Baby Helmets: Don't hurt in the name of love

Recently, the baby head "correction" helmet rushed to the hot search, parents superstitious flat head not only damage the appearance but also affect the fallacy of brain capacity, at the expense of investing tens of thousands of yuan to the swaddling baby to wear a half-pound helmet throughout the day. Contrary to wishes, the light is ineffective, and the heavy is disabled. In the 1990s, the popular pen grip index finger correction and low back spine correction as the starting point, the merchant grasped the weakness of human nature in the love of face, directly hit the pain point of "parental love but do not know how to love children more", and launched pseudoscience products in the name of love to harvest a stubble IQ tax.

"If you love you, you will give you the best." I believe that every parent who wears a helmet to his own flesh and blood is love, and they all think that it is for the good of their children. In the maternal and infant parenting community, the merchants are pervasively precision marketing, the pseudo-scientific concept continues to penetrate into the parents, under the wrapping of love and face, the achievement of the merchant's orders, hurt the parents' money, and mutilate the child's brain.

For decades, the same routine has been cloaked in different products and harvested the money bags of parents from the post-50s to the post-90s, the root of which is that the idea of "no one can be bitter children" is deeply rooted in the hearts of the people; the other is that no university has taught everyone how to be a parent and how to express love. The material abundance is great, and the average number of children per household is decreasing, traditional parenting is no longer fully applicable, and new experiences have yet to be perfected.

In fact, the baby's flat head does not affect the brain volume and will not have hydrocephalus, and parents will hurt if they wear a helmet. Love needs to be learned, and loving a child is not only a simple material satisfaction, a spiritual care and care, but respect, respecting the child as a person with an independent personality, not as an appendage of any person or thing. Infants and young children also have their own human dignity, when parents put on the baby helmet, the painful expression is to express rejection, can not be mistaken for approval because of the inability to resist, even parents, can not interfere in the life of their children, invade the privacy of their children.

The emotions of parents raising children and the independent personality of people from birth should not be confused, and moral kidnapping should not be carried out in the name of love, let alone in the stage of the development of children's behavioral ability, parents due to imperfect knowledge structure or poor cognition, resulting in wrong behavior, and then cause irreversible harm to children, this kind of harm in the name of love is more heart-wrenching than the injury itself. Everyone exists as an individual with an independent personality, and there must be a sense of boundaries in getting along, and any stage should be respected, and cannot be treated differently because of differences in behavioral ability. Parents' cognitive ability to love needs to be improved, the way to express love should be optimized, the goodwill that is perceived and understood is love, do not let "for your own good" become a fig leaf to cover up selfish desires.

Article/Guangzhou Daily commentator Li Ji

Photo/ Guangzhou Daily photojournalist Mo Weinong

Guangzhou Daily New Flower City Editor Hu Jun