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Everyone will have the day of getting old, and everyone will be at risk of getting old.
When you are young, you go to society to work hard, there are certain risks. Because the jianghu is complex and people's hearts are unpredictable, maybe if you are not careful, you will fall into the trap of others.
In middle age, there are certain risks. Because there are problems in the workplace and the family is full of contradictions, middle-aged people are naturally in a helpless situation.
Later in life, the risk is often the greatest. Because people are getting old and lack the ability to make money. At this time, once there is any wind and grass in the outside world, the situation of the elderly is embarrassing.
Most people will feel that when people are old, don't they still have family members to rely on? In fact, such an idea is incorrect. Because no one can rely on it, the only one who can rely on it is himself.
For example, your wife, if he is not good to you, then what do you do? For example, your children, if they are not filial, then there is nothing you can do.
Many things in this world are not under our control. And we can only act cautiously, so as not to end up in a bad and tragic end.
02
Uncle Liu: In the old age of man, it is a tragedy after all.
Uncle Liu is 60 years old this year. Having just retired, he thought that his life in his later years was particularly beautiful, but in fact, the situation made him particularly uneasy.
Because his children were already married, he could only live in the old house with his wife, and his children rarely came to visit him. So he felt a little sad.
When it comes to Uncle Liu's children, in fact, they had a very good attitude towards Uncle Liu several years ago. Because Uncle Liu at that time had money and assets, he was respected by his children.
However, Uncle Liu himself also felt that the assets were left to his children anyway. Therefore, at the age of 57, he left most of his money to his children and directly divided the property.
After dividing up the property, Uncle Liu believed that his children would definitely be better for their parents, and believed that his children were some people who knew how to be grateful to their parents.
This kind of thinking has not become a reality after all. In the first six months of dividing up the property, the children were still very good to Uncle Liu, at least often came to visit Uncle Liu, and even spoke sweet words, which made Uncle Liu particularly happy.
03
However, people's hearts will eventually change.
When these six months have passed, the children's feelings for their parents have become weaker. Even if this year is Uncle Liu's 60th birthday, they have no expression, and even the 60th birthday party is personally organized by Uncle Liu and his wife.
For the behavior of their children, Uncle Liu and his wife have always been confused, why did their children become like this?
Slowly, Uncle Liu himself figured out that maybe it was not a problem of children, but a problem of people's hearts. Because the human heart in this world will always change with the change of the environment.
In the past, maybe they were some people who knew how to be grateful. And nowadays, perhaps they have forgotten gratitude, and they think about their lives and forget their parents.
In the past, perhaps they were all some well-known filial pieties. Nowadays, perhaps they have forgotten filial piety, but only remember their personal small family, forgetting their parents and families.
Affection seems to be thicker than water, but in fact, it is unreliable after all. It is not because people do not attach importance to family affection, but because the selfishness and indifference of human nature can never be eliminated.
Perhaps, the greatest sorrow of people in old age is that they are not prepared for these three things.
04
First of all, the sadness of people in their old age is that they are not ready to "live independently".
As long as this person is an adult, he must abandon the illusion of dependence on others and be prepared to "live independently".
Dependence, this is not to be done. The so-called "rely on everyone to run, rely on trees to fall, rely on water flow." Nothing is reliable, only oneself.
Even our children don't necessarily have the heart to take care of their parents. Because there are too few people who meet the conditions of "having a strong heart".
Some people, they have a weak heart. And some people, they are powerful and unintentional. So, how can they completely take care of their parents and let them live with peace of mind?
Secondly, the sadness of people in their old age is that they are not prepared for "money".
The ancients often said that there are real brothers who have money and wine, but how can they ever see a person in their tribulations?
Money, this is the most practical existence in the world. And people's hearts and feelings are just some things that are easy to change, they can only play the icing on the cake, and they cannot do the "bottom" for life.
Only money is the most loyal partner of people. Your lover will betray you, your children will be unfilial to you, your friends will trick you. However, your money will eventually stay with you.
Money, in addition to not being very warm, it is actually a universal existence.
05
Finally, the sadness of people in their old age is that they are not ready to "live for themselves."
We may as well ask ourselves, in the end, have we ever lived for ourselves in this life?
I believe that many people will say that they have been diligent and sincere all their lives and have never lived for themselves. This is not the sorrow of others, but the tragedy of our lives.
In this life, people only have so much time. If we always live for others, what is the meaning of our life?
In the old age, don't care too many children, don't ask for too much luxury, as long as you live well, it is enough. Especially the dreams and goals in your heart, if you can complete them, then try.
Just like some people want to travel the world, they might as well try it. Because life is short, no one knows when it will come to an end.
Living for oneself, this is the truth of living.
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