I guess there must be such a category of people around you:
They are very good at hiding behind the crowd, if they want to achieve a certain will, they will not come forward personally, but will induce or encourage people with the same demands, let others be the head bird for themselves to achieve the goal.
They are very good at using their strength, to put it bluntly, they can use others as guns.
In particular, the "gun on others" I mentioned here is not meant to be praised or derogatory, but is only for the convenience of everyone's understanding.
Borrowing strength can also be understood as "borrowing a knife to kill people", the so-called "enemy is clear, friends are undecided, lead friends to kill the enemy, do not contribute to themselves." ”
The operation of interpersonal relationships, especially in the workplace, is very much in need of this ability to borrow strength.
Why borrow power?
There are three reasons for this:
First, the problem arises, but it is inconvenient to come forward on your own, or it is not very good to solve the problem by facing the problem by yourself, but it can be solved more beautifully by borrowing the hand of others.
To give an example of a queen:
Nian Qianyao made great military merit in the former dynasty, and Concubine Hua also followed in the harem. Both the empress dowager and the emperor had to rely on Nian Tangyao, and the empress dowager certainly could not directly reprimand and suppress Concubine Hua.
Concubine Hua was too arrogant to take the empress in her eyes at all, and the queen could not suppress her at all, let alone suppress her.
In this situation, Zhen Huan, as a favored rising star, naturally became the object of the empress's borrowing. When the empress dowager summoned the harem concubines, she called Zhen Huan out of the line in public and spoke to her cordially.
And praised Zhen Huan for being sensible: "Very good, indeed very sensible, no wonder the emperor likes you, the mourning family also likes." ”
When the empress dowager said this, the camera gave HuaFei, and Huafei's expression was very subtle, because the empress dowager's praise for Zhen Huan's "understanding" was to allude to her ignorance.
The empress dowager praised Zhen Huan and specially rewarded her with two yunjin.
So many concubines are there, and only Zhen Huan is rewarded alone, is this not obviously making enemies for Zhen Huan? This not only provoked the hostility between other concubines and Zhen Huan, but more importantly, stimulated HuaFei's desire to compete.
Especially in the end, when the empress dowager asked Zhen Huan to accompany her at Shoukang Palace and copy the scriptures for her, Princess Hua's hostility towards Zhen Huan was already full.
In this way, Concubine Hua and Zhen Huan fought and weakened each other, and the empress dowager and the empress sat on the benefits of the fisherman.
Second, their own combat strength is weak, and it is too difficult to achieve the goal on their own, so they use those who are strong to achieve the goal.
This most typical case is DuanFei, from the overthrow of Concubine Hua to the overthrow of the empress, Duanfei has never taken the shot herself, although she plays the role of a military master of Zhen Huan's team, she quietly induces Zhen Huan and Jingfei and others to charge into the battlefield and achieve her goal.
Regarding how Duanfei specifically operates, I have written a detailed analysis before, and I will not repeat it here. (Click to review: How did DuanFei quietly induce Zhen Huan and Jingfei to do things for her?) ）
Third, the problem has emerged, not only is it inconvenient for them to come forward to solve it directly, but also their combat strength is still very weak and they cannot be tough.
The representative character is Yu Zecheng in "Latent", because he is in a state of lurking and cannot expose himself, so he almost relies on the strength of the whole play.
Compared with the empress dowager and concubine Duan in "The Biography of Zhen Huan", Yu Zecheng's situation of borrowing force is more complicated and challenging.
Take Yu Zecheng's removal of Ma Kui as an example.
Yu Zecheng realized that Ma Kui was a huge threat, so he immediately made up his mind to get rid of him, also to avenge his master Lü Zongfang.
First of all, the object of his borrowing is complex.
First of all, we must borrow the power of Zuo Lan to create the mistakes and handles on Ma Kui's body.
At the same time, he also used the opposition of workplace interests to provoke Luqiaoshan's hostility towards Ma Kui.
Then let Lu Qiaoshan act as a cover for himself, creating an opportunity for LuQiaoshan to catch the mistakes and handles he had set for Ma Kui in advance.
The matter is not over at this point, because if you want to put Ma Kui to death, you must also win the supreme leader Wu Station Commander into the camp that is hostile to Ma Kui.
Therefore, he informed Wu Station Manager, and Ma Kui took advantage of Wu Station Manager's absence to peek at his secret documents, and then disguisedly revealed that Ma Kui was investigating Wu Station Manager's corruption behind his back.
At this point, Yu Zecheng's planning is over, and the rest of the things Lu Qiaoshan and Wu Station Master will definitely be completed. Because Ma Kui has become the person that Both Lu Qiaoshan and Wu Station Commander want to get rid of.
Looking back at Yu Zecheng's operational thinking, we will find that he is a typical process thinking, especially compared to the linear thinking of Lu Qiaoshan and Ma Kui.
The so-called linear thinking is direct conflict and collision, is a single fight, from action to result, such as Lu Qiaoshan thinks that Ma Kui is a villain, he will take the initiative to expose and report him.
Process thinking is to consider the overall situation, take into account every variable and multiple factors, arrange the array, and create opportunities and more possibilities.
Just like Yu Zecheng, when a problem arises, there is no need to face the problem head-on, as long as you find the opposite or restrictive force that can restrain the problem itself. To put it bluntly, it is to create an enemy for the enemy. This is also what people often say, "in the midst of strategizing, winning thousands of miles away".
Finally, compared to the empress dowager in Zhen Huan's biography, which is managed downwards, Duan Concubine is borrowed by the same rank, and Yu Zecheng is borrowed by force, and another difficulty is that he is managed upwards. Between him and Lu Qiaoshan, Ma Kui, and Wu Station Chief, he was the worst in power and strength.
However, Yu Zecheng is very intelligent, not only has a process thinking, but more importantly, he has strong insight, understands human nature, and understands the relationship between people and people according to the situation.
This is also the reason why Duanfei Neng can pass through the flowers and the leaves do not stick to the body.
Because you are good at borrowing power, you know how to hide yourself and be a booster, not a stormtrooper, a builder, not an executor.
In the workplace, the straight-line mode of going it alone will be very bad, and those who are smart and have high emotional intelligence will never put it in a single-handed state, they will stand in the overall or global perspective, and find friends or allies in time to overcome the difficulties.
They will constantly look for the power they can borrow, whether it is long-term dependence or temporary borrowing, they will find and use it. As a result, their workplace relationships are very flexible, there is no black and white intimacy, they are good at cooperating, identifying opportunities and creating opportunities.