Being a confidant is better than being a lover
From confidant to lover, from knowing each other to loving each other, to sex, this is the development of feelings, the spread of human nature, it is natural, but it is not inevitable. When you fall in love with someone and he loves you, and you can't come together and become partners, it's better to be a confidant than a lover. Because lovers are too sensitive to each other, because they are too close to each other and easy to lose their hazy beauty, while friends mean tolerance, making each other feel relaxed and happy; lovers mean tears, and friends bring you a warm sunshine; lovers' roles, although like spring flowers, bloom gorgeously but disappear quickly; when you fall in love with a person, it is best to stay away from the role of lovers, although it will make you happy, but it will make you bear a lifetime of heartache.
I have always believed that there is a pure feeling between men and women, that they know each other's minds, that each has a good binding force, that they understand that they are confidants, that if they are confidants, they can only be friends, and friends cannot cross the chasm. When they become friends, they see each other as a fortune. They are relaxed and natural, they will think of each other when they are happy and upset, they will appreciate each other's thoughts, they will recall each other's smiles and charms, they will work actively because of each other's encouragement, and they are willing to become friends forever.
Being friends with the opposite sex is painful, you are your own, you and he may have a feeling, but this feeling will not make you lose yourself, they all have their own lives, they will not ask too much of each other, and they will not sleep for each other day and night, but they will share each other's happiness and share each other's pain.
Once two people become lovers, they no longer feel relaxed and transparent, and there is an inexplicable responsibility between two people, and they will naturally make many demands on each other, perhaps this kind of demand is normal, but when they cannot satisfy each other, they will fall into the vortex of emotions and cannot extricate themselves, and the role of the lover will produce an insecurity because of the inability to see the day, and even lose themselves in the loss of gain. Lovers are the ones who cannot stand the test of time and will be swept away by time at any time. What pair of lovers in the world can do a lifetime without complaint or regret?
Some people may say: do not care about the longevity of the day, only care about what they once had; perhaps they think that this memory is very good, but in fact, it is this memory that inadvertently stains the originally stable life with a disgraceful atmosphere, so that their lives are shrouded in shadows, and they want to get rid of but cannot escape; it will make them carry heavy shackles from now on, and they will feel that they are betrayed to their families, their spouses, and their children; they may think that the memory is a happiness, but they are wrong. His smile can't precipitate the extreme sadness in your heart at this time.
So if I had to choose between a confidant and a lover, I'd rather choose to be a confidant. Being a confidant is better than being a lover.