In the red dust of the world, there are some couples who think about each other in everything, and even think of leaving one day, leaving a way for each other to live, and meeting such a partner is undoubtedly the happiest.
65-year-old Xu Dongmei, there is such an old wife, although she left her, but left her a "son", hoping to do her best to let the old lady enjoy her old age in peace.
In the face of the sudden appearance of the "son", Mrs. Xu's approach is very wise, and the following is the old lady's dictation.
01
My wife and I were on a trip when he died of a sudden heart attack. His wife was an introverted and low-key person before he was born, and he repeatedly stressed that after his death, he should not work hard to make everyone known, let alone engage in any farewell ceremony of the body, cremated him, and scattered his ashes into the sea...
After completing my wife's last wish, I silently returned home, feeling like a dream, married for 43 years, our husband and wife have deep feelings, he said to accompany me, white head and old age, but he left like this. Back home, I didn't want to go out for many days, and my mind was full of pictures of a happy life with my husband all day, and I lived every day by recalling these things.
I have only one daughter, graduated from graduate school, and developed abroad with my son-in-law, and the number of times I return is extremely limited. When I called her after her wife's death to tell her about her death, my daughter couldn't go home for various reasons.
That day, I found a message on my wife's mobile phone, after my wife died, his mobile phone I have been keeping, the mobile phone has not been turned off, no power I also charged in time, I can not say clearly, why to keep his mobile phone, maybe just a thought.
I opened his mobile phone message, which showed a person named Li Tao sent over, "Dad, today is your grandson Xiaobao's 9th birthday, can you come and participate?" I drive to pick you up. ”
My husband is also surnamed Li, seeing this message, my heart sank, I always thought that my wife only loved me alone, I did not expect that he was still with others, and had a son and a grandson. My heart fluctuated, and for the first time, I seemed to feel that I had never seen through my wife.
I suddenly felt that the concern and thoughts of my wife seemed to be a joke, and the pain and sadness that I longed to accompany my wife after his death was unconsciously reduced by a lot.
I was stunned for a few minutes and replied to the other person: "Send a position, I will go by myself." ”
02
The other party sent a positioning map, I hung up the phone, the sadness in my heart has been filled with anger, it turned out that his so-called low-key, just to cover up his own disgraceful behavior, if my wife is around me, I will definitely slap him hard. I forced myself to calm down, I knew I couldn't be impulsive, I tried my best to calm my emotions, thinking about how to deal with the situation I was about to meet, especially in front of Li Tao's mother. I believe that on such an important occasion, Li Tao's mother will definitely appear.
I deliberately dressed up, put on light makeup, and found my own costume for some big events, and I had to crush the woman I had never met in momentum. To do this, I calculated the time and went to a restaurant.
Push the door into the private room, there are only three people in the private room, see me push the door in, the three people look at me in unison, I asked the man: "Are you Li Tao?" ”
Li Tao nodded slightly, "Are you an aunt?" What about my dad? ”
"He can't come up with some things." I replied casually.
"Isn't Grandpa coming?" He said he was going to give me a gift, did you bring it? "The little guy named Xiao Bao looked at me with his head tilted, and I suddenly felt that when I came, I was in a hurry, and I came empty-handed, and I was a little embarrassed to face the little boy.
Li Tao pulled Xiao Bao over, smiled apologetically at me, and said, "Xiao Bao, is this impolite to know?" Where there is the initiative to find others to ask for gifts, Grandpa promised things, will never renege on his word. ”
Xiao Bao muttered a word that only he could hear, and sat down a little unhappily. Li Tao said to me, "Auntie, you sit down first, the dish will take a while to serve." ”
I didn't sit down, and I wasn't going to sit down, because I wasn't here for the birthday party. I had to figure things out and ask, "What about your mother?" ”
Li Tao was silent for a moment, a trace of sadness appeared on his face, he sighed lightly and said: "Mother has been dead for several years, when she died, she has been thinking about her father's good, just..." Li Tao wanted to stop talking, and then said, "Auntie, today is Xiao Bao's birthday, let's not talk about these unhappy things, you sit for a while, I will go to see how the dishes are prepared." ”
Seeing that Li Tao was leaving, I looked at Xiao Bao and Li Tao's wife, who had not said a word, and said, "Can we talk alone?" ”
03
Li Tao and I came to the outside of the private room, and I was not prepared to waste time, and directly asked, "Can you tell me about my wife and your mother?" ”
Li Tao was silent for a while and told me a past story.
15 years ago, Li Tao's family suffered a disaster, almost destroying the family. His father died in vain, his mother was devastated by his father's death, and people became less sober. In order to get justice, Li Tao has been running around, suffering from no one to support him, and after a few years, his father's grievances have not been resolved.
That day Li Tao stood on the bridge and wanted to jump, but when he died, he met my wife. With the help of my wife and colleagues, Li Tao's father was finally able to show his blessings, and some people were punished as they deserved.
Because of this incident, Li Tao felt that my wife was the reborn parent of their family, so whether my wife recognized it or not, he recognized my wife as a "father". Over the years, my wife and Li Tao's family have occasional contacts, when Li Tao's mother was seriously ill, my wife also spared no effort to help him, which made Li Tao's gratitude to my wife, but also deep into the bone marrow, vowing to be dandan, in the future, my wife as a biological father to support.
"Dad once said that I have a sister in a foreign country, and I can't expect to live in the old age. Although I am not biological, but in the future he is gone, I want to be good to you. Li Tao said.
Everything I had guessed didn't happen, it was just a misunderstanding of my wife, and at that moment I was bitter in my heart, and I was a little remorseful for my impulses, but fortunately I didn't make a rash or say something hurtful.
I didn't attend Li Tao's son's birthday party or tell him about his wife's death.
For this sudden increase in son, I know that even if I accept it, it will take time. After all, for me, Li Tao is a stranger, and his family accepts the help of my wife, not me. How many years can there be under the shade?
04
This is the experience of the 62-year-old mrs. Xu Dongmei, who originally thought that she and her wife could work together for a hundred years and did not want her wife to die in the middle. I accidentally found that my wife had a son, and after meeting them, I realized that it was not my own birth, but because I recognized him because of gratitude.
The son hopes to be able to give the two old people a pension in the future, which is also the hope of the old lady's wife, after all, their only daughter is abroad. In the red dust of the world, there can be such an old wife, everything for the sake of each other, the old lady is happy. Although his wife left her, she also did her best to hope that the old lady could enjoy her old age in peace. It's just that although the wife's plan is good, the old lady's heart is like a mirror and does not recognize this layer of relationship.
Judging from the performance of this "son", there is indeed no place worthy of the old lady's trust, the wife has helped the "son" family several times, to say that this son is a grateful person, why has not visited the door for so many years? So much so that the old lady almost misunderstood her wife. If a person who knows the gratitude map, I am afraid that he would have walked into the old lady's house and recognized her as a "mother", but this is not the case.
The old lady's approach is actually rational, rather than handing over her future pension to a stranger's hands, it is better to take the initiative in her own hands. Now without telling the news of the death of the "son" wife, you can take the opportunity to test the performance of the "son" after meeting her. If it is still the same as before, this layer of relationship should not be stopped.
There are many people who know gratitude, and there are many people who do not know how to be grateful and say beautifully, for some elderly people, it is especially necessary to pay attention to some "strangers" who suddenly appear around them. The most important point is that no matter how well the other party speaks and how grandiose it is, its own property must be firmly grasped in its hands, which is the capital of the pension and the biggest dependency.
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