From the fear of the baby to the super daddy, this man's counterattack is handsome

I saw the sea at an appointment time, and I was in line with the impression of hearing the voice on the phone, polite and disciplined, and after greeting each other, I opened the topic in a quiet corner of the café.

The sea is also a member of the army of the Thousand North Drifters, even an ordinary member. He said that after graduation, he briefly worked in the graduating city for a year, and the first stable and boring job in the public institution made him unable to find the vitality and enthusiasm that young people should have, but instead saw what it would look like when he retired, so he turned to Beijing to find his "should live out".

When the sea came to Beijing, it happened to be the first anniversary of the Wenchuan earthquake. He said that the Wenchuan earthquake, fortunately not in the epicenter, survived in the world and seen suffering, but also considered that life is open-minded, should go to break through, "the things of the world, in addition to life and death, other are small problems."

However, with such an open-minded attitude, the sea of north drift encountered a series of great changes in the family, and relatives died one after another, and the girlfriend who was originally in love also chose to leave at this time.

The sea said that the double blow of affection and love once made his heart suffocate in his chest like he was about to burst, wanting to cry, crying but not making a sound; only tears surged out, and sadness and indignation. After a short period of grief, he quickly perked up and encouraged himself that "the misery of life is nothing more than that." Bei drift's determination did not waver, and after the family affairs were stable, he packed his bags and borrowed 4,000 yuan from his classmates to break into the imperial capital alone. This was more than 10 years ago.

This little episode was asked by me in my chat with the sea. Because I was curious what made him so unwanted with children. The sea simply talked about his family situation, and also said with great empathy that if he had a daughter, he would not agree with his daughter marrying a poor egg with nothing. Children who come out of poor rural areas are abandoned by others, and there is nothing to be ashamed of, and if they are devastated and abandon themselves because of this, it is a shameful thing to be thrown into the middle of no medicine. So for so many years, the sea did not hate her, but did not want to forgive her. Just don't hate, don't forgive, even if they have met, they will remain restrained like the first time they meet a stranger.

However, from that breakup to the sea marriage, there was a long 8 years in between.

"It's just a solid job." I am not surprised that the sea expresses making money in terms of solid work. From the conversation, I felt that he was a big boy with a duty, who did not show an overly clever mind, but had some serious and down-to-earth strength. Serious people always pay off. The sea has always been a reliable person in the eyes of the company's leaders, and with the growth of the year, the income of the sea is also growing steadily, and it is also about to break through the middle-income class to the stage of high income.

Haven't you met the right girl again? The sea said that there are also acquaintances, but alone in the north drift, time has been given to the work, the original work pressure is relatively large, resulting in the pace of life is also very fast. In addition, I feel that my wealth accumulation is far from enough to support a decent Beijing family life. Therefore, for a long time, I have not had the confidence to find love, so I simply held the attitude that fate can not be sought.

Including the current wife, in fact, when they were first together, the sea still spent most of their time on work. Until one time, the sea had a fever, and he thought it was just a common cold, who knew that the more the fever was worse, the fever drugs were ineffective, the antibiotics were ineffective; at that time, the two were separated from their girlfriends in two urban areas, the two did not see each other every day, and the girlfriend once came to work, saw him look like he was about to be unconscious, and then took the trouble to send him to the hospital emergency department. Pneumonia, the entire left lung is diffuse, and the same is true of two-thirds of the right lung. The girlfriend took care of her wholeheartedly for more than half a month and finally recovered. The sea said that the touch was particularly big, living alone in a city, and when encountering difficulties, I especially wanted to have someone around me. It was also the fever that accelerated the process of the two people's love.

But after getting married, the sea didn't want children.

Maybe it's because my experience is full of too much pain and I feel that I can't raise a child.

However, how this process has changed is due to the daughter-in-law of the sea.

This process is expressed in the words of the sea itself, and it is the wife who is a person with a human touch and a positive attitude towards life, which subtly transforms the sea.

The wife's working hours are fixed, and she works overtime at every turn, so as soon as the sea is busy with work, she goes home and spends the rest of her time on raising children. Get up early in the morning to brew milk powder, and prepare the child's lunch before going to work in the morning, so that the elderly in the family are particularly convenient to feed the child when they take the child alone at noon. In the afternoon, the sea is busy with the work at hand, and will immediately go home, take over the elderly, and take the children to play. To cultivate children's reading hobbies and abilities from an early age, in such a fast-paced and competitive international metropolis as Beijing, a person must be full of the ability to actively learn, the sea thinks. When it comes to dinner, it is generally the sea that makes the child's dinner, or feeds the child first, or the wife returns home from work normally, and everyone eats dinner together.

The sea said that the work is full of challenges and pressures, but no matter how much work is tired, the moment he comes home and sees the child's smiling face, all the troubles disappear in an instant, and he only wants to do something for his wife and children and for this family.

Finally, the sea showed me photos and videos of their babies, a cute and lively boy, who laughed and laughed a lot like the sea.