[Mei Xiaohua, a small flower that wants to write a story for you, writes true feelings and truth, tears up false feelings. 】
01
On the day Shao Jun received the divorce certificate, he was still so arrogant, while walking out of the Civil Affairs Bureau, he took a photo of the divorce certificate, and then sent a circle of friends that could be seen in groups.
The content is: "Goodbye, useless things, no matter how cheap they are, do not buy; those who do not love, no matter how lonely they are, do not depend on them." ”
A pun, useless thing, she actually alluded to Chen Chong.
After a while, various remarks appeared in the comments section:
"I don't believe in marriage anymore"
"Sorry for you, so complementary marriage, towards divorce"
"Men who take care of the family do not make money, men who make money do not care about the family, and the needle does not have two ends"
"Sister, you divorced, I still think you lost"
……
02
Could this be the seven-year itch?
Shao Jun couldn't help but think that the two had been in love for 3 years and married for 7 years, and it had come to an end.
Shao Jun himself couldn't understand how He Chen Chong could have come to such a point.
How hotly they loved at the beginning, how ironic it is now.
Shao Jun and Chen Chong are college alumni, in a literary and art evening performance, the two partnered to perform a sketch, the two belong to love at first sight, in the rehearsal process, the good feelings quickly warmed up, chatted for more than half a year to formally determine the relationship.
Shao Jun often joked that Chen Chong did not match his name at all, and he should change his name to Chen Wen, because he paid attention to stability in everything, even if he had momentum, he always worried too much and did not dare to rush.
On the contrary, she felt that when she was young and crazy, she had to dare to rush.
03
The personalities of the two laid the foundation for their employment direction after graduation.
Chen Chong took the civil service examination while practicing, but he did not expect to go ashore once, and after the results came out, he took two weeks off to participate in the interview training, and he wanted to ensure that nothing was wrong. The result was indeed as he wished, and he was successfully hired.
And Shao Jun's plan for herself is also very clear, she is a design graduate, ready to go to the advertising agency to grind for a few years, accumulate a certain amount of experience, and start her own business.
As the work got on track, they also entered the marriage and began a married life of two people in one room and three meals for four seasons.
They were married in their 3rd year of work.
She was 26 and he was 27.
After the second year of marriage, she gave birth to a daughter, a family of three, a husband who takes care of the family, a daughter who is lovely, and Shao Jun has an enviable happiness.
04
The daughter just turned one year old, she decided to start a business, Chen Chong expressed his support, let her boldly do what she wanted, he guarded the rear.
Knowing that she needed money, Chen Chong not only took out all his savings, but also collected 200,000 yuan from his parents and handed it to Shao Jun.
Chen Chong encouraged her to let her not have a psychological burden, he would take good care of the family, let her feel at ease to do what she wanted to do. Whenever she was in a dilemma, Chen Chong could always give her a reassuring pill and make her punch and kick.
Shao Jun took over the heavy bank card, secretly determined that she must not disappoint her family, and her advertising studio was opened like this, mainly doing packaging design, publicity and promotion, brand packaging, etc.
At the beginning, the business was really difficult to find, Shao Jun was both a designer and a salesman, running everywhere.
Chen Chong also worried, and he also took the initiative to understand how to expand his business. Later, there happened to be a beauty exhibition, he took Shao Jun's business card to participate in the exhibition, did not expect to really bring back Shao Jun a few customers who have the need to do packaging design.
Slowly, the studio's business had a steady stream of customers.
Shao Jun's design aesthetics are good, always able to quickly grasp the needs of the brand, so the word of mouth is also slowly getting better, coupled with online promotion, a pass ten to a hundred, the studio's reputation and fame gradually increased, the staff also from the first few people to dozens of people, before she lived alone into a team, and then the company structure is more and more perfect.
05
Shao Jun offered to let Chen Chong quit his job and join the company, and work with her to make the company bigger and stronger.
Chen Chong hesitated, but he still longed for stability, saying that his current job was relatively stable and belonged to the iron rice bowl.
Entrepreneurship is risky, at least one person in the family is stable, at least can spread some of the risk, not to put eggs in one basket.
But in Shao Jun's view, he felt that Chen Chong was satisfied with the status quo and did not want to make progress.
For this reason, the two had a big fight.
