Why is it that emotions that occur too quickly are easy to be fleeting? We can see that many lovers use too much force on each other in the beginning, and finally they don't get away. You can also see that many lovers are ignorant at the beginning, thin water and long streams, and finally become dependents.
In fact, people's feelings are like this, the more they see the people they like, the more nervous they are, or with a sense of panic. When you see each other, you will be nervous inside, you will be easy to be helpless, and even have a feeling of embarrassment. Worry that you are not good enough, worry that you are not beautiful or handsome enough, worry that you are not worthy of each other.
All kinds of worries followed, and at this time, they became hesitant. Even think about how to develop a long-term relationship with each other, and finally embark on the palace of marriage. This is a human need, but also a human nature.
For those fast-food love, we will find that the other party is not very appreciative, and even feel that the relationship will occur, and finally the two people do not know what to talk about? I don't know how the relationship between two people should be managed? In this way, each other is consuming each other, and finally the relationship between the two people is over.
In ancient times, letters were very slow, carriages and horses were very slow, and it took a while to know each other's information and intentions. In today's fast-paced social life, if you want to understand each other's information and intentions, you can know it with a phone call or a video. Relationships connect quickly, and the maintenance of a relationship requires sincere dedication and dedication from each other.
Fast-paced feelings, when each other are completely dependent on the development trend of hormones, they will then disappear with the disappearance of hormones. There will be no intimacy and commitment to each other. The occurrence and development of a relationship requires a process. Just like the boiled water we drink, it will not be boiled water at a little fire, but a process of gradual heating and accumulation, gradually heating up from 0 degrees to 100 degrees.
Then the same is true of feelings, some feelings may start at the beginning of the freezing point, is below zero. But there is no relationship, as long as each other is enthusiastic, then each other will accumulate with a little bit of time, and it will gradually heat up. In the process of heating up, the heat of two people will increase, the temperature of each other will become hotter and hotter, and the intimacy will increase.
Good feelings are the process of boiling water. If you pour water directly into a large stove, it may evaporate quickly. After all, the temperature of the furnace is too high, and if it is too high, it will melt.
In the absence of external conditions, the first step in boiling water is to find the branches, and through the accumulation of the branches, they are gathered together. Then start lighting the boiling water. But sometimes it is found that these branches are not dry, it is more difficult to light, and you need to wait for these branches to dry.
The same is true of our feelings, in the very beginning, the two people themselves do not intersect, it is the wet branches. With the continuous interaction of two people, two people continue to understand each other, two people go to experience some stories together, then the relationship between each other will be improved, at this time it is like the branches of the tree become dry emotionally, and it will burn up after a little fire.
In fact, the truth is plain, it will be understood, but whether it can understand the essence behind the truth requires some understanding. Why are some people feeling better and better and some people's feelings getting worse? Is it in this relationship, have you grown, and can you find some shortcomings in digging yourself? No one is perfect, and on the road to growth, we are all students.
In school, there is no such emotional class, and most of the time it is just a self-taught self-teaching.