Sukhomlinsky, a well-known educational practitioner and educational theorist of the former Soviet Union, once said: "Sometimes the moral shock caused by tolerance is stronger than punishment." ”
I saw an article today and suddenly thought of an old incident from last year. At that time, I was still working in the mall, because of the company's decision, I cut a lot of counters, and my counter was one of them.
Since most of the stores were evacuated, my immediate leadership was also transferred to another company.
At that time, I was really confused about the sales industry for more than ten years.
A brand with a strong group behind it said that it withdrew, and a deep sense of panic lingered, and finally thought about it and decided to change the industry.
Just when I had already made up my mind, my direct supervisor contacted me, she went to a larger company, and the phone side sincerely hoped that I could follow the past, so in the face of panic and unknown across the line, she finally chose the old bank.
Because that company was going to change blood, I introduced another friend of mine to the past.
I was also very sincere about the interview, so I prepared enough and printed my resume, but it was also an oversight, because I printed it out with a handwritten profile, and this negligence was exchanged for a lifelong unforgettable experience.
Arriving at the interview site as scheduled that day, my boss sent a message saying that the interview leader had something to do and asked me to wait a little longer.
So my friend and I met upstairs, planning to chat while waiting, because she was different from the batch I interviewed, she was in the morning and I was in the afternoon, so she planned to wait for me after the interview, after all, she had just returned to the city and we hadn't seen a lot of confidants to talk about for a long time.
After talking for about two hours, the leader was not busy, so my friend said goodbye to me first.
The last wait was a whole afternoon, from one o'clock in the afternoon to five o'clock in the afternoon, and thus missed the time to pick up the children, but fortunately at five o'clock the leaders were busy.
The leader took the resume and threw my resume aside without saying a word, scolded me in front of many people in the mall for taking a handwritten personal information, and shouted that it was disrespectful to me to hold such a resume.
In an instant, my blood rushed straight to the door, the whole person was blindfolded, and I waited for the interview for four hours to wait for her to say a sentence of disrespect for her and a rebuke in public.
I peeked at my former boss, and seeing that she was embarrassed next to me, I left on fire.
At that time, the reason why I restrained myself was not only because of the face of my former boss, but also because many years ago I had brought a lot of new employees to another company, and sometimes I would admit that I would say a few words to others without saying a word.
This boss was just like me before, but she was even worse than me, and even she was a mentally abnormal patient in my mind.
There is also a layer that is, even if I win this quarrel of words, it is tantamount to the talk of others after dinner, and this kind of limelight is really unnecessary to fight.
In this world, the level of human character is so uneven, instead of using words to win or forcibly restrain others, it is better to keep your own bottom line.
But at that time, she was also sad in my eyes, just when she was venting her private anger with her teeth and claws, in fact, she revealed her situation, compared with such a her, even if she was deep and high, I could confidently say that I was better than her. Because the breadth of my heart makes me face the sun, to forgive others is to forgive myself.
Venting anger without moderation is likely to make things develop and direction higher than expected, and the end may be to the worst.
Among them, it is very likely that when you vent arbitrarily, your career competitors, your emotionally coveted third party, your former sincere friends, your once cherished family, etc. may break through your defenses when you are defenseless, become a sharp weapon against you to betray you, and the ultimate initiator is your unbridled bad temper.
It is also because your emotions reveal your current situation and your vulnerability, giving you all the opportunities to take advantage of your enemies.
In the end, the injustice you resent and hate will be caused by you. The adult world is real, and it is likely to collapse in an instant, because you never know when the goodwill around you has become a sword against you, perhaps when you have squandered your favor at will.
Casually venting anger, emotions can not be well controlled, you need to release emotions correctly on a daily basis. Here to remind friends with excessive emotional fluctuations, there may really be mental illnesses, such as depression and the like, may wish to find a professional or agency consultation. So how to release emotions in normal times?
1 Cleanup
Digital products such as mobile phones and computers need to be cleaned up every time they are used, otherwise even the largest memory will slow down the system with the increase of apps or operations, so what about the neglected people's hearts?
The accumulated bad emotions, like the files on the disk, are more and more, and when you want to clean up, you have no way to start, at this time you may have reached the brink of collapse.
Because you are not a digital product after all, waiting for the space in your heart to be filled with you before you plan to clean up the garbage, may really trigger the negative emotions of the psychology, so that the spirit is dragged down, the whole person will be destroyed and collapsed.
It is recommended to correctly and promptly clean up the negative emotions it brings to you every time you encounter something, and cross this threshold that makes you ugly, such as my personal experience above, the moment I decided to turn around and leave, it was cleared in my mind, if it were not for an article I may never remember.
When you encounter something you can also use your method to solve it, and then delete it, try not to take up space in your psyche, everyone's heart is too small, don't tolerate so much garbage.
With the fading of time, even if I think about it one day, it is like talking about other people's affairs, at least there is no psychological fluctuation.
If you have been entangled in one thing, you will think of one thing and another, your mood will become lower and lower, and the whole person will be very sad.
2 Release
There may be some things you think you are doing right, but you are angry, then you can use your body and words to release the transfer.
For example, a person with headphones listening to music walking in the forest, such as finding friends to a quiet place while eating and drinking while talking, such as taking a notebook to record the mood at this time, such as giving yourself a holiday to go out to relax and relax, and then such as finding a no-man's place to cry, etc. As long as you do not hurt yourself and do not harm others, a healthy catharsis and release can find a good breakthrough.
Maybe the pressure of life, the estrangement of people getting along with each other, the unhappiness of work, etc. all make you feel powerless, but some people may carry heavier mountains on their backs, but they still have a hard smile and break the predicament.