the events of 28 years ago, she felt fear.
"The fight was so terrible, I was afraid that he would beat my brother to death, so I said you run out, sooner or later at home there will be a day when you will be killed, during the day my father went to work, I said you go out, because my father leashed him like a dog, tied him to the house, tied him with a rope, and did not let him move." 」
The sister Xiang Mei recalled her father's vicious face at that time, and responded with a sentence of "Maybe there is a mental illness" to respond to why her father beat her brother.
At that time, Xiang Mei only knew that her mother had left, only herself and her brother were real relatives, she wanted to protect her brother, and she could not watch her brother being killed by her "demonic" father.
"After my mother died, my father didn't care for us at all, and my brother was my only relative. My grandmother died a month after my brother was lost, and then I ran away from home to start a wandering life. ”
"After my relatives left, I chose not to remember these things, I hate the New Year the most, and when I think of other people's reunions during the festival, I can't go back to anything." My dad and stepmother had their children, and I had no place to stay. ”
Xiang Mei mentioned that all he had in his father's heart was hatred, and after his father remarried, he gave birth to a son and a daughter, and they were very happy and they were wandering away without even a home.
When the father separated the hukou of the two sisters and brothers from him, when the hukou was changed, the father did not care about the siblings on the separate household registration book, knowing that the father died, and the sister Xiang Mei's hukou did not have it.
The father chose to abandon them.
After DNA comparison, Xiang Jun and Xiang Mei are the same father, and the two are sisters and brothers.
Xiang Jun and Xiang Mei met, they met again after a gap of 28 years, Xiang Mei can still recognize his brother, he looks similar to when he was a child, the two of them hold their heads and cry.
Xiang Mei has a younger brother, and Xiang Jun is very happy to see his sister again.
Although the property of the father was given to their stepmother after death. They don't care, as long as they have relatives in him, they are satisfied, not to mention that his adoptive father is really good to him.
The 68-year-old is still working on construction sites, earning money and occasionally subsidizing Xiang Jun's two children.
Sister XiangMei will never be alone again, during the festival, there is a place to go, there is a relative to worry about.
The older sister was older than her brother, and her inner wounds were more severe, and in the sister's consciousness, her mother died, while in the mouth of the neighbors, her mother divorced and remarried.
This may be one of the reasons why they are not recognized by their fathers, men have transferred their hatred for their wives to their own children, poor two children, how afraid they were at that time.
Until now, I don't want to remember what happened that year, if it weren't for watching my brother being broken, my sister might not have let my brother go.
The sister has been wandering alone for so many years, and finally can find the feeling of her mother's home, hoping that my brother can get along with my sister and make up for the pain caused by my childhood.
Adults should not vent their anger and anger on the child, the child is innocent, and the moment you raise your hand, you can't stop.
Someone said: "Hitting a child is addictive, and the more you fight, the heavier you get." In fact, it is an adult venting their emotions, catching a child who can be controlled, and using the child as a "trash can" for emotions.
Regardless of whether the child has made a very serious mistake, no matter how the child is emotional, they just exert the inner anger and slowly develop a habit, as if addicted.
If serious harm is caused to the child's physical and mental health, the child's heart will be distorted, rebellious, runaway, hatred and so on.
Adults should understand that the forces are mutual, and the forces you exert on the child will rebound back sooner or later.