ask:
When you are very angry and can't control your emotions, there is a voice inside that tells you, "Anger can't solve the problem, this thing is to test you, is there any need you have not been met." Although the reminder of this voice eases his mood, he still gets angry. What is this mental model? What is the root of the problem?
Teacher Liu Minghui answered:
The restrictive belief that affects you is that "anger doesn't solve the problem." When you were young because your parents told you "you can't be angry, that's not right," but there are some things you're really angry about. At this time, on the one hand, you are angry, on the other hand, you feel that you are not right, so this tangled energy is suppressed by you in the center of the energy field. So when you get angry again, you feel uncomfortable, and at the same time, the belief that "anger can't solve the problem" reappears, and you keep reinforcing it and falling into a vicious circle. You know, the more confrontational you are, the stronger the other person will be. So as long as your model doesn't change, and your ideas and practices don't change, you can't cure it. How can it be cured? Anger comes, you no longer deliberately suppress it, accept this state in your heart, perceive it, be with it. Because anger wants to express itself, it wants to tell you "I'm here, please look at me". And you keep resisting, saying, "I can't be angry, being angry won't solve the problem." So when you can really be with anger, it gets what it wants, and after a few minutes it leaves, and in this way there is no suppressed resistance, and the mind will soon gain peace. If anger turns into anger, it means that the brain has begun to make up stories related to this, triggering a reaction from the body. At this time, anger has made you unable to stop making up stories, if you do not deal with it, it will become violent tendencies, may want to drop things, and seriously want to hit people. At this time, you have to find an object, "responsibly" to send out the anger, please note that I am saying "responsible", not that you go to the person who makes you angry, beat him up, that is not advisable, hurt yourself and hurt others.
Go back to your room, in an intimate space, if you're in the bedroom, you can imagine that the person who makes you angry is the pillow in front of you, or you can even find a rag doll to put in front of you and release anger at it. Say all the words in your head, like "I hate you, how can you make me angry?" Give it all the stories you make up in your head. After pouring, the brain is gone. After two or three minutes, you start laughing, what am I doing here? It's boring, it's ridiculous. At this point you have successfully released your anger and can end it. OK, this problem has been solved. After dealing with it in this way, you will find that you will encounter the same kind of problem again, and you will not be angry. Of course, if you need to, you can continue to deal with it once or twice, two or three times. It doesn't matter, just deal with it this way.
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A simple process of emotional transformation: Accept that emotions --- and emotions are --- when emotions are flooded, and responsibly send them out.
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