Shao Jun:
"Our company's net profit last year went to 800,000!" Wouldn't it be nice for us to work hard together to make the scale bigger? ”
"What do you mean by keeping that job and taking 180,000 a year?" Stability means that there is no room for upside, are you willing to do this for a lifetime? ”
Chen Chong is not unwilling, and he feels that his work can take care of the family, from the birth of his daughter to the daughter's kindergarten, mainly Chen Chong and his mother-in-law are taking care of it, the daughter goes to kindergarten, Chen Chong alone carries the responsibility of picking up and dropping off in the morning and evening, buying vegetables in the afternoon to go back to cooking, and accompanying the handmade storytelling at night.
And Shao Jun often returned home, and could only look at his daughter's sleeping face.
In addition to worrying about risks, he also considered his daughter, who would spend less and less time with her if both of them were to get into the studio.
06
Shao Jun looked at Chen Chong more and more unpleasantly, thinking that he was useless, made less money, and the large expenses of the family were all carried by her, and she wanted Chen Chong to join in, fight side by side with her, and make the company larger. The road was paved, and he was invited to go with him, but he was unwilling, and Shao Jun felt more and more that Chen Chong was not out.
Seeing Shao Jun's attitude, Chen Chong was also more and more helpless. At first, she thanked him for guarding the rear of the house and letting her go, but now how can she blame him for not being able to keep up with her pace, thinking that he earns less?
Although the money he paid for this family was not as good as Shao Jun's, how should he measure the energy he paid for this family?
The preventive injections that his daughter brought up from childhood to adulthood were all brought by him; the daughter had a bit of headache and brain fever, all of which he took care of after he was busy and busy; when his daughter went to kindergarten, he also dotted and picked up; at night, he played games, told stories, and slept, all of which were also him.
07
The two have their own opinions.
In the end, Shao Jun proposed to divorce him if he couldn't go on, all the property was half of one person, and the children were with me.
As a result, the two really left, but the daughter wanted her father, not with her mother.
Chen Chong said: "Daughter or let me take care of it, you are so busy, you are always not good at taking care of yourself, three meals are irregular, how to take care of your daughter." Later, don't forget to take care of yourself. Come and see your daughter when you have time. ”
Shao Jun compromised, and her daughter followed Chen Chong.
On the day of receiving the divorce certificate, Shao Jun deliberately sent a circle of friends: "Goodbye, useless things, no matter how cheap they are, they will not buy them; people who do not love, no matter how lonely they are, they are not dependent." ”
But she suddenly felt that there was no one behind her, as if she had lost the whole world.
She also didn't understand how their marriage had come to this point.
08
Shao Jun couldn't fool herself, she proposed divorce, it was a bit of a gamble, but Chen Chong agreed, maybe he was tired.
People, always after losing, think of each other's good. After the divorce, Chen Chong's various good things constantly poured into her head, taking care of the family, considerate, knowing how to take care of the children, take care of her, and take care of the elderly on both sides. It may be that without his care, Shao Jun felt that his heart was empty.
Shao Jun began to constantly recall the moments when they met and fell in love and then divorced, and she wanted to find the source of the failure of the marriage.
Before they got married, he and her work were destined not to go in the same direction, he walked steady, and she ventured.
But why did he support her with stability in her adventures, but she would accuse him of not thinking ahead and satisfying the status quo? Moreover, his contribution to this family cannot be measured in money, how could she not see it? It turned out that he had not changed, and it was she who had forgotten her original intention as she walked.
Realizing this, she began to want to make up for it.
She began to slow down, spend more time with her daughter, try to get along with Chen Chong like she would have done when she was in love, to enjoy life, to feel life.
09
Divorced for 2 years, Chen Chong was promoted, but he has not yet begun new feelings.
Shao Jun proposed to remarry, saying that it was to give her daughter a complete home, in fact, she also wanted to give herself a regret pill. This time, instead of asking him to give up his job, she understood and respected his choice.
His daughter has always been Chen Chong's weakness, and he agreed to remarry.
How fortunate Shao Jun was that the person was still waiting for her in the same place.
I hope that this time, they can firmly grasp each other's hands, do not forget their original intentions, and go to poetry and far away together.
Shao Jun said that she was fortunate, but not everyone would wait for someone in the same place, so she also hoped to use her own story to tell everyone that when they were together, they should cherish it. No one is perfect, when you enjoy a person's family care, thoughtfulness, and spend more time and mind on the family, then you should accept his shortcomings in other aspects, such as career, may not have enough momentum. Moreover, steady play is not a derogatory term.
[Mei Xiaohua, a small flower that wants to write a story for you, shares true feelings with you, and also accompanies you to see the false feelings.] Your attention is the sunshine and rain of the little flower ~ Welcome to share the story you want to tell in the comment area or private message to me Oh ~ 】